I feel like a Cougar

[JoJo90814]

For those of you who dont know what a "Cougar," is...it is a older woman who dates younger men (Kind of like Demi and Ashton).

 

So there is this young man in my class who is 22 and I am 27. I can tell he is a little naive and inexperienced, but there is some major chemistry, flirting and connection going on between us (or so I think).

 

I dont know if I should ask him to hang out because he could possibly be gay (it comes out a little when he is talking). Also I have it pounded into my head that if a guy is into you he will ask YOU out.

 

I also dont know if I want to date someone younger than me like that esp.when I usually date established men a little older then me.

 

I just wanted to get some insight on this or if anyone has had similar experiences to share.

[greywolf]

What do you think about his maturity level?

[waveseer]

I am a cougar, nice to meet you! Actually I like men younger, the same, and older than me so technically it just means I'm open-minded.

 

Maybe you are just open-minded too?

[Mending 08]

Jo Jo... A "cougar" to ME is more like a woman in her 40's dating a MUCH younger man.

A woman STILL in her 20's is NOT a 'cougar"IMO.......

[redhearts]

Or if a guy is intimated by you then he would get too shy to ask you out, so have the upper hand, don't make it necessarily a date. Just see where it goes.

 

I agree, a cougar is probably 15 plus age difference.

[JoJo90814]

Ok so I was joking with the "Cougar" thing...: )

 

But I do feel maybe too old. I just think back to when I was 22 and how much I have grown since then.

 

He is mature for 22, intellectual, artsy type, really nice and friendly and super funny.

[mrmaximum]

I vote go for it!! don't let his age stop you from what could be a very cool experience, yeah?

[JadedStar]

LOL this is not a cougar scenario. The age gap you mentioned is perfectly normal. I can't see anyone saying anything about this in a deragatory manner. Ashton and Demi have an almost 20 year age difference....(and i am not slamming them either, they seem to work out better than most hollywood romances).

[Crazyaboutdogs]

Five years younger is really not a huge age difference. If you are interested then go for it and see what happens...but if you REALLY want the cougar label, you are going to have to get yourself some leopard print outfits several sizes too small...I may have some you can borrow. LOL.

[greywolf]

A paraphrased quote from Vitus. He's a 12 year old boy that's proposing to this girl that's about 18.

 

"The average man dies 7 years before the average woman, and statistics show that on average women marry men who are 7 years older. That's 14 years of being a widow! But we'll die at the same time."

[yumicecream]

Damn, thats NOT that much of a difference!

[CaptainPlanet]

You are oa bit too old for him but that shouldn't really be a problem. There is nothing wrong with 22-27 though it is not a normal age gap for the woman to be that much older in practical terms it is only a few years, See how it goes.

[Stinkweed]

Well, especially if you, yourself, are a student too, I think there's absolutely no reason to hesitate pursuing. I mean, it'd be a slightly different story if you were out of school working for a company or something and living on your own. I'm not saying you don't live on your own, etc. Just that college and post-college are different stages in life, in my opinion...

[timetogrow]

Age gap is not an issue if you two can communicate well and be compatible. The thing that matters is if you two are really happy being together. As you have mentioned, he is mature for 22 then what's thing that refrains you from going on this relationship with him? Go and have fun. Good luck.

[jcrisph]

you would be in the puma class

 

Puma - A woman who is not quite old enough to be a cougar, but still likes to date/mate with younger men. Typically she is in her late 20s to mid 30s. She typically finds her prey at sporting events or in the office.

[lonely rose]

i'm your age and i fell for a guy who was 4 years younger than me this summer. it was very unusual for me to be attracted to someone that young and at first i was cautious about getting involved even though he did not look younger than me and was quite mature or so I thought at that point...It did not work out between us but it was not because of the age difference, he was not looking for a committed relationship...If I were you, I would take a chance. He may be worth it.

[COtuner]

I had a disastrous 2 year relationship when I was 29 and he was 22. He just wasn't as mature as I thought he was.... it started cropping up when he wanted to go drinking all night with his buddies instead of keeping early hours and getting up in the morning like an adult. Then it just grew more and more obvious that we were living different lifestyles. I was in grad school and working, he was undergrad and working.

 

No reason not to try, but the sooner you can figure out what he likes to do when you aren't with him, the better

[lonely rose]

Similar to COtuner's boyfriend the guy I was seeing was into going to the bars with the buddies which probably explains how easily he found someone else once I went abroad for 3 weeks...All my friends warned me - don't get involved unless you're doing it just for fun... You should decide what you want out of it and your guy may be different than our experiences... Despite all the tears and broken heart, I know I would have regretted not taking a chance because I would have been asking myself whether I missed to take a chance on what could have been the love of my life. Follow your heart and intuition and forget about the age difference!

[yumicecream]

Younger guys are always wanting to date me...I never have older guys after me unless I'm doing online dating. I look younger than I am, unfortunately. I don't mind dating younger guys if they're mature.

[GoldenHillGuy]

Cougars are cool.

[In Limbo]

When i was 18 , my gf was 21.Turned out she was immature.I dated another girl recently, did not work out with her either.Just to let you know -I get a good number of passes from girls in my college , around my residence, even in malls & complexes.So i have always had plenty of women to choose from but so far i haven't found the right girl.

 

If the woman is level headed and not too old-or atleast in terms of looks , i have no problems none whatsoever,even if she is 10 years older.I'll most probably not bat an eyelid to commit if she is nice, warm intelligent & loyal.I somehow have had a natural preference for older girls since my early teens or may be before..

[ghost69]

so is he mature, naive, or inexperienced? you said he's all of this.

 

anyways, why not just flirt with him more and give him some better signals so he knows you like him?

[JoJo90814]

Ok so I asked him to hang out and we are hanging out tonight. Now all I have to do is find out if he's gay! lol.

[jcrisph]

I hang out with a few cougars at a club inside the mohegan sun last night..we went over to their table because we thought they were our age. come to find out they were 42,35 and 37...I couldnt believe it. they looked really good. One of showed me pics of 5 of her kids. i was like no way. It was a fun time, there were fun and sexy.

[lady00]

Sounds good. I'm with JadedStar--this isn't a cougar situation lol. Anyway, get to know him. Have fun!