My ex dumped me 6 weeks ago. He broke up with me over the phone I was in shock - did not see it coming He simply said he didn't have those "in love" feelings anymore. He said he has other feelings for me but not the "in love" ones. We had been together for a little over 6 years. I was so in shock that I didn't say much of anything. I thought it was normal to lose that "in love" feeling after that long of a time together and move on to a more mature type of love We got along great and didn't fight. He swears there is no one else. A week after he dumped me I sent him a letter (nice but not emotional) saying I would like to talk about things that I had realized since we broke up. I did not blame him for anything. I have not heard from him and have not contacted him in the past 5 weeks. After a lot of thought I have realized where things may have gone wrong. I really want to discuss it with him. Since we broke up over the phone in a 3 minute conversation I do not feel that we have discussed anything and after 6 years together where the majority of it was really great, I feel we should at least attempt to talk about it. I think from what he said that he is also confused as to why the "in love" feelings are gone. I have been reading the posts on here all about the NC if you want someone back which is why I haven't contacted him since the letter. I am very torn as to what to do. I REALLY want to talk to him and think it would help to put things into perspective but I don't want to push him away. I still love him very much. At the very least if it doesn't help to get him back it may help me with closure. Closure is not what I want but if there is no hope than I need to know that and the only way I will is to talk to him, right?