rocio Posted June 7, 2009 Share Posted June 7, 2009 The girl that I currently am interested in is someone that's got some extra pounds on her - enough to make her cute and cuddly, but not repulsive. Guys I've spoken to about this say that she's not attractive - I can guess it's due to her weight because she's got a lovely face and a real striking smile. I think that she's absolutely adorable. However, what other guys have said really does make me kinda think - that sounds horrible, but I'm just being honest. Thanks for your honesty. At least you're self-aware enough to recognize that this is influencing you. I don't think most people realize the extent to which their attraction is influenced by friends and environment. Link to comment
shy2cool Posted June 7, 2009 Share Posted June 7, 2009 Thanks for your honesty. At least you're self-aware enough to recognize that this is influencing you. I don't think most people realize the extent to which their attraction is influenced by friends and environment. Yes, and I honestly don't know what to do. The more I see her, the more attractive she appears to me. Link to comment
hers Posted June 7, 2009 Share Posted June 7, 2009 Yes, and I honestly don't know what to do. The more I see her, the more attractive she appears to me. So be true to yourself and don't let yourself be influenced by others. If anyone starts dogging on her b/c of her looks, stick up for her. Link to comment
g84 Posted June 7, 2009 Share Posted June 7, 2009 Yes, and I honestly don't know what to do. The more I see her, the more attractive she appears to me. If she is attractive to you and you like being with her, don't let what anyone else says get in your way. It's your life. I agree with hersmudders too, if you hear your friends saying something, tell them in a calm manner that you don't appreciate it and it's disrespectful. Link to comment
hers Posted June 7, 2009 Share Posted June 7, 2009 If she is attractive to you and you like being with her, don't let what anyone else says get in your way. It's your life. I agree with hersmudders too, if you hear your friends saying something, tell them in a calm manner that you don't appreciate it and it's disrespectful. It means a lot to me when guys stick up for me if anyone is bad-mouthing me. I had a boyfriend one time whose best friend told him I was "swimming the river", which in their macho guy talk meant I was really close to drowning in my own ugliness. My boyfriend at the time just laughed. Didn't tell his friend that was mean, that he disagreed, nothing. Needless to say, that relationship didn't last long. If a guy can't stick up for me, then he's not worth my time. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted June 7, 2009 Share Posted June 7, 2009 It means a lot to me when guys stick up for me if anyone is bad-mouthing me. I had a boyfriend one time whose best friend told him I was "swimming the river", which in their macho guy talk meant I was really close to drowning in my own ugliness. My boyfriend at the time just laughed. Didn't tell his friend that was mean, that he disagreed, nothing. Needless to say, that relationship didn't last long. If a guy can't stick up for me, then he's not worth my time. Jesus. That's cruel. Makes me upset even reading it. Totally agree on the importance of sticking up for the person, it can show a lot and we women tend to notice these things. Hell, we watch for them. Good luck with the gal, shy2cool. Link to comment
g84 Posted June 7, 2009 Share Posted June 7, 2009 It means a lot to me when guys stick up for me if anyone is bad-mouthing me. I had a boyfriend one time whose best friend told him I was "swimming the river", which in their macho guy talk meant I was really close to drowning in my own ugliness. My boyfriend at the time just laughed. Didn't tell his friend that was mean, that he disagreed, nothing. Needless to say, that relationship didn't last long. If a guy can't stick up for me, then he's not worth my time. That's horrible : ( i agree with you, it's very important to be able to speak up/stand up. Link to comment
servedcold Posted June 7, 2009 Share Posted June 7, 2009 There are lots of advantages for a man with a beautiful woman, not just vanity. As backwards as it seems, people treat men with beautiful women better at work, out, basically anywhere. It can be a hard qualifier to resist when picking a GF among several options, and if honest, most men, like most women, will admit that they want the total package, beauty, brains and personality, at least to some degree. Link to comment
Creative Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 I need to make some distinctions here. I think only Knotty mentioned that he prefers woman that is a little chubbier. Shy2cool is like I said, he is attracted to a girl who happens to be chubby already, then he thinks about the girl's image. I'm not trying to sway anyone, but I don't want girls who are overweight to think that guys want chubby girls in the same porportion as guys who want skinny girls. In fact, the chance is much lower. The good side to the story is that they'll be much less likely to be approached by guys with bad intent since they only prey for the skinny ones. North American is dangerously fat, and it's never a good idea to ever say "It's okay the way you are". There's short term relief and confidence boost, but the whole idea of needing to feel complacent about it is wrong. Don't problem solve that way. I don't have strong opinion. It's going in a wrong direction. Link to comment
DaBladeRoden Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 What if the girl promises she will lose the weight? Link to comment
Knotty Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 I think only Knotty mentioned that he prefers woman that is a little chubbier. I'm not sure that I said I prefer chubbier women. I just said I find some slightly bigger girls attractive, ones that other guys don't like at all. That could be because I'm taller and more muscular than most guys. At 210 pounds I still feel much bigger than a woman that is 150 pounds, while a 170 pound guy may not feel the same way. Link to comment
Creative Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 I'm not sure that I said I prefer chubbier women. I just said I find some slightly bigger girls attractive, ones that other guys don't like at all. That could be because I'm taller and more muscular than most guys. At 210 pounds I still feel much bigger than a woman that is 150 pounds, while a 170 pound guy may not feel the same way. Yeah, I just don't want the overweight girls to think there are other reasons they're not approached other than the fact that guys are just not physically attracted. It's good you cleared things up also. Link to comment
IphigeniaSaysHi Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 I think he's just saying if a guy doesn't approach an overweight woman, he likely just isn't into her body/appearance as opposed to some other mysterious motive. The same would go for a guy passing on a girl with a flat chest or whatever else. Link to comment
hers Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 I think he's just saying if a guy doesn't approach an overweight woman, he likely just isn't into her body/appearance as opposed to some other mysterious motive. The same would go for a guy passing on a girl with a flat chest or whatever else. oh ok, i think just the way it was worded was confusing to me. Link to comment
Pegasus Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 If overweight women were generally as attractive as slender ones there wouldn't be a situation where men who can get any women they want (powerful people / famous people) and are aware of it - would date only slender women. Just look at women dated by best actors, richest men, best sportsmen, most powerful leaders, etc, etc...none of them is fat. People who can't choose that much date what they can get (or what they think they can get). Link to comment
IphigeniaSaysHi Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 Pierce Brosnan's wife is overweight. He's considered quite the sex symbol Loves her. Link to comment
hers Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 As a chubby girl myself, I refuse to settle and "take what I can get". You make bigger people sound desperate and unworthy. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 What I would do for Oprah Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 chubby can be very sexy.. but i like it when its in all the right places and shes got a great attidue about it... some of the best sex ive had have been with what some might say is chubby... Link to comment
IphigeniaSaysHi Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 It all boils down to two things: personal preference and confidence. I'd say most men don't like heavy women, but confidence definitely helps. And there are plenty of men who like heavy women, so if you're happy you're all set. Link to comment
hers Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 chubby can be very sexy.. but i like it when its in all the right places and shes got a great attidue about it... some of the best sex ive had have been with what some might say is chubby... Thank you for thsi. It's not like big girls are diseased and you're goin to catch fat from us. I consider myself thick while others will say chubby. I think I'm proportionate with all of my "fat" pretty evened otu, though most of it lies in my thighs. Why is someone in my same position, according to some guys on here, unworthy of love from a guy who isn't with me b/c he pities me or b/c he couldn't get anyone better? Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 I dated a girl... who looked 99% like this girl, face, hair and body... i believe she was a size 10 dress.. i thought she was sexy and fun... the second pic like the on the left.... Link to comment
hers Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 She's really cute. I wouldn't say she's chubby at all! She's very attractive and seems like any weight that she has, she carries it well. Link to comment
HealingHandsWarmHeart Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 thats just SICK if you think she is a chubby girl- she is normal weight!!!!! i find this so disturbing. are woman/girls not suppose to have any fat on them.. none zip zilch???? Link to comment
IphigeniaSaysHi Posted June 8, 2009 Share Posted June 8, 2009 If I am not mistaken, that girl is the Plus Size Miss England? You said that wasn't the girl you dated, but looked like her. I think that is a British model. There was an uproar about her winning, people were calling her all sorts of names for her weight. I think I am mistaken, this is her. But still... image removed Link to comment
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