Sure Shot

I really need some advice on what I should do about this girl. I have been seriously attracted to this one girl for a while. She recently broke up with her boyfriend(guy didn't care about the relationship), and I have been trying to get things going with her. She has told my good friend that she is interested in me but isn't sure if now is a good time. She goes back and forth from wanting a relationship to just almost a friends with benefits thing. She is not aware that I know what she told him. I have talked to her and another problem is, is that her friend, who has a boyfriend, yes she has a boyfriend, has told her that she is also interested in me. I just think that is totally crazy. This is discouraging the girl that I would like to be with. She has talked about this problem with me but she refers to "the guy" (me) as just a guy. I don't really want to just confess how I feel to her since I am not supposed to know she is interested in me. I would think that would be akward if she liked some guy, I knew about it, but regardless just told her how I felt. Even if I am that guy. I may have one of my friends just try to drop the hint that I am interested but thinks she likes another guy so I am going to back off. Is that a good idea? I am really confused about how I could be with this girl. I think that once the feelings are out in the open the situation will go easier and everything can be solved but I don't know how to get them out there.

Ok, I am just going to let her know whats up she tries anything again and if she really wants me then she is going to have to come get me. Thanks for all your help.

This girl I really like is going out with a friend of mine. She really doesnt do much with him and always flirts with me so terribly. She referred to me as hers, spooned with me on my bed, had a two hour conversation w/ me at night in my car, and will lay all over me. She does this all the time if my friend isnt around w/ anyone else around or just the two of us. She told me she was unhappy w/ the two of them together but has been more into him more as of late, I think. She will stare into my eyes and I just want to reach over and kiss her but I don't know if that is the right thing to do since she is with this guy. This guy just doesn't know what he is doing in any sort of relationship and had said terrible things about her before they got together that she doesnt know about. Just accept that the guy doesnt know what he is doing and is kind of an idiot. If anyone would like specifics, ask, but they aren't completely necessary to understand what is going on. I'm really unsure if this girl is just doing her thing or seriously likes me. Should I let her cheat on my friend if that is what she wants to do? Should I tell her how I feel or ask her what she feels? Is she just playing with me? Would it be wrong if I just kissed her? There have been a lot of times when I can see in her that she seems to really want me to, but I don't. Should I ask why she keeps doing this stuff w/ me? Any other advice would be extremely helpful.

I would suggest just being active in the morning so you just aren't thinking about anything. I would try playing a sport or exercising, that will usually keep me occupied so I'm not really thinking about anything and just stay busy until you go to work or whatever you are doing. Books, shopping, making something or whatever should help.

I definitely agree with the previous posts. I think that it is crazy sweet to see girls wear revealing clothes but that is my eye candy. You will definitely get noticed with those clothes but respect is different. I agree that you will get guys to stay with you because of your personality though. Braces I don't believe affect anything. I don't personally know but from what I hear it doesn't matter.

I'm going through a similar thing. I keep thinking about this girl and there is not a minute that will go by that I don't think about what I could say to her or what I should do with her. I try to time myself when going to my third period class just so I can say hi to her in the hallway(am I a stalker or what?). I WANT to just tell her the way I feel but I don't think that I could because I don't know what she would say. In your case, audviously she likes you. This is pretty clear. It's just that she has a boyfriend which is the problem at hand. So you call this guy I know, he does favors... Just kidding. I would suggest that you might just wait until they are done with their fling. As extremely difficult as that might seem, you might try that. Or, I might ask her what her feelings for you are. That would clear some things up for you and that can't spoil her relationship with the other guy and if appropriate you can tell her how you feel too.

I would definitely say that interest is upon you. It sounds like he really wanted to get with you while you were doin what you were doin but if he wanted to stay with you and make sure you were ok then... I'd say he wants you.

Through my experience, I would not ask over e-mail. I find that people gain a little fearlessness over the internet and will say just about anything whether it is hurtful or not. So, since they can't see you and hear your expressions they feel that they can coordinate an attack plan and just go after you. They can yell and yell and whatever then sign off. Then what are you going to do. I am pretty good at seeing early signs of these situations and then just immediately give them a call. People don't tell ME off!!! Then they pretty much just cool down and you can talk about it. So unless you have a super serious problem asking in person or over the phone I would consider an e-mail a last resort. I think that they would appreciate it more and giving them less time to actually think about it would be pretty advanageous for you. An e-mail could give them time to talk to there friends and go through a big pros/cons list which you might never know about. In person atleast you know it isn't a straight "no" but an "I'll think about it." if that is what you get. Hopefully not!

She is from Sweden. I did a search when she came and found out that basically in the culture they all are just really romantic. This was a forum talking about a guy who was in a serious relationship with a girl from Sweden. They talked about just generally being a gentleman. Like get doors, pull out chairs, and stuff like that. I have been pretty good about doing that too but she is younger(17) and I think she is a little more outgoing and might not even be picking up on it. I'm finding it hard to just come out and tell her because I'm pretty nervous about what she might say and there really isn't a moment that I can get alone with her because the girl she is staying with is around too. I think that she would just want what any other girl would want. Thank you very much for your responses, they have helped a lot. Any suggestions on how I would be able to find out if she likes me? I don't really want to ask the girl shes staying with(even though she is my friend) just because if she didn't really like me it might be very akward. I have concluded that maybe just kissing her isn't the best idea without talking to her first. Is that right? If she does like me, when should I go about kissing her?

Hi, i have been having some problems with getting/kissing this girl. She is a foreign exchange student at my school and is staying with a friend of mine. I have known her only a few weeks but I'm really into her and I think that she likes me a decent amount as well. I'm pretty much one of the only guys she is around right now. I don't want to rush anything or do anything stupid. My question is how should I approach her to ask her if she would want to go out or anything. Is that even a good idea? I also just can't stop thinking about kissing her. I just simply want to just walk up to her and just kiss her. I don't think I should do that though sooo... Is there a good way to go about kissing a person if you aren't already involved? I keep hearing "Oh, you should just ask her." and "You should never ask her, just do it!". So what would be the best thing to do if I really want to, am not in a relationship with her, and don't know if I should ask for her permission or not? Should I be looking for a signal telling me that she is ok with the idea without me specifically asking? And how should I kiss her if that is the road I should travel upon? Where? (Car, dark room, movie, no idea...) Maybe I should just flirt with her for a while or something along those lines. Now, if that is what I should do, what exactly should I do? This is a different situation for atleast me and if anything needs clarified please ask. Thank you in advance for your help. I'm pretty confused.