frangipani1

I think you might be overanalyzing... consider her perspective - what if she is worried about seeming too keen, and is keeping it low key for that reason? And suddenly you disappear? People seem to think that everyone ELSE projects exactly the right messages at the right times to the right people - not always!! What if right now SHE is thinking - "hmm, cute guy, seemed interested, sent a valentines day card, was in touch and I said - hey keep in touch - and when I saw him out I got nervous, folded my arms and talked about how poor I am - and now he's gone... god-damnit!" Give it a chance at least and don't jump to conclusions. If you attitude right now is already "god damnit!", then for the love of God ask her out for a coffee at least. Or if she seems into outdoor stuff and has no money maybe a hike?? And go from there...

... the good thing about seeing a movie (maybe give her the choice of what she wants to see?) is that you can go for a coffee or drink afterwards and you have an instant topic to discuss... so you get to know her a bit, and don't have the pressure of keeping the conversation going right through dinner. Good luck!

How about acupuncture? I've had trouble with light sleep... waking often during the night... etc... and after the normal things (regular exercise, avoiding caffeine, drinking plenty of water, getting into a good routine, valerian, camomile etc) I am trying acupuncture. I've only been for a couple of treatments so far but I've noticed even with that, that if I wake during the night, I can fall back asleep more easily. Apparently it works for some people, not for others ... but maybe that's worth a shot?

If you only met her for three minutes in person and she's called you several times since and just about landed on your doorstep... I think there could be warning signs right there..... and given that you barely remembered what she looked like (let alone know her) why care so much if she loses interest? But, if you are interested, hang out with her, see how you hit it off.... but definitely don't play games with her!

Sounds like you have the right idea... only don't think of it as playing hard-to-get.... just make the choice to move on and find someone who gives you the time and effort you deserve... And remember that if you start to play hard-to-get you can end up attracting a guy who loves the thrill of the chase rather than you...and that spells disappointment. Or game-playing. All the best!

My friends and I swear by the three-day-rule... that is, if you haven't heard from a guy within three days, forget it. He's not that serious. And what kind of contact is all about what you're comfortable with... try something genuine, fun, complimentary, and short... and see how she responds... Anyway, good luck!

If you and your ex are both empty without each other, what is the reason you broke up and how long ago did it happen? What did you do to try to fix things at the time? Can your new guy find a room-mate if you move out? Can you both move out to places you can each afford? Why would he choose to stay in a relationship where his partner is in love with someone else? (how much does he know about all this?) Can you move out and spend time on your own for a while.... either figuring out how to move on from your ex in a healthy way, or working on getting back together? What does your ex think of getting back together? .......