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RLM, Thanks for the advise, yes i can read, and have been searching the net for this, i am aware that it is normal, but things seem different when it is your own children. as to what to say to them was mostly the advise i was looking for. thanks again.

In my defence i guess i should say why i have been married so many times, I only see one out of all the last 4 as my fault. My first husband i was 19 young and dumb, he went to prison 3 mo into the marriage for sleeping with a 12 yo girl. I had to divorce him. My second husband Whom i was devoted to beat me and drank every day. It wasn't until the last beating that landed him in the hospital and me in jail. for stabbing him that it ended, and my 3rd husband was my stupidity for being bored after 4 yrs of an open relationship and lies that i had enough. My 4th husband cared more for drugs and a party life w/o me, and after living in my car with my kids w/o him for 2 wks i met my now husband. whom i love very much and he does satisfy me. but that don't mean the craveings arn't still there. I like to have fun and be adventurous now and then. preferably with my husband.

Where to begin? I am a 30yo bisexual woman. I discovered this my first expirience when i was 18yo. I have had many different expieriences with other woman in life. never any serious. mostly for fun and fulfillment. I am on my 5th marriage to a man that is great to my kids and myself. But i still feel something is missing. I had my last bisexual expierience nearly 2 and a half yrs ago. my last husband didn't approve and saw it as cheating. my husband now sees it the same way. I have only had one of my marriages that approved, and didn't mind at all. he like me sharing with him. since then i have missed it. I have tried to discuss how i feel and crave being with woman on occation with my husband , but it is not a topic to discuss. it is what i call a non negotionable. I stay away from bars and drinking other than at home. to avoid any connection with woman. and i isolate myself to be sure that i will be faithful. But the desire is still there. I can't explain why, becouse i never cared to know why i liked that. i just went with it and have always been open about it. My husband knows if i venture out w/o him while he works at night that anything could happen, and he accepts that i am that way. but has told me if he ever found that i CHEATED on him with a man or a woman he would leave me. This is very hard for me to stay faithful. mostly becouse i have cut out alot of what i enjoy to be with him. as i have done befor. any advise could be helpful at this point. Mind you i have been remaried for less than 2 wks. been with him for 11 months now.

Well here is a topic i can relate to, from the womans perspective. I have dealt with a low sex drive for as long as i can remember. kinda like spurts , sometimes i always want it and then times i don't . I just got remaried. and the whole wk of our honey moon, we made love twice. since the honey moom we have made love 2 times a day. The only thing i know that couses me to not be in the mood is the repitition of out sex life. If everytime we make love it is the same way same style or possitions. i don't want what i can imagine in my head and then it is like why bother with the mess after. But if i can't imagine what this time will be like the excitement of the unknown really turns me on. Maybe you and your wife have hit a stale road in your sex life and she needs new and creative ways to become excited. think back to when you first got together, and try to relive some of those moments. Or talk to her about new and adventure different places, for example next time you are out alone together. take a detour to the country, and pull off on the road and anitiate it right then and there. you never know. as far as getting cought. don't worry. could you imagine sitting in a cell and telling someone "what are you in for" and you say " oh my wife and i were makeing love on a bill board " or something like that? I don't think so. the person who would catch you would probably be more imbarrased than you. lol Speaking from expirience. not cought yet. but sure fun trying.

i think i handled the situation the best i could, i didn't beat any asses. they both spent some time in separate rooms. then i talk to each of them separately. i feel i am not reaching them. my biggest fear is my daughter. becouse things happened to me as a child, and my own father is in jail now for messing with kids. i am so affraid that if someone like an adult touches her she wont tell me, he own brother did and she didn't tell me. then to find out it has been going on the last 3 days, i remember being a kid and knowing my parents were so stupid to not know things i did, and now i see what they went through. I keep getting told it only gets worse as your kids get older. and OMG i have 3 girls to protect

Go for it then. ask her to meet you somewhere that you need to talk, and surprise her with some roses, or something sweet that you know she would like, then ask her to join you for dinner , that would be a good way to break the ice and talk about it with her.

My 9yo son and 8yo daughter are exploring eachother sexually, i have been told this is normal. My son doesn't live with me. my daughter does. i also have 2 younger daughters 4 and 3yo. thus far, nothing has happened between or to them. I have cought my eldest two befor. and have explained till i am blue in the face on how unacceptable there behavior is. They are now at the age where i feel they know what they are doing, when asked why they both say " it feels good" . I don't know what else to do about this. part of me wants to send my daughter away when my son is here to protect her. but then she never sees her brother, part of me wants to not allow my son to come back. but i can't do either. unfortunately when my son is with me and something happens, his father does not help. refuses to get him counceling etc. He has never helped.my son is also ADHD. He is very smart and acceles at everything he does. makes A's in school. etc. It is easy to talk to him, he is honest with me. but i can't seem to get throught to him how important it is not to be doing sexual things with his sister. If anyone has been throught this and can help please i need advise. thanks

Hi, In order for you to ask her out romantically, you first need to know her interests. How well do you already know her? If not that well, then i would suggest to be honest and strait forward, something like " Hi, i was wandering, would you like to get together sometime." sounds cheezy hu, if she says no, then you know. if not that will open a line of comunication for you. Good luck