blackend heart

i stupidly read the first page then replied, i know how he feels tho, i worked my * * * off trying to please my ex and all i got was the cold shoulder, but now i have found the right person. Shy Guy just dont give up, the memorys of her will remain for a while, but try to focus on things that you did before her or new things. Eventually you will find the right person, i believe that out there somewhere everyone has a soulmate its just a matter of finding them. So i hope you find someone soon, but dont beat yourself up, or even think how it could have gone differently, i did these things and it only made me feel worse about myself,

You truley are a God among men, you are so kind to ahve helped us so much, thankyou so much, and thankyou again, i can never express howmuch you have helped and how much i appreciate it.

(__X) I went throughthe same thing just a few weeks ago, although it is good I was out of the relationship I felt like I couldn't go on without him. Why they leave for another woman/man is because they want something you cannot give, and also, it may be becuse they feel you deserve better, of that they deserve better, people like this don't deserve anybody, unfortunately people like this end up getting what they want, as they make sure the person they want takes them before dumping. Ways to move on: Go to your old friends and friends, take yourself shopping: Write down a list of things you've wanted to do for a while and do them, you never know you might meet someone new: Join some clubs, and do things you didn't expect to do. Do things you've always wanted to do: Be yourself and have a laugh. I know it's hard, it was hard for me, but soon it'll be ok

ok just a min ago i had an emo trip. and to help me my boyfriend (NDG that is, yes it is __X atm) told me to come on and say whats up. Well, We had some fun, and it reminded me of my Ex, I enjoyed it better, with NDG but I can't help thinkin of my Ex. And I don't want to think of my Ex, especially when I'm with NDG.

yep thats good,make sure she uses them, it'll help her ears alot if she is uncompfortable with the earplugs she has, try and tind some self mold ones, which are alot compfier?

no idont. also to help your gf, you can get earplugs, there are alsorts of different types. (btw it is __X) hope that helps ur gf. I'm seeing my ENT specialist on the 7th august so all's good

im sorry i was idle but i was having breakfast and i had been waiting for you for 2 hours, anyways if you like you can tell me about your dreams, and im always here to talk to and rant at.

is there anything that i can do to help things along smoothly, and possibly quickly, i really wanna help X and make sure that she makes a happy and full recovery.

sweetie you know that im always here for you

im sorry too, i just overeact, and you are right im not worthless at least i can put a smile on your face no matter how bad you are feeling

less than a day and __x has had already been in contact with her ex, i dont know what to do please will someone talk some sense in to her, its killing me knowing that whatever i try isnt being taken on board, i told you all i was wothless i cant do anything, whats the point in living if you can only stand and watch the one yo ulove destroy herself???

ok i know this isnt the end of this thread as there is a lot to cope with and to sort out, but i would like to give a great big thankyou for all that have helped, without you guys i fear that i would have lost the one i loved and for that i am forever in your debt, thankyou so much and another thankyou for making me realise that i do play an important role and that i arent as useless and i first thought, thankyou

do you think i could participate in helping her in the personal growth exercises, at least that way i feel like im doing something towards helping, rather than just listening and being there ??

no offence __x and please dont be angry at me but you said that last time, and the time before that. i really want to help you but it seems that i am a failure, i really wanna help but i dunno, im asking for help to get help, but will you take their advice??

i am trying to keep jon (the EX) away but it seems that however much i try the git always seems to find a way to contact her, i dont know what to do, in fact the task has seemed near impossible so i have given up and i feel so bad about doing it. please someone give me some advice as to what i should do __x i know you still contact jon and i know that you didnt want me to know but you have to understand i knew before he told me, you went to him because he was the only person that knew everything, the only person that could possibly understand, but now you have me, im here for you, you have told me everything even if it was indirectly. and you must know that im always here for you, and i will never judge you with your actions, i love you... one final thing before i end this reply, does anyone else think im right in trying to stop __x from contacting her Ex especially as it is him that has made most of this worse for her, its just i dont want to be the kind of BF that tells her what she can and cant do, who che can and cant see, i dont want that, because that isnt a relationship that is a dictatorship and not how things should work.

sweetie i am always here for you if ever you need to talk, or even to shout just please dont hesitate to call me, or if you are unable to call me i will try to call you. im here for you and i dont want to see you getting hurt. i love you andn i always will xxxx

The way that i look at things love is a difficult thing to get rid of, especailly if you dont fully understand the reasons for the break up, i felt the same way after i broke up with my girlfriend in march but as it was only a 5 month relationship the after effects didnt last that long, i also believe that if you keep your eyes open the right person will just walk right in to your life. but who wants to take the advice of a 17 yr old, i mean im only on my second relationship so i cant really talk from experiance

im sorry but this is rubbish, i ask my girlfriend about her past simply because i know that it hasnt been all that good to her, im not getting ammunition im asking so that i dont act in the same way, i love my gf and i could never do anything to hurt her, i dont see why {Mod Edit} guys that think they ahve a right to copy things from the past for the rest of us guys what you said there is a generalisation. if your GF is asking you question about previous relationships perhaps she is insecure of herself, she may feel like she is going to loose you so asking about people in the past is a way of her getting to know the kind of person you like so that she can change herself, to "attract" you more.

i think about this all the time, especially because most of the arguments in the house involve or are about me, if i were never born many things would have happened, for instance my old friends would be happier because i was a bit of a bully, but the only reason i was a bully was because i was bullied myself, i have had teeth knocked out and i have been beaten with cricket bats, but i was never that bad, also my family would be happier as there would be no arguments, my girlfriend would had suffered 7 months less abuse from her ex. because my girlfriends ex fancied my ex, if i was never born then i would have never gotten with my ex and thereforeeee my GF's ex would have dumped her sooner, so in answer to the orignal question yes i do think about it , and as an add on i wish i had never been born

the problem i have really is that i take on other peoples problems before sorting my own, i have always done it, i am going to start a thread on here eventually but i want to make sure __x is ok first, i dont think i could cope without her, she is the only thing making me happy at the moment but i want her to be better before i start on myself, i just dont want to loose her... actually im just scared, im scared for __x i want to be there for her but i have no idea what she is going through, im constantly worried that i will say something wrong that will push her over the edge or uncover something that will do the same, i want __x to be ok because i can honestly say i have never loved another person in the same intensity that i love __x. the thing is unless we both get the help we need/desire then we are in danger of loosing each other anyway.

thats true, it was a shock before i mean she told me the little things but i never really knew how deep it went, and i know you say it isnt my fault, but if we had never gone out with each other she would have never confided in me and i would never have opened the doorway to the past

it is, if i was a better BF then i wouldnt probe in to your past i would stay strong rather than cryin dow the phone at you, from now on im going to try and be your rock

i never knew im so sorry, im the BF bt the way __x referred me, i dont know how i can help i feel so guilty about everything its my fault that this has all come in to the open