Hi, my name is Elie and I am new to this forum. I just broke up with my boyfriend of over 2 years last night and we're currently still on good terms. I'm talking to him right now online and it seems as if everything is normal but we both know that it's not. Here's what happened.
When we first started dating it was very intense. We fell in love quickly and we became so wrapped up with each other that we almost totally lost contact with all our other friends. The first year and a half was perfect, we loved each other and he treated me like a queen. Things started to take a turn during the last 9 months. At first it was me; I started noticing other people and I started questioning out relationship but I figured that it was just a phase and it will pass. Then he started hanging out more often with his new friends and I got irritated because he hardly made time for me so I would get angry. Then one day everything came crashing and he told me that he's losing his love for me. That day, we broke up briefly for a couple of hours until I realize what a big mistake I made and I called him back to patch things up. We decided to give it another try. He told me that he will try to gain back the love he had for me.
We went on for 3 months and I honestly thought everything was fine. The doubt I felt a couple of months back was gone and I was in love with him again, but the past week I started noticing more how he's distancing himself when he's not around so we got into an argument. I told him I think we need a break from each other but he said we should just break up entirely. He told me that although he tried really hard to regain his love for me, it didnt work. He said that he doesn't want to drag our relationship out and that it isn't fair for either of us. He said that ever since I started yelling at him for hanging out, he's been losing interest more and more. After much discussion and realizing that I can't say anything to change his mind, we decided to stay close friends because we've always been each others' best friend.
I was devasted for a day but surprisingly I'm not crying anymore. I guess it's because we are still talking so very normally and I haven't seen him since the break yet. At this moment, I can't imagine myself being with anyone else but him, and there is nothing that could make me happier than to win him back. However, I am also questioning myself since I spent so little time grieving maybe he was only meant to be my best friend afterall (I do start tearing when I think back to the good times but it's not nearly as bad). Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
