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The new girlfriend looked up my name for some reason and silly me had used my surname as my username. All the posts came up and she printed them all out. Must have a lot of time on her hands....

Thank you. That makes me feel a lot better.

Just the way he was treating me and that his new girlfriend smokes heaps swears etc and is ugly, which is what any 7mth pregnant woman would probably say about the new girlfriend. Surely the case wouldn't even be accepted, I mean how many people get advice like this every day when they discuss their relationships you know....

I've been a member of a specific website for about 2 yrs. In those 2 years I've posted various problems I've been having to try and get advice in my relationship. I split up with the guy. He got a new girlfriend when I was almost 7mths pregnant. Naturally I was very angry as he'd told me we were going to get back together. I said a lot of things that maybe I shouldn't have said and now his new girlfriend has searched for my name on the net and found all these posts which I didn't even know were accessible that way. Now after showing them to him, they both want to sue me for writing about them on an advice website. What does everyone think. I feel sick on the stomach about all this. The only people who will be affected if they sue is me and our kids who are 4 and 3mths. What can I do? I need to know where I stand on this. Thanks.

Well I'm not sure how much older you go for exactly, but my ex is 25 and I'm 29. He loved me being older and not being a giggling silly little girl. I loved him being younger. We were together for 6 years and the age difference was never a problem. Good luck

Hi there. I'm sure that your fiance loves you as much as you love him. When it comes to men, believe me there are very few that want to get married before they hit 30. It's just them, and especially being so young. Being with someone and not being engaged feels just as good as being with someone and being engaged. The only difference is a ring on your finger. I think it's more important for you both to be happy. I think you'll find if you postpone the engagement and tell him its okay, he will open up to you and tell you all his feelings. I lived with a guy for 6 years. We met when he turned 19. I'm 4 yrs older than him and I desperately wanted to be engaged especially as we had children together, but he never asked me. When I confronted him about why, he just said he wasn't ready. If you don't put any pressure on him, you will find he'll ask you when he feels 'mature' enough to settle down, and for most guys that's not until their late 20's or early 30's. I was ready to get married to my 1st boyfriend when I was 18. I just thank God I didn't now...lol. PLEASE PLEASE don't take your life. You only get ONE chance and taking your life is a cowards way out. Do you really want to put your family and friends through that. You sound like a very nice person. There are heaps of counselling services available to you. Don't hesitate to use them. Talk to him and your parents about this. Don't break their hearts and ruin their lives over this. It's not worth it. Believe me, when you are in your 30's and you have your kids running around and you are married to this guy and living in a great house, you'll look back and remember this and thank God you didn't do anything horrible to yourself. Your future children will thank you. I tried to take my life when I was 10 years old. My mother found me and talked me out of it. If she hadn't I would never have lived all these wonderful yrs, I would never have become a teacher and made a difference to all the children I've taught, and I wouldn't have had my 2 gorgeous kids that love me unconditionally. Do everyone a favour and hang in there. Put this message away and drag it out when you are 30. Good luck with your man. You'll work it out. Rachelle.

I am usually a very honest person, but my ex hurt me so much by getting another g/f 6 weeks after we split. For God's sake, we have 2 children together. I thought we'd end up back together after 6 yrs together. Anyway to get him jealous I decided to make up an ideal b/f. I've made him out to be quite wonderful. My ex got very jealous and said he couldn't handle the thought of me making love to anyone else. It brought tears to his eyes and he couldn't stop apologising saying he didn't realise I had gone through these feelings when he got with his g/f. I told him I was going out with 'Scott' tonight to a very expensive restaurant in a nearby suburb. I'm just wondering if I've taken it too far. How do I get out of it now? He SMS'd me 4 times tonight (at the time I said I'd be on my date) to see how things were going with me and was very worried that I was going to spend the night at my date's house. Do you think he still loves me if he reacted that way? Even though I'd never take him back, I guess I just want to feel that he still does and that I'm still attractive to men.

My ex and I broke up in March after being together for over 6 years. We have 2 children together, a 4 yr old son and a 1 month old daughter. Six weeks after we broke up (when I was six mths pregnant) he got a new girlfriend and jumped straight into a r'ship with her. She's since moved into our old house to live with him. Since he met her he's hardly had time for our son...until this week. She's completely the opposite of me. She smokes heaps,swears heaps and drinks heaps. I told him I was going to start dating again (just to see what he'd say) and he looked really nervous so I told him I'd met someone (even though I haven't) and he got very upset. He left my house and rang 5 minutes later saying he couldn't handle the idea of me with someone else. He rang me the other day and told me that he didn't like to think of what he missed about me because it upset him too much and that he missed making love to me. I decided to seek even more revenge for all the tears he's put me through and bought some roses, then sms'd him to ask if he'd sent roses to me as I got some and didn't know who they were from...lol. He got very cut and rang me back a few hrs later to see if I'd worked out who they were from. He told me if he found out they were from one of his mates he'd hit the roof. Apparently things arent going well in his new r'ship. I know I would never go back to him. I just want him to feel how I've felt and realise how much he hurt me as just before he met her he told me we'd get back together and even slept with me the day before he met her! We did not get along fantastic but we did have some great times together. Do you think he's just in a rebound r'ship? I just can't understand how he could go straight into the arms of someone else. He even told me he'd acted by his d..k instead of his head. What do you think??