Belgian girl

He has blocked or deleted me.. I feel so much pain about that. I think and hope that it's blocked. Only about three times he came online after the split up, but about the last two months no more. I think I would never block an ex. And yeah, in this case I really want to keep on holding hope.. I love him with whole my heart. All the best, Susan

Could you please explain what VENT means? I'm new here and I don't know.. Thanks!

Hi I don't know what I expect about what's going to happen in your case, also because I don't know so much about the situation.. Maybe some encouragement I could give you by trying to realize it could take more time than three weeks for him to start missing you (probably now he's searching other things to do, other people to go on with,..) Well, I guess the best for you to help you through the NC is to do about the same. (I think it's up to you if you let it 'show' that you are still going on with your life again (I think that's usually the best also for him if he finds out that you really are..)) So maybe the best advice I could give: take a chance to do the things you have more time for now. All the best, Susan

offtopic: I'm from the Netherlands but I live in Belgium

Congratulaions and keep on doing the good work

yeah.. I didn't read it as well.. But maybe the tips could help in some circumstances, by some persons

Perhaps a strange question, but is there someone who can understand how or what he was or is feeling/thinking? Maybe a discription of that could clear up some more for me..

Especially a reaction @ cooooolsome : When I asked him (two days after the split up/next time I saw him) if he tought we could be together after a longer time/periode, he answered with I don't eleminate anything (guess a strange translation.. I mean: everything could happen). When I asked him for a change (to restart), about 2months or a little less later, he said I've had my chance just after the split up, but I hasn't changed at that moment and continued with asking questions (the mainreason he gave to make an and on it, that I keep on asking questions even when he give signals that he doesn't want to talk). I had my reason for that. I just wanted that as a phase/period. To feel more that it is serious between us and that we share the same opinions about the subjects I think are important. I especially wanted this 'phase' because we haven't had seks during our relationship but we both really loved each other and were really longing for that, but I was afraid to be left not long after we would do that, because I love him so much, and it would make it much more difficult to forget him. I think I've never told him this 'reason'/way of thinking.

Yes, also think she's confused Maybe keep on letting her feel you are there for her and not push (a lot) but if you don't see a chance after longer time I think I should ask about it Maybe also not look to serious about everything (for a while) and just could laugh with het about something for example

Now I'm quite fine. Only still a little confused and I can't imagine what I have to expect from the (near) future. But almost everyday I still 'fall back' and feeling sad again, usually in the evening. If someone has more sight on it, or has seen such a situation before or any other informatie I could use.. please give me.. Thanks..

Ok. But what should I understand about the duration of NC? I mean, we have a few contact now, it really is a little bit (one or two times a week the same bus.. and before also once a week eating together). Or do you (plurial) mean that I should look uninteressed or something or even then not start to talk or not react enthousiastic? I have my doubt about that last thing.. because I've always said things like I really mean or feel even if I have more chance it could be used against me (like when I felt kind of jealous I told him but he understand it wrong what I meant with it..) Thanks a lot!!!!

I share the same tought as markm and majord 23. Maybe you're a little confused, I mean, it confuses me that you write that he's indifferent etc. but now it seems you are as well such of.. You should realize that there's a big chance that it's about now or never together! If he finds out that you already have contacts with someone else, he will be even more sure about it that he has taken the right decission. (excuse me if I make writing errors..)

Ah sorry, now I guess NC means: No communication. Is it? Thanks!

Thank you both very much!! I've read the answers. Thanks for taking soms time and help me thinking.. But please, could anyone tell me, what means: NC?? Perhaps a stupid question because everybody seems to use it.. I guess: New Chance? If you want you may add me at MSN: email removed @cooooolsome : maybe I wasn't clear enough about that part, but it really isn't the case that studying doesn't interest him very much.. he even came to me somethimes specially to help me with difficult parts and my questions.. It was just that he did his best to convince me (about a quarter) at the telephone to go with him, and because it hurted him to explain again to his 'friends' that I wasn't with him and that he was the only person without a girlfriend there. I guess he also tought that I loved him less (because of his nickname two weeks ago.. but I'm still blocked). Also thanks for not throwing away my hope (excuse me if I use wrong constructions of sentences..) I also want to say that I often have the headache (also got to due with my sinus) and it's difficult to look enthousiastic even if I think I would have been without the 'pain'. Good luck to you all..

Hello, I've just read your story, sounds perfect If you find the time and space, could you perhaps read my story and/or send a PM? Thank you and keep on doing the good work!

Dear all, At first, thanks for taking the time to read my 'story'. I'm from Belgian, so I'm doing my best to write everything well. Excuse me if I'm not. At second, I think it's the best that I describe my situation, but not too much. If there are some questions about it/something isn't very clear, I'ld love to give further information about it. So I hope with this I don't forget to tell usefull details. I'm almost twenty. My boyfriend has made it out about 4,5 month ago. We've been together for 9 months. For him, it's his only relationship (never been with someone else before). When he made it out (the moment itself) he said: You're still a beauty and I love you, but things has been/ are too much for me. I agree that about the last two months (maximum three) things gone worse than before. I think there are a few circumstances for that: We both went living on our own (not together but about 15minuts away from each other) in a bigger city to go studying at the university. I also think that 'I' am/was not his only 'problem'/ not the only thing that made it too much for him. In the beginning he felt difficulties with the change (new people, something went wrong with the administration about his study, problems at home when he came back from beeing there in the week-ends). Another big reason I think was problems in communication. We used MSN daily, also because he had much more lessens than I had, so not always the time to meet each other. I think everything is just about misunderstanding (little examples: when I put crying emoticons in a message, he said later when I spoke with him, he taught I wasn't really crying but I was really sad at that moments) He gave me a few reasons why he made an end on it (but except one, he never teld me about the other things he didn't like that I was doing it) and he said there are some reasons he don't want to say because it could hurt and I shouldn't ask after it. Now I only see him two times a week about 1,5 hour after each other at the bus, we're still sitting next to each other and somethimes he talks a little bit but since a few weeks he's almost all the time listening music. He's a year younger than I am. Since he's made an end on it, I stopped with doing all the things I now know I irritated him with or where he said about I've hurted him with by doing it. I love him with whole my heart and I already know the bad things about him. It really isn't only feeling in love, a big time we were to getter I think I didn't feel that, but I feel very deep love for him. Even when he tries to hurt me (psychical, he only has done a few time's when he wanted to be left alone for a while and when I didn't do that) I feel so much love. I'm afraid the contact will get less and less. As a ritual we used to go eating together once a week, but the last four weeks he told me I don't know yet, or: I don't have time, when I asked him at the beginning of the week. The reasons I do know, are: I moved my face away (I think two times) when he tried to kiss me, and so I've hurted him. (But I didn't do that because I loved him less or something, just confused, I don't really know) but I 'felt it in my troath' by not doing that (It didn't made me happy). And that I refused it when he called me in the afternoon to invite me (he was very enthousiastic and sounded like he was sure I was going to come with him) to go to the cinema (movie) that evening, with his friends from the football. I've hurted him by not going that evening. As reason I was doubting between learning or going with him, and my dad taught it was better to stay home and study. So I asked him if it was alright if I would go with him to the next match (as a compromise) and he agreed. But afterwards he told me that it really hurted him, he had promised those friends from the beginning we were together to take me with him for a time, and everytime they were asking about me, and than he had to explain. And he was the only person that wasn't a couple during the movie, so his missed it extra much. But I taught he would also have fun with his friends, and that it was more that he wanted to do ME a pleasure by asking me, but my maindream was to finish the year together, and I really had to work hard for it. Well, the story isn't complete yet, but I would really appreciate it and I could really use some advise! I hope that I needn't hear answers like Forget him etc. because I really feel sorry and never felt something like this for someone else. Thank you, a frustrated girl