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  1. The pandemic/your current environment may be your issue and I can totally relate as I also have a tendency to become a bit depressed under certain circumstances. I normally live in Florida, but am visiting relatives in Canada. I moved to Florida because I need the sun. It is like Prozac to me. It was a big life change (moving to the South) but one I felt was necessary for my mental health. To live in a sunny climate and walking distance to a beach is wonderful for those with a tendency to become depressed. I know the UK weather can be similar to Canada. Do you have to live in the UK,
  2. I would not read into this whole situation too deeply. Why not put your own desire to see this guy “on hold?” You can always re-visit the idea of him when you return. The holidays have been really stressful. I usually communicate (with guys) with Face Time, but decided I will not even pick-up because the mask I have been wearing in the house I am stay at has given me “m-acne,” or mask-acne. I have been sniping with family members because we are all frustrated to be completely locked down with no stores or restaurants open and freezing rain weather outside. I have no desire for any
  3. Not sure why you started the post with him paying the rent with savings. Are we supposed to feel sorry for him? The fact of the matter is that you are not invited to spend New Year’s with him. I joined ENA approximately 10 years ago because the boyfriend who was living with me rent free in a home owned by my father decided to take off on his birthday weekend without me (also a “long” weekend in the summer). I waited around for 3 days expecting him to come home. Guess what I decided to do on day 3? I changed the locks of the house. Boy was he surprised when he finally came home on t
  4. Hopefully, this will be the lowest of the low for all of us and we will be able to get back to normal in the new year. I know this sounds a bit preachy but things could always be worse. There seem to be less if not no DUI accidents this year, people are not blowing $$$ on presents as much with malls closed. I guess we could all think of folks who survived the WWI and WW2 with loved ones killed in action. Looking at people in combat over Christmas - those black and white photos/movies always shake me into reality at this time of year. Sometimes it helps to journal and think of things you d
  5. I think you should do what you feel like doing. What will it hurt at this point? These are unprecedented times with COVID/staying in/all the stress that goes with being locked down. People are not themselves this year, so I would not read too far into a little less communication on his part. He might also think since you did make the effort to travel, that you want focused time with loved ones, which may or may not be true. You should just be you and reach out. There are no blueprints anymore 😀
  6. Sorry to hear you are going through this, especially during these challenging times. Better to find out now than waste many more years on this guy. I know of several (married) people who cheat. Once they start with one, more come into the fold and the lies they spin would blow your mind. Also realize it is not you, it’s them. You are very likely neither the first person he has cheated on, nor will you be the last.
  7. The false negative test occurred at one of those Rapid Testing places and according to my friend the administrator did not stick the Q-tip like thing high enough into her nose. Some places will have you hold the testing swab and direct you as to how to stick it up your nose for a sample. This is also very costly for an average person. Who has $170 for each of these tests?? Also, if you are positive, there is no test which will tell you are for sure negative as a person with continue to test positive for several weeks or even a month after infection. The “experts” say you are no longe
  8. Can you possibly meet them outside, or maybe drive up to each other and face time and do a gift exchange at that time? The car thing might work because you will be able to control your safety by not getting out of your car, and or being able to zip up the windows. Put the presents in the trunk for a few days. This Christmas has be so hard on people. Seems the only thing it is doing is dividing between camps. Those who are not worried/somewhat worried and the super cautious. By the way testing can be a bit bogus. I had a friend who tested negative with symptoms, she then went back
  9. Have you ever cheated with your husband? And by cheating I mean anything from physical to micro cheating, which is like phone sex. Of my married friends who have cheated, once they start, they cannot stop. I have a feeling this guy is going to want to get closer to you on his terms. He may even string you along, then ghost you once he finds somewhere geographically closer. If you start something with this guy, just keep in mind your marriage is basically over. Cheating is a point of no return.
  10. Thanks to everyone for their responses. To clarify, I am not insecure. Actually, I just lost a bit of weigh, am exercising and feel and look great. At the moment I have decided to start going out again after a long hiatus due to a horrifying breakup (read: team of lawyers on both sides) with an age appropriate man. I moved to the South and didn’t not leave my apartment at night for nearly 2 years. So at this point I will chat/have a drink with anyone who approaches me. It could be in a drugstore or out at a nice martini bar. I don’t really care about age or race, however, I really don
  11. I know a married woman who cheats on her husband who has as smooth excuses as this woman. The spiderweb of lies and responses is just enough to make the husband believe what he wants to believe - his wife is not cheating. I think you deserve someone who is totally into you. Regarding Match, I have an unpaid profile that I use to check out guys, but I certainly do not have a photo as the account is used only for snooping around. I know it sucks, but I think you are trying to convince yourself of her innocence. Move on. Go flirt with a few women and get distracted from this situation.
  12. I posted a few weeks ago about a 23 year old male who was pursuing me, begging for sexy photos, even masterbating on FaceTime in front of me. I haven’t been dating for a while so just wanted to know if this was normal. So last night I went out to bar and met a nice lawyer. He had a table with bottle service and was fun but professional. At the end of the evening and today he has bombarded me with requests for sexy photos. SO OK, the 23 year old restaurant employee is young and virile, but the 2nd guy is at least 10 to 15 years older and is a professional. I do not get what is beh
  13. Please do not discount the damage COVID is inflicting on people’s mental health. Taking a new path in life is very difficult at any time, so let's cut the bf some slack Are you becoming a Chartered Accountant? It sounds like you are from the UK. This is a very highly respected designation. Hopefully you will pass all of your exams. I can almost feel his insecurity through the screen as I write this post. What he needs now is tons of reassurance that you love him and that is perfectly ok for him not to know his precise career path at age 23. Maybe you could encourage him to spend an
  14. Thanks Wiseman, I moved to the South a while ago. I haven’t changed my location on eNA. I notice you suggest dating apps on this site. Can you share any success stories?
  15. Was she close to her father? Death of a parent can be very hard on a person. Maybe she let you in when she needed you around time of his passing, but is now able to move on without you. I would hardcore exit her life and if she comes back in better mental health, re-visit at that time.
  16. FYI, it is very easy to record FaceTime. I just tried it. I’m screwed if this is all he was after.
  17. This post is on point. At 26 years of age, you are quite young. When you are 50, looking back you will consider your 20s/30s/40s your best years. There is no way a relationships should have you not able to get out of bed at age 26. When parents get ill, die, will this man be by your side supporting you through the rough times? Likely not. Get out and enjoy life, explore your new attraction and hopefully the feeling is mutual. And if he is not what appeals to you, look for someone new. Your 20s are a time to spread your wings and date to your heart’s content.
  18. I actually met up with someone I met on eNotAlone. We had both broken up with people around the same time and back then, circa 2010, folks would spend hours at night and on weekends on this site, messaging and lamenting both privately and publicly - a form of therapy that was better than any professional could provide in my opinion. We had a great relationship through this site and were attracted to each other’s photos, however, the chemistry just wasn’t there when I picked him up at the airport. We went out for dinner and slept in separate bedrooms..was a very long weekend. I dropped
  19. Thank you all for your comments. They have given me perspective and I’m not as flustered with this whole thing as I was earlier today. Melancholy, I only sent one blurry photo from a hidden text address, actually cropped my head off so you can’t tell its me. He complained the photo was too blurry. I didn’t re-send or send another. Rose Mosse, I will take your advice not complicate things and not send any more photos, and keep texts basic. Wiseman2, I singed up for Match with an unpaid subscription and at the same time (a month or two ago) a work friend, a woman my age and simil
  20. Thanks Batya, then I would have to weigh whether I want to wait for a more suitable man, or cleans myself with the 23 year old. It is literally impossible to meet anyone here. I work in a closed office with 9 people, will be working 6 days a week soon. Tried Match, didn’t work for me. Haven’t had sex in 5 years, so yea, really want to get out of this rut.
  21. Thank you MC, this is great advice. How do you know if someone recorded FaceTime???? Is this indicated somehow?
  22. Batya, I have tried to date, as old as 61 in my area. The issue is I live in a retirement-age area. Not abnormal to see folks with walkers and other devices. Not being critical, its just how it is here. There is simply no one my age here. The average age at my apartment complex is 80.
  23. Yea Tinydance, I agree, it is basically sexual. Not sure if you have ever got out of a long term relationship, but sometimes you just want to cleanse yourself of your last guy. Have you ever felt like this?? My last put on a charade of being straight, but actually was a closeted gay. This hurt me for quite a while, but I’m over it now and want to move on. I don’t mind being the object of someones fetish, what’s wrong with that? However, I don’t want to be on some porn site or be disrespected. Covid times are tough times. I also, for a reason I cannot mention here, have been unable to
  24. Pippi, I am in an area that allows outdoor restaurants, so not an issue. LOL, you are right. I am dating myself by using the term peek a boo. Jibralta: I am not planning on doing anything that can be recorded at this point. We had like one FaceTime that did something that was a bit smutty, but nothing crazy. And no, it is not worth the cost.
  25. SherrySher, thanks for your response. I don’t have children, so no I do not feel like anyones mother.
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