velvette Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 I meant professional because they can offer sexual techniques I wouldn't even know of. perhaps we can learn a thing or two from them. I wouldn't be OK with friends or acquaintances, random people who aren't really good at sex. we don't have an open relationship actually. and we probably won't. but I personally don't mind, and I know there are people who practice open relationships with health and success. I have not loopholed what faithful is or isn't, I am just defining it for what it really is. just because a blowjob is cheating in your mind doesn't mean it is, or should be, in everyone else's. Link to comment
Zeitgeist Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 I've recently found out that some guys (small percentage I'd hope) don't consider getting a blow-job from another girl (while in a relationship) cheating. To me that seems like a warped, sick-in-the-head idea. Of course that's cheating! Does anyone have any idea why these guys would have this opinion?The only ones who say this are the ones who got caught. Link to comment
Rose21 Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 Any act of intimacy, even flirting or sharing deep emotions with another OS other then your partner is cheating. If you wouldn't want to tell your partner about it, or it would bother you if someone would do that to you, it's cheating. My boyfriend and I feel very strongly about this. Even if I was fantasizing about guys and I told him this, even if nothing physical happened, he would still feel betrayed and seriously question the relationship. To alot of people, thinking or "looking" is perfectly normal, as long as you don't act on it. But to us, even thinking hard on the subject is one step away from cheating. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 I've recently found out that some guys (small percentage I'd hope) don't consider getting a blow-job from another girl (while in a relationship) cheating. To me that seems like a warped, sick-in-the-head idea. Of course that's cheating! Does anyone have any idea why these guys would have this opinion? to ease their conscience Link to comment
JeckyllNHyde Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 I've recently found out that some guys (small percentage I'd hope) don't consider getting a blow-job from another girl (while in a relationship) cheating. To me that seems like a warped, sick-in-the-head idea. Of course that's cheating! Does anyone have any idea why these guys would have this opinion? What about the idea that being in another country and hooking up isn't cheating? My guy friend told me I should just cheat b/c anyways "nobody will find out". It's the principle of it all!! And whatever happened to staying faithfull.. Maybe they got the idea from American Pie? (Stifler) Lol. Link to comment
coyote1980 Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 if getting a blowjob isn't cheating. might as well expose it to the world, so we can all share the private parts with each other. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 eating isn't cheating---i heard that Link to comment
coyote1980 Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 What about the idea that being in another country and hooking up isn't cheating? that only applies in las vegas. Link to comment
littlestar Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 I've recently found out that some guys (small percentage I'd hope) don't consider getting a blow-job from another girl (while in a relationship) cheating. To me that seems like a warped, sick-in-the-head idea. Of course that's cheating! Does anyone have any idea why these guys would have this opinion? It's unfortunate but some men do think this way. I've come accross a few of them myself. One man once told me that if he had a one night stand or had sex with a hooker that also wasnt considered cheating as there are no feelings involved. Absolutely crazy!!! Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 I've recently found out that some guys (small percentage I'd hope) don't consider getting a blow-job from another girl (while in a relationship) cheating. To me that seems like a warped, sick-in-the-head idea. Of course that's cheating! Does anyone have any idea why these guys would have this opinion? It's a lame excuse to get some head and try to convince the world they didn't do anything wrong. They know it's wrong. I would never date someone with this mentality. Link to comment
JeckyllNHyde Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 It's a lame excuse to get some head and try to convince the world they didn't do anything wrong. They know it's wrong. I would never date someone with this mentality. I think that's the key: just don't date these guys. Thank god not all guys are this way and there are ones who believe in staying faithfull 100% (girls too). Besides, it's a good way to weed out th losers... just ask them what they consider cheating lol. Link to comment
waveseer Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 I heard that bj's were only cheating if he enjoyed it. lol j/k I would never try to limit the behavior of my so. This actually happened to me in my marriage and it really surprised me that I didn't care that much. That fact alone was a BIG RED FLAG! If your spouse no longer cares who you have sex with they are probably not too interested in being married to you any longer. Link to comment
Rabican Posted May 29, 2009 Share Posted May 29, 2009 Yeah... and robbing a bank isnt stealing. At least not according to me if I ever need money and decide to rob a bank. What a load of crap... any guy that tells you that is either full of it, a complete tool, or just toying with you to get a reaction. No honest, normal person would, or could think such a thing. Link to comment
Rabican Posted May 29, 2009 Share Posted May 29, 2009 It's unfortunate but some men do think this way. I've come accross a few of them myself. One man once told me that if he had a one night stand or had sex with a hooker that also wasnt considered cheating as there are no feelings involved. Absolutely crazy!!! I dont think they guy who said that truly believed it. He may have wanted you to believe that he believed it... but thats just insanity. Unless he was so unhinged that he couldnt work, feed himself, pay bills, he wears socks on his head etc. then he didnt really believe that. Link to comment
SamiJayne Posted May 29, 2009 Share Posted May 29, 2009 My ex used to think that if I kissed another girl it wasn't cheating, yet if i kissed a boy it was. Very odd. Link to comment
Casey13 Posted May 29, 2009 Share Posted May 29, 2009 Try telling that same guy who shares that opinion that his girlfriend didn't cheat on him because a guy in the club took her home and only went down on her. Guaranteed he would have a wake up call and if not then he can consider his relationship and open relationship. Most of these guys are hypocrites, justify their excuse for cheating but wouldnt find it acceptable if some other dude went down on his girl Link to comment
def-from-above Posted July 22, 2010 Share Posted July 22, 2010 (sorry, didn't realise those words were considered swearing, if i may i will rephrase it) Receiving oral sex is not the same for men as it is for women. Say a single woman is in a club. A guy, not particularly attractive, say a 4/10 comes up to her and asks if he could give her oral sex, would she let him? almost certainly not. Now, a single man is in a club, and a girl, not particularly attractive, say a 4/10 comes up to him and asks if she could suck him off, would he let her? almost definitely yes. There is the difference. For a guy receiving a one off blowjob from a random girl requires a minimal amount of attraction. Link to comment
SheBrokeMe Posted July 22, 2010 Share Posted July 22, 2010 lol what a joke comment. So your saying that because SOME guys have low standards, oral is somehow more acceptable? But since SOME girls have higher stardards, it means more...? Seems like logic does not apply here.. I probably shouldn't respond because the previous poster is an obvious troll but.. I had to laugh. Link to comment
Carnatic Posted July 22, 2010 Share Posted July 22, 2010 (sorry, didn't realise those words were considered swearing, if i may i will rephrase it) Receiving oral sex is not the same for men as it is for women. Say a single woman is in a club. A guy, not particularly attractive, say a 4/10 comes up to her and asks if he could give her oral sex, would she let him? almost certainly not. Now, a single man is in a club, and a girl, not particularly attractive, say a 4/10 comes up to him and asks if she could suck him off, would he let her? almost definitely yes. There is the difference. For a guy receiving a one off blowjob from a random girl requires a minimal amount of attraction. Totally totally incorrect for the vast majority of guys... and even if it was correct it wouldn't justify BJs not being cheating. As far as I'm concerned anything from arranging a committed relationship with someone else and upwards is cheating. Link to comment
Raoul Posted July 23, 2010 Share Posted July 23, 2010 HAHAHAHAHAHA. Nor is sucking other boobs. Also, If you only get one pump and blow your load, its not cheating either. Who makes this stuff up? It worked for Bill Clinton! Link to comment
sidehop Posted July 23, 2010 Share Posted July 23, 2010 This thread is going nowhere and therefore it's now closed. Link to comment
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