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Ok... I'm to the point of frustration. My bf came down to spend a few weeks with me. Things were going good until he came down here. He lives in VT 9 hours away, so it's difficult enough as it is. I've been up there a couple times to visit. He even invited me up to Easter dinner with his entire family in CT. He has been in the process of getting his life back into order before we met (ie, job, vehicle, and a place of his own). When we met, we hit it off pretty well and started talking every day. But he didn't want to really get into a relationship until his life was straight because he felt that he had nothing to bring to the relationship. The last time I went up to VT in February, he told me that he loved me (which isn't something he says easily). He came down here in April and stayed for almost a month and a half. The first week he was down here was great. Then he started to get a bit moody. Before, we only spend a week at a time together. Suddenly being with someone for 5 weeks straight when you're not used to it can take a toll. So, I'm not sure if we're taking a break, broke up, giving each other space. or what.... The last we spoke was on Thursday. He's told me that he loves me and that I have a part of his heart, but he needs to concentrate on getting his priorities straight. What's frustrating the most is that he's not a very verbal person and doesn't express his feelings very often. He left some things here, so I sent them out and they arrived today (according to Fedex). I sometimes think I'm alright and then my emotions take over. I didn't realize just how much I actually loved him until yesterday. I was hanging out with a couple of friends and started missing him horribly. But I'm trying not to call because I can't keep doing that to myself. I miss talking with him more than anything. But now most of all I miss hearing him tell me he loves me. I don't know what I'm doing sometimes. I'm am trying to let go so he can get some things straight, but it's so difficult!! Sorry to vent so much. I just needed to put my thoughts down. I've had some bad couple of days this weekend. I miss him so much. But you can't make someone want to be with you or even love you... right? Arrrggggh. I wish it didn't hurt so much

I'll pass on the messages to him. Thanks you all

haha you cracked me up with the him ripping his shirt off... hmmm that might not be such a good idea there... but her name is Jackie. lol...

Well my horoscope says that I'm (Leo) is not compatible with a Cancer. But I'm in a relationship with a Cancer. Most of the time my horoscope seems to fall true. However, if you meet someone that you hit it off with even tho their astrological sign isn't compatible doesn't or shouldn't mean that you shouldn't have anything to do with that person. My bf is awesome. We have our obstacles, but he's definitely a keeper.

Ok... So my boss wants to ask his gf to marry him. But her dream is to be proposed to at a Phillies game between innings on the big screen in front of 40 Thousand people. He's willing to do this for her. So here's his dilemma. He's terrified that he'll choke. He wants advice on what he should say to her. He knows it all has to come from the heart, but sometimes he gets tongue tied when it comes to powerful words and phrases. Any suggestions? He's really worried about how to start it all off... It has to be poetic and meaningful yet not cheesy. Let me know if you have any thoughts please! Thanks for your help.

"My Love for Him" Sometimes I sit and envision your face Wishing you were here so I could feel your embrace But instead I must sit alone Trying not to stress on the phone It's hard being so far away I try to be strong taking it day by day But sometimes my feelings get the best of me Knowing with you is where I want to be I'll always be your loving support Until the day all your feelings you sort Only to find I haven't left your side Even on the days when you just want to hide For now I must go with the flow Hoping and praying you don't tell me to go I never imagined I'd love like this again I lost my love way back when Then you came and reopened my heart In my life, you now play a special part I know it hasn't been long since you walked thru my door But just thinking of you makes my heart soar. I will love you always and forever Never stopping no matter what the endeavor I hope you understand how I feel I know sometimes I make it a big ordeal I may be stubborn and not give up even in the end Because you're more to me than just my best friend. AMW 04/09/2006

aww hun, I'm sorry you feel so empty sometimes. You really can't rush it tho. The emptiness will subside with time. As I was once told that you have to bury yourself in things that keep your mind busy. I know that's not always easy to do. When my ex and I broke up, it was very difficult for me especially since I was pregnant as well. I actually imagined a string tied from me to him and cutting it to release the hold. Of course here it is almost 4 years later and I've just now met someone who completes my day. He's semi dealing with your similar situation. He was married to a woman whom he thought of as his soulmate. She wants nothing more to do with him now (more than 2 years later), but his stomach still flipflops each time he sees her. So, give it some time hun. It gets easier... I promise.

Is there something he really likes? For instance, my guy is coming to see me in a few weeks and I'm so excited. I want to be like that too where he won't forget the trip. We got to talking about what there is to do in Delaware. It is after all a small state. But Virginia is very close to me and we're meeting there since he's going down during spring break to see his family. He's a beach kind of guy. He loves the water, fishing, camping, etc. So, I thought I'd take him to the beaches around here. I'm only about a half hour away. He did confess that he'd love to go back to Busch Gardens (if finances allow). So, find out if there's something he's wanted to do for a while but hasn't been able to. Then, see if you can surprise him with it. Hope that helped a bit.

I'm in a similar situation with the LDR. I met a guy when he came down with a friend visiting. He's awesome and we hit it off immediately. He literally has all the great qualities of everyone I've ever liked. My son (who's almost 4) adores him. He lives 9 hours away from me. We met in December and it hasn't been very long. I've gone to visit a couple times and he's coming down here in 3 weeks. I know it's hard being so distant. Trust me I know. I'm taking it one day at a time. But I get upset when I can't talk to him (especially since his cell coverage sucks). I think any relationship has its ups and downs. But if you love someone and both of you are willing to work at it, then it could be a long lasting one. Like anything else, it takes both parties being committed to making the relationship succeed. My guy wants to go to Louisianna to work for a year. That would be a whole year without him. Even that seems long to me. Then he tells me that it might be longer if necessary. He wants to get things straight in his life too. So, just go with the flow hun... that's what I'm doing. Try not to stress about the future. Take it one day at a time. If you're meant to be, you'll be.