chocojay

you are obsessed and are losing yourself in this dude. its not normal, collecting gum?..ick...its SO not normal...its strange, its like you are his biggest fan. You'll find that u dont actually love him but you have a space in your mind where he has taken over everything else and this is not normal human love behaviour. Seek help seriously or YOU WILL ruin a potentially great relstionship. He may thnk its "cute" now, not for long tho. You'll push him away. Its far too clingy,obsessive and you need to seek professional help or else you may lose him if this behaviour continues, its very dangerous. Good Luck! LOL

I knw hw u feel, im in that boat myself. I did however realise that no one has the right to take control of my life simply because they know they have my heart. Its a very selfish and cruel thng to do. I know that there is a man out there waiting to take beautiful care of u, and u are not there because you are still tied to this loser! He does not deserve u and sweety, men will say they love you just to get in your pants. Unfortunatley we tend to believe them and thats our downfall. Surround yourself with positive people and keep your mind busy and you'll hardly think about him, take a jog in the morning to clear your mind then get into a busy day...sooner or later you'll think less and less of him, till u think of him no more. He has alot of growing up to do and as long as u realise that the issue is with him and not you, he has a problem, not u. Be selfish, take care of yourself and make yourself happy, i knw its hard but in the end u'll feel lighter and happier. U deserve only the best, have spiritual guidance along the way, its a long painful, difficult journey u'll need a greater power when the going gets tough. Be strong, trust yourself, know your self worth and be realise that u are beautiful, intelligent and no man is worth losing yourself over. Good luck! Go get em! LOL

I dnt think its someting that u CANT stop doing, its something u WONT stop doing. Its a choice. If u really love your girlfriend u would stop doing this at once. I have a very flirtatious boyfriend and i tell you now that its thee most terrible thing to have, its disrespectful and hurtful. stop this behaviour at once or i promise u, ur GF will be out the door. U may thnk its cute, but its painful, selfish and disrespectful.

i have a great support system and my family will be able to help me with the baby and i also have a job so i'll be able to take care of myself and the baby. I was looking for that push and see things from a different perspective from woman that are older and wiser and thats what i received, thank you.

thanks guys

u think so?

Hope you help me. Bin wit him for 5 yrs now. He's 28 im 22, we live n work together which puts a huge strain on us. I think he cheats on me badly. I've seen emails he sends to these girls, telling them how unhappy he is in his relationship. It hurts because after all these years u think surely he is able 2 address these issues wit me if he's not happy. He gets calls from girls and speaks really sneaky like, and when we get home from work he puts his phone on silent mode, eveyday. i found out last year that he had been seeing this girl from the other side of town and they'd bin having a really deep emotional affair. But he says that he didnt love her but his emails to her say otherwise. He says he was just being naughty with her! I know i should leave because its not healthy for me but somehow, him being my first makes it hard to think beyond him. There are about 4 of these girls and it hurts me so much. They are skanks, the easy type. He goes out with his friends every weekend without me now, says after a long week with me he needs time out. But even WE need our time during the weekend. Im nw a few weeks pregnant and havin lost our first baby, i know thats its a gift from God, but i also know that leaving will be harder now! At tyms i dont want this baby. I wntd to leave the country but now i cant coz that job wont take me with a huge belly! Im confused, ive become suspicious of everything, every call, im paranoid and insecure! I know its not healthy and ive become so mad that we become physical, its unhealthy. We are thinking of councelling. please advise me, am i just young and stupid? :sad: