weirdrabbit

Personally as a woman, I am not interested in how much money a man makes. But I am sure there are women out there who do. But Often I think a man puts more pressure on himself in what he percieves a woman wants and also what he thinks is expected of him in society. It happens with women too, they are expected to be a wife a mother, have the perfect home life and be a career woman at the same time. If you live for other people you can never be happy. I should take my own advice, I know it is easier said than done. Just gotta find someone who loves you for the way you are and then you can get over the feeling of always having to prove yourself bc they are proud of you the way you are.

good advice muneca!

and before you said clothes dont bother you, it matters on their personality, Then it shouldnt matter for you if you only get "fat chicks" contacting you or all guys with red hair. Because all "fat chicks" dont have the same personality, nor to all boys with red hair.

"moreover I'd rather go out with somebody who got some extra pounds than sombody who is slim. But it is just me." Just like some people would rather go out with people of certain weight, others would rather go out with someone with stylish clothes. Some people have prefrences on clothes, just like you have preferences on weight. But these preferences arent the main thing we look for, they are just preferences. Usually we will overlook them if we like someones personality.

well in full context of what you wrote in your other post, it gave the impression that you were disappointed with online dating because only "fat chicks" contacted you. Thus giving the impressin that you were not too fond of fat chicks And i didnt call you any names, i said it is just as superficial as people having impressions on what people wear.

al7 in another post you wrote this "To have a gf is no big deal thats right - the question is what kind of gf: the only chicks were interested in me (based on online expereiced and looking at my pics) were really fat chicks" Thats just as superficial as people judging you on your clothes, its a bit of a double standard

Clothes can be important to some degree, as they can express your personality or can show someone you take care of yourself, or how comfortable you are with yourself. But obviously it can be taken too far (if you only look at clothes or if you can only wear certain "in" brands etc.). First impressions, clothes matter but in the long term they dont matter. Say if you dress really conservatively and dont wear any colour, people may think you are really uptight and rigid. But if you wear colour and express yourself through your clothes, people may think you are more outgoing or if you have a really unique sense of dress people may think you are creative. Clothes can really say a lot about someone, eg. hippies usually wear flowing clthes, hommies wear a certain style of clothes,etc. They are all stereotypes, but if u dont know someone you usually judge them on how they dress and how they carry themselves.

Here is something i read to increase confidence levels, its worth a try: STEP 1 - Think back to a time when you felt really, really confident. Fully return to that experience in your mind and body. Think of the feelings that came with that experience, visualize what you saw, hear again what you heard, and feel now what you felt then. (If you can't remember ever being confident, imagine what it must be like to be self-confident - to have all the strength, power and self-belief you'll ever need.) STEP 2 - Enjoy this memory as you experience it once again, and make the the colours brighter and richer, the sounds more lively and the feeling stronger. STEP 3 - Sqeeze your thumb and middle finger together as you relive these feelings. STEP 4 - Repeat the first three steps several times with different similiar positive memories until just squeezing your thumb and middle finger together is enough to awaken this feeling. STEP 5 - Continue squeezing and think about a situation where you want to feel more confident. See in your mind everything going well, going perfectly - exactly the way you would like. The next time you feel challenged by a situation, simply squeeze your middle finger and thumb together, and these feelings will return. It's not magic - it's just retraining your mind. The human brain is a complicated device, but it obeys simple rules. When you feel more confident just imagining these scenarios, you will feel more confident when they actually occur. This process should yield instant results, but if you repeat these steps everyday this week you can forget worrying about confidence and concentrate on your conversation!

It is still possible to get your period when you are pregnant, it is rare, but possible. And if she is pregnant it isnt worth suiciding about. Just take your time and think about things and dont make any rash decisions

Have you told anyone about your anorexia. Someone you care about?

Hey cassandra Im not an expert either and dont have much experience but ill give you my advice anyway! If he is the first guy you have ever opened up to and u feel comfortable around him, I would say go for it! because it is really hard to find a nice guy and you deserve it! It is inevitable that love is going to hurt at one point or another and i know it is corny but u cant experience the good without the bad. It is the beginning of the relationship so dont think about the end yet! Just go with the flow and think of the now. Take a risk, otherwise you will regret it for the rest of your life. Just see how the relationship goes for now, (getting to know each other having fun) and worry about your parents later, after all it is your life, not theirs and you deserve some happiness.(and parents usually warm up to an idea after a while if they see you are happy)

Good on Ya you have guts, at least she was cool with it, what exactly did you say if u dont mind me asking?