GoldersGreen

Ouch! Must be painful.

Keep going! On the road to positivity. I'm sure you're on your way now. Well done!

I absolutely agree with Dubb. This happened to me recently. He did the whole "break" thing, calling me up and then saying we should talk about things when they settled. When in reality it was PAR-TAY time with him and all his mates and he'd done himself the favour of getting off the hook by spinning me a white lie so I wouldn't be so suss. As for the call to talk it through? Well, one month on, I'm NOT waiting!!! It's really hard to see the situation for what it is when you are in love with someone but REALLY, you must read SuperDave's posts as they are crystal clear about the reality of yours, mine and many other people's situations.

I'm in this situation right now too. It's kinda hard to get that call and have all your dreams and hopes shattered all of a sudden, when you were looking forward to getting deeper into someone and just had only experienced a fraction of what you knew was there and could be shared together. Worse than that is the sort of bluff they give you, the fake hopes, where you have to figure it out for yourself that the relationship's over because they were too weak to state it in the first place or even to do the decent thing and to have discussed anything before they plunge in with the BAM! statement.... Take care, think of yourself as better off out. Especially if he didn't want quality around him!

Thanks for posting. I hope it's applicable for girls who get dumped by the bf? We always get stuck in these cliches about the sexes so I'm never sure how it works the other way around

Hey there, I've been through this before too (about 4 years ago and these forums really helped me get through it). Try to take each day as it comes, allow yourself some grieving time (it really is ok) and in all honesty, while it's still fresh, I found that getting away and not being near the house or them was really refreshing. I used to spend a bit of time with friends to lift my spirits a bit or do something I really liked (like spending it with animals and horses for their gentle nature). I know that these are only posts and words but I hope that people care and send positive thoughts your way will put a smile on your face (however brief it might be today...it might be longer tomorrow ;-))

That's such an amzing text! I'm going to post it in my blog so I can keep looking at it and remembering your wise words!! Thanks for posting!

Hades, that was a great post. I guess the saddest thing is when you do know that it is love in 3-6 months and you're excited about the future and the ability to get to know this new person, only to find that bam, the door is slammed in your face and the opportunity is gone. Man it hurts!