mariab.

I always felt we would be each other's lives forever and now it seems that it wont happen...how could I ever trust someone that hurt me like that? even friends do not do that..

thanks! I would not want to be in a relationship w/ him again either, its just that i didn't want to lose him...I guess i'll move to the anger stage soon and then acceptance and healing. I hope one day he does miss me and regrets it and by that time i will be over him. (i know it sounds childish to think about the future like that but that is one way i can let go...:sad:

thanx isidore. ur right.

My boyfriend and I broke up- I have started 2 new threads on this as I still am reeling over him leaving. My question is to the men out there. On our final talk, which I needed for closure he told me that we were over done for good, he wanted to sleep w/ other people, date other people and that although he saw a future w/ us it would not happen for a couple of years (he is younger and I was his first girlfriend and lover) he told me he just wanted to be friends and that we could date but i had to know that he was also going to date other people and that he was going on dates and had hooked up w/ girls already that he was "free". This is the same man that I lived w/, went out w/ for a year and half, that told me that I was his "dream come true, his goddess" that his life started when we met...He showed me all the girls that he has on his myspace page that are interested in him etc. Well, I was hurt and at the end I told him, "call me if you ever miss me or want to date me" he said "I'll always be there for you but don't wait for that call" was he trying to hurt me? I initiated the break and the break-up and when I had second doubts he stood his ground and said he needed time and space and freedom (our relationship was pretty intense) I needed the break too, but expected we were going to part w/ an understanding that we would re-unite eventually and keep in touch minimally. So I was floored, I started no contact (4 days now) and now I am wondering whether he said those things to hurt me or just to tell me the truth. Two weeks ago I was his dream come true, now when I had asked him if he missed me he said "no". Either way I am moving on, I need to for my mental well-being and really have no hopes he will call again. I guess my question is was he trying to hurt me or just tell me the truth and didn't care if he hurt me? I guess my pride is at stake

thanks guys. I wish they would come up w/ a total myspace page block. and he started his page after we broke up...

Is there a way, besides sheer willpower to block my ex's myspace page so I can't see it? Please help, I am obsessing over it!

thanks guy thank you. I am really torn up over this for a lot of reasons but mainly guilt over the way I treated him if I could take that back!!!I knew our relationship was going to end, he needs to see what is out there and find out what he wants. We did not have a good relationship so it is much better that we are over. I just feel hurt that he discarded me like a kid discards a toy he's not interested in anymore. I have started the no contact, even have changed my cell # so he doesn't call (I did send out a mass email telling everyone I got a phone, including him and I regret putting him on it) You can laugh, but its been a day only but I feel much better. I do kind of think what is the percentage of people calling after the other person has done the no contact-I guess now I need to give him a chance to miss me if he does at all.. It feels so good also to know there are people like you guys out there too...thank thank you!!

thanks Beec. right now I can't b friends w/ him and honestly I don't know how long it will take before I get over him. I do miss him, and would eventually like to be friends but even then, what if he still doesn't want me? Is it better to just walk away and let this amazing bond between us go or stick around? and how long with the no contact? will he miss me? I know right now he hasn't had time to miss me if he will at all:sad: ... Im sorry I have all these questions. I feel horrible right now...

my boyfriend and I had dedcided to take a break as things were not going well in our relationship. 85% of the issue was me and I needed to focus on getting better mentally, pretty much I was insecure, possessive, jealous, controlling... I know not good but he also became like that too so we were both in this co-dependent relationship that was not healthy and had to end. Plus the fact that he had gotten laid off and is in the midst of trying to open up a bike shop (he's a great biker) so he had to move in w/ his mom to save $ and also find what he wanted to do. In short, we were due for a break. He really really loved and I treated him skeptically as he would tell me all the time I was his dream come true his goddess he would bring me flowers all the time etc. I initiated the break (I was ready for it) and 4 days later he texted me that he missed me & I ws just mean and nasty to him. He got the rest of his stuff out and we talked where he told me that he realized he needed time etc etc and was not ready to get back in a realtionship w/ me he could only date me. Well, I freaked out and started crying etc and we left in that we would talk later. The next day I told him that I needed to be #1 and if he couldn't give me that then we should just break up. Only later did I realize that all the work that I need to do I cannot be in a relationship right now and all I can give myself is to date. but he said that he needed time and coulnd't talk to me (that was last tuesday) I went over his house with the rest of his stuff and we talked and he told me that he needed time and space which I told him I was willing to give him then we made love..(I know bad move)This monday I went to my shrink & I had lost all this weight and he wanted to hospitalize me (I used to b anorexic) So I called his mom and told him and he was very concerned and we talked that night. I told him about all that I realized and was changing about myself and that I just wanted a 2nd chance not now, but in a couple of months to show him that I had changed, he told me that we were over and that he wants to date orther people and sleep w/ other people (I was his first, he held himself out for the "perfect" one , me :sad: ) So he told me he didnt' want to lose me that we have this bond that is unbreakable and he sees us together later, in 2 years..He said he wants to be my friend and maybe we can date as friends but hes going to date other people. He told me that he thinks I am controlling and he is easily controlle..But I am changing and working on myself and know that I cant be friends w/ him right now maybe later, so I told him call me if you miss me and want to date me and he said"don't wait for the call, but I will always be there for you.." I am not not contacting him again but my heart is broken and I have so so much guilt. What do I do??? thanks guys