metalblade

becauuuuse... When you enter into a relationship with another, you both agree not to have sexual relations with anyone but each other. when you have sex with someone else, you are clearly in breach of this unwritten contract. that's why. duh.. it's that simple. There are, however, couples who are in "open relationships" wherein the partners are allowed to have sex with other people. why must humans complicate things?!

oh man, I feel your pain. I had a boyfriend who was the same way, he'd tell me he loved me and wanted to be with me, then I'd find out he was chatting up all these other girls, asking them out, telling them they were beautiful and even telling one of them he LOVES her!! (though he insists it's just as a friend) I came to find out later on that he is having the same problem as your wife.. I am his 3rd girlfriend and, because he is inexperienced at the dating thing, I guess he wants a go at it. He wants to play the field. I tell him I know about his feelings and I know that's what he wants (his friends are all players and he's never had much luck with women) Now that he's on his own for the first time, he wants to have that "ladies man" single guy life. Even if it has cost him someone he supposedly loved. I'm going thru this right now and I hope to be where you are soon.. healed and at least semi-happy. Right now I'm confused, in pain and it feels like it's never going to end. Your story does give me hope that I'll be ok eventually.. it will just take time. Trust, however will probably figure HUGELY in any future relationships.

Oh girl I hear ya!! I'm just getting out of a relationship with a Stripper Addict and lemme tell ya!! he'll NEVER change!! I thought mine did for a while till he came home one night reeking of cheap perfume and beer. At first he told me that he'd gone to the pub down the street, but then he finally admitted he'd been to the strip club, but "just to see his friend who worked there" and the perfume was cause she came up and gave him a hug. When we first met, he came off as this shy, sweet nerdy sort who never had any luck with the girls and was a gentleman all the way. then, once we moved in together, everything changed.. he went away to his hometown about every couple of weeks (an hour away) to "blow off steam" with his buddies and after one of these excursions, ended up bringing back some very interesting photgraphs on our digital camera.. there were pics of girls' bums (he insisted his friend nicked his camera and snapped those shots) and a few of him with some college girl all hugged up on him like they were a couple. WE didn't even have pictures like that together!!! Turns out he TOTALLY misrepresnted himself and was actually not a gentleman, but a porn addict who, during our whole relationship was flirting with and asking out other girls behind my back. So watch out.. your man seems like on of those masogynistic frat-boy party types and you'll never change him, the more you object, the more careful he'll be to ensure you don't find out. He will do it anyway till he gets it out of his system.

No way in HELL would I go to see male strippers!! I saw video of how they dance and whatnot and it's bloody ridiculous!! Plus, they're all probably GAY and as someone further up in thread said, Men dancing is immascualting.. I don't find that sexy in the least.. plus.. they don't even show anything in those places you wouldn't see on a normal day at the beach. OOOH topless guys big whoop!! If I wanted to see some shaven guy with an orange spray-tan and blonde streaks in his hair prancing around in a sequined speedo, I'd go hit up the local gay bar. Sorry, I think METAL shows are where the sexy ones are.. long hair, metal tee, ripped jeans and a guitar! and you don't even have to PAY them to talk to you. YUM!! Guys who go to strip clubs are sad individuals. They have to PAY girls to get naked for them cause they can't get REAL girls to do it. The saddest of the sad is the guy who thinks these girls are actually INTERESTED in them!! I had an ex who thought he was friends with 2 strippers. He's insist I was being unreasonable for objecting to the strip club excursions as he was only going to "see his friends" whom, by the way, NEVER saw him outside the club. They are paid to feign interest in the customers for bigger tips and to keep them coming back.. it's all a fantasy world which can be fun, but my ex took it a little too far jeapordising our very real relationship to pursue this fantasy. Funny how, once he stopped going to the clubs, these girls forgot who he was.

aww come on people!! don't shoot the messenger.. Myspace isn't causing these problems, infact, it's bringing them to light so they can be dealt with!! Sure you can easily misunderstand comments left on someone's myspace page and a lot of people get pretty personal and flirty on those things.. but in this case, the evidence is CLEAR as DAY!!.. look at the dates on the messages, and look at their last log-in dates. there's a chance these could be old profiles from when they were together that they've long since stopped visiting and thus, never updated.. (to play devil's advocate here) The dates are important.. if they fall within the time you 2 were an item, dump his sorry ass with a QUICKNESS!!!