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first off...shy people and phones don't mix AT ALL....if you ask her about being shy...guess what that's gonna do...(how would you feel if you were nervous/uncomfortable and someone put you on the spot?) My advice would be, if you're really interested find a way for you two to meet at a public place, or whatever...and be yourself. once a shy person gets comfortable with someone...they do open up. Believe me...I know how frustrating it is to talk to a shy person on the phone...its like trying trying to squeeze blood out of a turnip...it don't work...

I'd say that maybe you're pretty close to the target there....Guys have this knack for pushing the blame on the other person when they get caught. call it guilt, call it the fact that they know they were wrong, but before you lay any more into em, they're going to come up with something you "did wrong" can I say it was not your fault at all? no...but his reasons aren't justification for cheating. especially when he blames not being able to communicate that he's lonely on you. That's his responsibility.

Wow, between the ad in disguise, and the person with the sticky shift key, I feel even worse for you. Unfortunately I'm not a mind reader, but I can tell you one thing, he's got somethin big going on there inside his head. That type of behavior simply suggests that he has something to say, but he doesn't want to tell you. the short temper, the throwing stuff...is all pent up aggression. something has been really trying his patience as of late, but for some reason he can't or doesn't want to tell you. I'm sorry I can't give you any more ideas or help, but I hope this little bit helps in some way. Keep in mind however, that it could be something with himself too...he may be depressed.

I dunno if giving up is quite the right word here, but I think he should definitely learn to focus on other things. I think everyone has had that one person they wish they could be with...and the end result is never known. the advice that I'd tell him is this: go and live life...open your possibilities, don't give up, but don't count on it either..if it's meant to be it will be. I've been there...and all I can say is it isn't worth focusing on one person, but it's never a good idea to eliminate anybody.

believe it or not...it sounds like they do view you as a good friend...or at least someone to lean on. my guess is the reason she blew you off, was because she figures that you'll always be there. I'm guessing that if this relationship goes south...you're gonna be the first person she calls to cry on your shoulder. I'm not gonna give you any suggestions on what to do...since you're not looking for advice...I just figured I'd put another view out there...

theres some bad news on the horizon man...unless you get her to wake up. I've seen this kinda thing before. shy, reclusive person meets people on chat, realizes he/she can do the same thing in real life, and suddenly chatting isn't as big of a deal anymore. I suggest you find out real quick where this is going...or she might loose interest in you, as she's done with chatting...good luck.

age does have an affect...but honestly I don't think its really all on him. I'm 25, and have been dating my girlfriend since she was 19 (she's 21 now). and although it isn't as big of a difference, It's enough of one. when one or the other is young dating an older person, the older person sometimes gets thrown into a "parent" position. not because they want to, but because they've had more experiences, it almost comes naturally. and of course when someone is in their mid to late teens, theres usually a big aversion to parent types. this is a big clash right here... the other reason I'm offering has nothing to do with age. by the time a relationship reaches a year...the newness has worn off, the excitement of having another person isn't so incredibly exciting anymore. so you start to find stuff about the other person that bugs you, and you are comfortable enough with that person to let him/her know it...and viola...you have an argument.. neither one of these is a sign of doom....provided that both of you realize that you do love each other, and both of you have the patience, and think clearly enough to not do anything over the top to the other. I honestly think you're going through the biggest test of a relationship...if you pass it, then everything will be alot smoother in the future...if you dont...then maybe it wasn't meant to be

I know I'm a bit late with the advice...(I went to CT myself, great week). but here's my view on the whole deal. It all depends on how secure your b/f is, and if he truly believes that he means to you as much as you say he does. and alot of other things on top of that. if he's insecure about the relationship, or simply very possesive, he'd have a big problem with that...basically his view is either that your breasts are for his eyes only, or he'll think that anyone else who sees them will be after you to take his place. at the opposite end of the whole deal is the guy who is secure, very proud of his significant other, and views it like "see what I'm going home with?" all in all...if you don't know him enough that you'ld have to ask this question, you probably shouldn't do it.