pessimisticguy

Don't panic I've been in this situation before as well. I personally think that it's quite apparent that she's interested. Keep hanging around her, keep talking to her, hint about it every once in a while (not to much, dont sound obsessive) I think the more that you hang around her the more she'll show interest. The second that she makes a move, or you make a move you'll be set. Seeing as how she has a boyfriend though I think I'd let her make the first move. I would say you have absolutely nothing to worry about, if she's showing this much interest in you now and she has a boyfriend then shes bound to do something about it. Give it a week or two...If she hasn't made a move by then ask her to go to the movies or out to eat or something and if you feel comfortable in doing so make a move. I mean come on if she likes you she doesn't need to be with the other guy anyhow Goodluck bud

I'll put it to you very blunty....Realistically 9 times out of 10 first loves will not stay together...Not because they stop loving each other, but because of age, current priorities, etc...My first love and I were together for 2 years...Sophomore and Junior year of highschool...I broke up with her because she was obsessive, literally...The key reason it normally doesn't work is due to the fact that they two people aren't experienced in knowing how to keep a relationship going. One will irritate the other, there will be retaliation, etc, etc...Im not saying it can't work. I'll I can really tell you is if you want to be with her for the rest of your life, keep her happy. Know when to back off and give her a little space and know when to give her the attention she needs. Most of all, everytime you argue never let the day end on a bad note and talk all problems out. Those my friend are relationship breakers. Hope this helps Goodluck

Well from what you've put it seems like you guys did click quite well. She said shes not "looking" for a relationship but if it happens so be it so I would assume she's hinting that if you guys get close (which it seems you already are) that it could turn into something. Due to the times she may be trying to read you, you know, being around you, taking you to places to see how you are towards people because of the fact that she has a 4 yr. old and wants to make sure your a good role model incase it does turn into something serious. I think the route your taking with her right now is your best choice. Don't push her into it, take it slow, let her get a good feel for you. I mean obviously if shes calling you and talking for hours, going on dates with you, and being fairly intimate then shes considering being with you. I wouldn't worry about it too much, just stick to what your doing now and everything should start to open up. Hope this helps. Goodluck and let us know how it goes.

lol dophar...don't think that would be a wise way to impress her Jelly I believe that Enadevoli put it best...Just making a lot of eye contact while your playing and such would be best, because if shes coming just because your gonna be there, then obviously shes going to be watching you to see if you take a look at her. Then, like Enadevoli said, talk to her after the game, then go with it. (Remember to smile) Goodluck

I've been in a situation very similar to this...A friend of mine liked me...I didn't like her....Then she didn't like me and I liked her....etc....Of course it's worth fixing, in the long run any friendship is worth fixing. Call her and tell her you want to talk to her. Meet up with her face to face, try talking it out...If you can't reach her on the phone go to her place and talk to her. When she sees your being sincere she'll talk to you about it. If you still like her, hold off on telling her...Wait until your talking again and on good terms then when your alone together open up to her about it. Hope this helps.

if its your ex-boyfriend then your obviously already close to him....one thing that drives me insane is when a girl that im with or like pokes at me (im ticklish). Maybe I'm weird I dunno, it's just an innocent way of flirting. Show him you like him, talk to him not too much, but just enough for him to pick up interest. Let him know...When you see him come up behind him and put your hands on his shoulders, or pick on him. Just keep conversation and slight physical contact. Talking to someone is one thing, but when you make physical contact casually in an unsuspecious way whether it be tickling, hugging, or whatever, add a little flirting and they start to get a general idea

First off, I'm a first time poster. I hate to make my first post a long one, but I may as well get my story out now. Let me first say, I'm not a very shy person. I've always been told that I'm very funny and have a great personality and such. I used to have problems talking to girls, but over the past few years thats changed and I really haven't had problems...until now anyhow... I've known this girl about 5 years. We were never great friends, we'd talk and such but never really got into hanging out. Well I was in a bad car accident about 2 months ago and I came back to work about two weeks ago (she and I work together). Since the wreck she and I have started talking a lot more and we joke around with each other, throwing stuff at each other, blocking each other off when the other is trying to get by, she'll playfully pick on me, etc. To me when we talk it's hard to tell if she being friendly or flirty. Anyway enough with the background let me get right to the point. I have no idea how I'm even going to go about asking her out. Normally this wouldn't be any trouble for me, but for some reason I just can't seem to bring myself to do it. All my friends are like "WTF man you've never had this problem before.", but theres just something about her that intimidates me to do so. I can talk to her without stuttering or sounding like a moron, I can have casual conversation with her, and I can make her fall down laughing (literally). It's just for some odd reason I feel as if no matter what I say to her, no matter what I do, she'll say no. Usually I would just flat out tell a girl. I'd bring up a specific topic out their social life which would lead into their love life, once they said something about not being with someone I'd say,"I'd ask you out, but I don't wanna get shot down.", it's never failed for me but I get the feeling it just wouldn't work this time. Hopefully someone out there has had a problem similar to this before. I would also like to hear opinions from a few girls...

Your not over analyzing things, your not worrying too much. To me it seems as if you may still care for her more than you think. All of this is just a process and it's different for everyone. Breaking up after having a relationship is tough, and seeing changes in the person is normal, they will change the way they are just to get out of the routine of being with someone for so long. She may have not said much because she still cares and wants to get over being with you, or you may just be a little worried about it. Realistically it's hard to say...All I can really tell you is to go with your gut on this one. If you feel like you still want to be with her then talk to her about it. Call her and ask her how she feels, if you don't think she'd talk about it then try to get back on the ball of just talking to her casually and go from there. Hope this helps.