newwave Posted April 25, 2010 Share Posted April 25, 2010 I see so many stereotypes of those who are 35+ and never married. People older are told to lower their standards, that people past a certain age never married must be losers, unable to get in relationships, etc. It's disturbing that people still have these stereotypes because people didn't make bad choices in marriage and are divorced. Personally, I've met more bitter divorced guys than I did never married guys. Contrary to popular belief, I've met many older guys who did want to marry. In fact I know an older guy who never married until about 50. He saw no reason to before then. I find it funny that many of the guys with divorces call single men names yet when they've posted their stories often there's a psycho exwife. Then they wonder why single women like me avoid them in droves. I am 39 and never married. Why am I still single? For one, until a few years ago I never wanted marriage. Now I like the idea but if it never happens there's nothing I can do about it. Second, I didn't meet a guy I really wanted to marry. Many either wanted sex or our views were vastly different (met many chauvinist guys). Third, I was obsessed with my career. None of these makes me a bad choice for a mate. Will I marry? I hope so, but if I don't there's much I can do if it never happens. I just think that some people think older singles are damaged and would rather date divorced. I see this stigma a lot with older men, saying that guys who never married must have issues. Sure, some did and recovered. Others did and are damaged but the same can be said of a guy with a terrible divorce. Maybe these older people have careers or previously didn't want to marry but do now. Maybe they never met the right one. Many different options and it's not fair to say older singles are worse than divorced people. Link to comment
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