IMyselfAmHell

join the club. i can't help you, but maybe it'll be nice to know that I and a lot more people than you think are having the exact same problem. one of my friends says she can have one by dry sex. i don't even know if I believe her, but i know some people have one easier than other people.

I am a female. I've done just about everything except sex and a blow job. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a little over a year. It's quite easy for me to make him orgasm, but he can't make me orgasm. Last night he went down on me for the first time, and it didn't really help. It didn't even neccesarily feel good, it just felt kinda weird. It gets to the point where he's licking it really hard and it feels very strange. It doesn't hurt, but it doesn't really feel good and I just want it to stop. I don't know if he's not being gentle enough, or he's just really bad at it. I've never had an orgasm and I want one really bad. Is there something I'm not doing (aside from sex) that he can do? We've discussed this in depth and we're both out of ideas. Help!!!

oh my. i know what you're talking about becuz when i was little the same thing happened with my mother. she totally neglected us kids and she almost left my father because she met all these new online buddies and all she did was go online all the time. it was very traumatic. anyway, if you love her don't let her go, but give her space. i was reading a book by dr. james dobson the other day which somewhat highlights your situation. just give her some time to let her be free and to express herself and get it out of her system. maybe you should separate for a while just so she can get her bearings and understand how much she really needs you. i know you feel like you've been waiting for so long for this "craze" to be over, but maybe some alone time is what you really need. if you loves you as much as she says she does, then she'll come back to you, and if she wants to live in her new world with her new friends, then maybe you're better off anyway (as hard to believe as that may seem). it's your choice. you can continue to live in this hell, or you can separate and give her other options.

if he loved you that much, he wouldn't break up with you in the first place. and dumping someone on the phone is sooo low. besides, it just seems like he's dumping you and just in case he can't find anyone better then he'll go out with you again. you're right, you do deserve better.

wow. that's intense, but believe it or not, i totally understand. i know what it's like to love someone more than you can possibly describe, and every moment they're away from you you're thinking about them. what to do... ? you have to talk to her. show up with some flowers and tell her exactly what you've said her. one time i had an affair with my bf (whom i love very much, and i still did at the time), but it was only because i was confused and attracted to the other person as well. at the end of it, i realized how much i loved my bf and it brought us closer together. you have to let her know that you understand what she's done and it's okay. all that matters is your feelings about eachtother.

i don't think it's wise to change who you are to please her. obviously she loves you for who you are, because otherwise she wouldn't be with you. even though she isn't as romantic as you'd like her to be, don't pressure her to the point where she gives up on the relationship. she loves you for who you are and you love her for who she is. that's all you need. never go into a relationship expecting to change someone. good luck.

a while ago, i've decided i am insane. i was reading my favorite book prozac nation and i decided that i'm insane or way too depressed. whenever my bf doesn't call me i think that he hates me, and whenever he does call me, i think that he likes me too much and he's too clingy and i want to get rid of him. i don't want to be like this. all i really want in life is to just settle down with a nice husband and have kids and have a meaningful relationship. i know i'm only a junior, but i still want to have a stable relationship. and i really like this guy. i know he likes me too, but i can't help from thinking that he doesn't whenever he doesn't call every two seconds! HELP!