Would you feel rejected ladies?

[i_win]

So on Tuesdays I go up to a local bar with friends and there is a girl that I've met up there a few times and gotten to know through a friend. Well last night we ended up making out after I walked her home.

 

She agreed when I asked if I could take her out...if I go out with her but only end the night with a little kiss would you feel rejected or like you did something wrong?

 

The reason I say this is because we made out that first night, but I was hoping to take my time and get to know her and not rush into anything because that has been a mistake in the past...but I also know that slowing things down too much might make her think I'm not that interested or that I need alcohol in me to feel that attraction.

 

Or do I make out but not go any further than that? Some guidance would be great. Thanks.

[shikashika]

so, to be clear, you made out the first night, now you just want a little peck?

 

She might wonder why, or feel like she is getting mixed messages?

 

who knows though, only her? She may be fine with or... or not at all!

[lumu]

Unless you tell her you don't want to rush things with her but take your time and enjoy her then kiss her gently. If you just kiss her gently she's going to take it badly IMHO

[Day_Walker]

If she feels rejected that is irrelevant, just let her know exactly what you said here that you dont want to move too fast and you want to get to know her. That is simply the truth and that is your legitimate concern.

[Ac143]

I wouldnt feel rejected but I would wonder if I was a bad kisser or something. You should just tell her why you did what you did. She would probably really appreciate that and might like you even more

[girl68]

Put some passion into the kiss at the end and call it at that. Always fun "wanting more".

 

Or just give her a nice sweet kiss and then pull away look her in the eye and say "Hey, I'm hoping to take this one slow... so I can get to know you." If she likes you you'll see a big bright smile, squeeze her hand and walk away.

[alli]

Making out on a first date won't doom you to failure. I would probably feel weird if we made out on the first date & would barely hug me on the second. Would it be that bad to just make out.. nothing further.. for a while? The first date is done, it's not like you can take it back.

[lana111]

nope, i wouldnt feel that way at all

[annie24]

no, i wouldn't feel rejected, as long as you called me and followed up on making plans for another date.

[bulletproof]

You could just give her a moderately intense kiss, once, and say that you had a good time, you'd really like to go out again, and that you'll call her. It might be that she fully understands how drunken making out happens sometimes, and appreciate you stepping back on a proper date.

[ghost69]

why not take her out and show her you are into her like you asked her? there is only your pace and no proper speed to make moves on every girl.