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  1. coldheart
    Day 60, and technically broke it on Friday (See here: ) All of a sudden, what seemed so easy at first had become so hard. Feels like 2 steps forward, 10 steps back
  2. coldheart
    If you are a good person as you seemed, you certainly did not prove it in the end.
  3. coldheart
    I fell ya brother. Day 0, Hour 9 of NC. Yeah I blew it today cause of an accidental contact last night. Back to square 1... sigh
  4. coldheart
    Day 3, seems like day 30. I was C-Listed off her Facebook (blocked), blackberry messenger, and told I couldn't contact her. I'm stuck even if I wanted to contact her!
  5. coldheart
    Day 14 of going into "friend mode", day 2 of complete NC. This wasn't totally by choice I must confess. She blocked me on FB, texted me on Thursday to not text her phone because her "husband had taken it and she did not want him to get psycho on her". I Poked her on FB Friday morning, and by evening I was blocked. So this is the first time I have no real option except NC cause I cannot reach out either. Weird situation and very painful.
  6. coldheart
    I miss you and hope you are missing me too. If you did what I think you did, I hope it was all for the right reasons and not just "for the kid's sake" or for "saving a useless marriage's sake". I can only hope that in the future we will cross paths but for now I must move on. Take care, friend!
  7. coldheart
    Exactly my next problem! ](*,) Day 3... Can't believe Ive made it this far. Paranoia that she may start to think I am not interested and giving up on any hope is kicking in...
  8. coldheart
    Yeah that is exactly what I am going to do. Thank you!
  9. coldheart
    Ugghhhh I hate Facebook for this same purpose!!! lol I am about to remove her from my live feed. I am pretty well self-controlled when it comes to visiting her page but I can't help it when its on my feed. So tonight I am making some adjustments! ](*,)
  10. coldheart
    Day 2, 06/09/10 So far I still feel bad when getting home and nothing is on my phone after a long day of work. What used to be an text inbox constantly filled with hearts, smiles and love, is now a desolate cobweb-collecting can of emptiness. She was supposed to take a test today that I had been encouraging her about since a month back. She had asked me on Sunday to celebrate with her if she passed, and I told her "Sounds Good" (Nor yes nor no), and haven't heard from her Since Monday evening. This is the first time we go this long without contact. I wonder if she misses me.
  11. coldheart
    Well we had a great talk in person and both agreed that our love was too strong to let dry up. We agreed on giving our relationship another go this time with baby steps and more care when saying things that would hurt. I think we are in a new chapter of approach. I guess my 9th day break of NC was a positive one in my particular case since it allowed my ex enough time to realize that her love was too strong to let me go forever.
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  13. coldheart
    I think I am going to do this. Hopefully I'll be posting in the "getting back together" forum very soon.
  14. coldheart
    Well, we need to talk and work that out. I replied with a simple "I'm trying" and just got this reply: "(My name), it’s me….. (Her name)….. first and foremost your friend. I am trying too but I am scared you are going to reject me and what I have to say. GOD I miss you more then I can explain. =( I need but most importantly want to see you" I am thinking this is the type of response I am looking for?
  15. coldheart
    We've experienced mini-breakups in the past, but nothing ever like this. This is the longest we've ever gone and it seems as if she is determined to move on this time. However her approach is strange since she seems to not want to let go of me.
  16. coldheart
    I want to test the waters and see if another "go at it" is possible. If not then we are really done I guess. But I will refuse to remain friends with her. It would be too hard.
  17. coldheart
    You really think so? Thanks for the enlightenment man. UPDATE: I replied with: "Just wanted to know you were okay and let you know that I am okay. That’s all." She responded with: "Well just so you know NO I am not ok. But happy to know that yes you are ok. I wish you would open up and stop being so hard…." I am going to put some serious thought into what I am going to reply to this with...
  18. coldheart
    I did it! I contacted her. I know I know... I deserve the proverbial slap on the wrist!!! I e-mailed her with a "hey how are you" and she responded immediately with a "OMG you’re alive!!!! I know that you are grown and all but I have been so damn worried about you =( I am ok" I left it alone for a while and then got two more e-mails: "Another thing…. I totally respect that you have moved on I truly do respect that I just miss, truly miss my best friend and I don’t want to move forward without you as my friend… stupid I know but it’s the truth and that is coming right from my heart. If you don’t want that I will respect that as well and move forward too just let me know so that I can just completely let you go. I must reach out and tell this to you." Then this... "Is there a reason why you emailed me? Or did you just email me to be nice because I’ve been trying to reach you?" I just answered that I wanted to see that she was okay and let her know I was okay as well. She had been constantly trying to reach me after all. I think I will initiate NC again after this...
  19. coldheart
    Day 9. She is still trying to contact me. A few missed calls and a voicemail which I deleted by mistake (It was probably for the better). This is pretty tough to carry on but I am staying strong
  20. coldheart
    My ex is the one that contacts me constantly lately so it's harder for me to enforce NC. However, with every passing day that I ignore a text, phonecall, or e-mail, I feel better. Great post Dave. This is an original and classic.
  21. coldheart
    OMG this sounds like me in terms of her Myspace account. Hers is private and she is not my friend so status would be all I could see anyways, but I've been strong about this for the past 4 days. Day 8 of NC today. She was calling, texting and e-mailing a lot up until Monday evening, then it all stopped. I'm feeling stronger as I read through this forum. I have some times when I miss her and feel down (I still care for and love her) and over analyze certain things. However, I try to avoid the thoughts of her and focus on the benefits of NC which is to have her and I both miss each other, focus on our mistakes, and how to better ourselves to become better partners for the future. I've thought about her for the past two days since she has been silent, but I have to continue to be strong.
  22. coldheart
    Day 1 - Reading this thread and several forums here are making me feel alot better. I am a breakup veteran but every time hurts like it's the first.
  23. coldheart
    If you all do not remember my situation, please refer to this thread: . It's amazing that after 10 months of growing as an individual, person, and man, I am still having feelings of guilt and regret. I know that she is with her new man which she has been dating since we broke up, but it confounds me that after a night out with a nice date, good company, or at a party, she's the only one that comes to mind. Every love song that comes out, I relate to it with her. I find it amazing that she never looked back or tried to contact me to see how I'm doing. We were a one of a kind couple. Everyone that knew us would say that they knew we would be married and having children soon. How does someone like this just exit out of ones life and never look back? I need some ilumination of some sort right now Thanks all...
  24. coldheart
    So you guys think this is definitely not the end of this "probing around"? -CH
  25. coldheart
    Hi guys, I know I have been missing in action for a while, but what can I say? I wanted to live my life a little and forget about the breakup scene for a while. So far I am doing very good and feel brand new. However something has been happening lately and I need some decoding help. My ex and me mutually broke up around 7 months ago and I let her be. Never called, e-mailed , or texted. I did all the right things. Now after 7 months she has been seeing some guy for about 3-4 months now. However, in the past month or so she has attempted contact with some of my female friends that werren't even close with her, and has even contacted my sister expressing to her how she still cared about the family and felt bacd about "disconnecting from everyone so abruptly". Ultimately, she called me Tuesday morning before work hours (the day after labor day weekend) with a petty excuse needing my assistance with information for something. Allthis within the matter of one month. Is this a sign? Is something going on? I have moved on with my life although I'm still single I have healed well. Thanks to all! PS: By the way, my NC was total. No e-mails, no texts, no drunken dials, no private calls, NOTHING. 100% NC from the day of the breakup till today (7 months). -CH
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