Igelchen Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 Day 5. I want my girlfriend back. Link to comment
coldheart Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 Hey! There's totally a solution for that!! If something about her pops up on your live feed, like her status update for example, drag your mouse over to it on the side of it and you will see a little "x" button that allows you to HIDE her activity for good so nothing will come up again! Hope it works! Yeah that is exactly what I am going to do. Thank you! Link to comment
abigheart Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 Yeah that is exactly what I am going to do. Thank you! Np, it really helps The only thing is holding back from typing his/her name in the search box...ugh. Link to comment
MalibuOne Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 Day 3 (but technically Day 36...I'd be on a roll if I had never checked his facebook!) I'm feeling much better than yesterday especially after reading this excellent blog post: link removed I keep repeating in my mind, "Reject the rejector!" and it feels pretty damn good. I am continuing with the thought stopping techniques and trying to keep myself busy...I wish I had something to do, but I guess job hunting is enough to get my mind off things. Day 4. Got an email from him last night where he said it would be hard for him to see me with someone else but that he still wants to be friends to the extent I can. I can't be friends at all!! This morning I deleted him from my FB. Felt awful to do it but I can't keep subjecting myself to ghosting through his life. Plus, dammit, he was the one who wanted to break up...why should I give him any glimpses into what's going on in MY life? Link to comment
brandnewday47 Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 Completed day six, and fought every polite urge I have to not respond to a "thank you!" type of message about a birthday text I sent a while back. Ughh. But I will say after a bit, I felt strangely smug having ignored her two days in a row... the first day was an in person, nonchalant non acknowledgement of her presence. Might have been why she sent that text come to think of it. The more I think I understand, the less I really do. Link to comment
star111 Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 day 0 i almost want to laugh hysterically....at how predictable this stuff gets. really.....the guy contacts me 6 days ago after NC for 4 months. He's been healing from an accident all this time, reason NC became so easy to me. I wanted to let him be- no stress. He comes back, we are mature and caring and wishing eachother well, etc, good to talk without anger etc. See him one night, lay together...nothing else. he needs someone to help him sexually since the accident. i actually contemplate it. meanwhile- tonight.....he's back to his crazy defensive nutso self. i'm freaking so MAD that i ever responded in the first place. and makes me question my sanity! and these fights we have...always blaming the other for acting wrong......ive had with no one for the past 4 months. but yet i feel connected to him still??? omg......this is practically abuse--tearing me down, jesus. im just shocked at how bad it is- i havent doubted myself in 4 months- hes back in the picture and i feel worthless again! hmmm...doesnt take a genuis to figure this one out. if i go back again.....im nuts. the 4 months of NC were pure bliss. painful and sad and super lonely...but soooooooooo peaceful. Link to comment
coldheart Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 Np, it really helps The only thing is holding back from typing his/her name in the search box...ugh. Exactly my next problem! ](*,) Day 3... Can't believe Ive made it this far. Paranoia that she may start to think I am not interested and giving up on any hope is kicking in... Link to comment
lostinyou Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 day 15 considering finding out where she is tomorrow and telling her im coming to see her. i need some kind of closure on this. i havent seen her for 6 weeks and only exchanged texts twice in that time. we've not really had a chance to talk about anything since. i miss her Link to comment
butterfly12 Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 day 15 considering finding out where she is tomorrow and telling her im coming to see her. i need some kind of closure on this. i havent seen her for 6 weeks and only exchanged texts twice in that time. we've not really had a chance to talk about anything since. i miss her same here, weve been split 6 weeks and text on three occasions Link to comment
brazilgirl21 Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 I broke NC yesterday and am starting again. I feel horrible. PEOPLE, DO NOT BREAK NC. I can't wait for the weekend because NC is easier than when I'm at work for 8 hours unable to focus. It's back at Day 1 for me. I miss him SO much. Link to comment
brandnewday47 Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 Day 7.. Fighting hard to make it through today because if she stays on schedule then she will head out of town to her new bf for the weekend tomorrow. Then it is a guaranteed three more days for me Ehh, hope no more random hallway encounters happen at work today Link to comment
MalibuOne Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 Day 5. I must say it's a lot easier now that I deleted him from my Facebook. I'm certainly not going to send him a friend request & I'm no longer tempted to check it incessantly. I deleted all his e-mails. It was hard to push that "delete forever" button, but I forced myself and now I don't wallow in those anymore either. I think it's helping. Not much, but every little bit helps. Link to comment
the_dawn Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 Day whatever, feel like sh*t again, gets harder somehow instead of getting better. Have no urge to call for some reason, but would so much want to hold her close. Emptiness and loneliness is killing me. the_dawn Link to comment
mrshuma Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 Day 16 It feels like its been months but I am proud of myself to make it this far!! My parents will be going to Europe in about 6 weeks and they asked me to go with them for 3 months so have something to look forward to if it doesn't work out with the ex!! Link to comment
brandnewday47 Posted June 11, 2010 Share Posted June 11, 2010 Well I made it through the day. I feel terrible. Why do I still love her six months out? She moved on at a MAX of two months out... maybe sooner. Dang it this sucks. I almost hope she IMs or texts so I can ignore. Link to comment
FootofGod Posted June 11, 2010 Share Posted June 11, 2010 There's no way you will just get past me so fast after what we had... is there? You barely got past your first boyfriend, and he was a narcissist jerk. Link to comment
brandnewday47 Posted June 11, 2010 Share Posted June 11, 2010 Probably should be in the "post here instead of your ex"... but I gotta say it.. "[ex's name] you will regret this, I guarantee it" Heading to day 8 soon. Link to comment
MalibuOne Posted June 11, 2010 Share Posted June 11, 2010 Hang in there everyone! We are all worth a lot more than what we're getting. I deserve someone who wants to give me 100% - so are all of you. Heading for day 6...3 weeks after the breakup. Link to comment
yogi Posted June 11, 2010 Share Posted June 11, 2010 Day 3 of No Contact after I broke NC to apologize for something. Feeling pretty good today --first thought this morning was to get to work on time and not him. That's refreshing! I've found over the last few weeks that I miss him but I do not miss our relationship. I'm happy to have me-time. Link to comment
brandnewday47 Posted June 11, 2010 Share Posted June 11, 2010 Heading into day eight and I actually feel pretty good right now. Hope she isn't into work today as it will make things much easier. Just a random thought: "I hate Breadcrumbs!" Link to comment
abigheart Posted June 11, 2010 Share Posted June 11, 2010 Day 4. I cried last night because I missed him so much. I fought back the urge to look at his profile, and I'm happy I didn't cave. I don't want to be set back, so I just want to plow through this. Link to comment
Igelchen Posted June 11, 2010 Share Posted June 11, 2010 Day 7. I feel fine. For now. Link to comment
butterfly12 Posted June 11, 2010 Share Posted June 11, 2010 DAY 6... nearly caved but controlled myself and kept busy! Link to comment
Animelover6764 Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 day idk feeling better Link to comment
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