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also keep in mind that if you don't think that you're attractive, that's the vibe you're putting out to girls. if you think of yourself in a positive way, it'll show and that's very attractive.

So there is a guy in my program that I think is attractive and he seems like a very nice and smart person. I haven't talked to him much because he's pretty shy, or at least it seems like it, and I'm usually with other friends. He doesn't talk to many people, just one or two other people in the program. I did talk to him last week on the way to class. We got off the elevator together and he asked if I was ready to review for our exam and we chatted about the class a bit. Today I get off the elevator and he's sitting on a bench accross from it and when he sees me gets this huge smile on his face. I go over to him and our friend that's sitting with him on the bench and ask if they're ready for the exam, but then the other guy gives me a note from a classmate about buying something for his fundraiser. So after that I tried to talk to this guy again, saying stuff about how I'm worried about the exam and he doesn't even acknowledge me. I was standing right next to him and sat down on the floor next to him and nothing. Once we were sitting in class, I was explaining a concept to two of my friends and I saw him looking at me and listening, so it's not like he was too into studying out in the hallway to know I said something. I just don't get it! That smile was not like a polite smile, it really looked like he was happy to see me. Then again he does seem like a very nice guy so it could have been innocent. Am I reading way too much into this?

I would add a couple things. One, make sure that you really can be friends with her without it hurting you. If you can move on from your feelings and really just see her as a friend, that's great. Two, don't mess around with her anymore. That won't help you deal with the "just friends" issue. So as long as you are happy being friends with her, then go for it.

Everytime I've had my eyes checked, I've had perfect or near perfect eyesight so I don't have contacts or glasses. I might be due for a check up for that too. The medication is actually supposed to give me more energy. I went in with a problem like this awhile ago and we found out I had hypothyroidism so that's why I'm on the medication. It could be the larger workload from school too, this semester is much harder than last. I bet it's a combination of a lot of things. By the way, thanks so much WildChild for responding regularly like this! You've been very helpful!

Now that I've read your post, I think I need more protein earlier on in my day. Over the summer I'd workout, then eat egg beaters and turkey bacon before work. Now I may or may not work out in the morning but I just have a SlimFast or a lean pocket in the morning before I run out to school or my internship. Unfortunately, I don't have the time to eat a full breakfast before I go. I have to take this pill in the morning on an empty stomach and I can't eat for an hour so it makes things very difficult. Also with the fish and walnuts, I used to be allergic. Last semester I was told I'm not but I haven't tried eating them yet, I'm still nervous. My doctor is the one that put me on Viactiv chews, but I'll ask him for something else the next time I go back. I should have an appointment for the next time I go home because I've also been getting a lot of headaches. I seem like a mess, don't I? haha. I really am a healthy person, I swear

Those are good points. I can't remember, but I think I may have been taking my multivitamin over the summer and stopped once I started graduate school. Also I've been warned that I'm already at risk for osteoperosis (spelling?) because I was born allergic to milk and now I'm lactose intolerant so it's hard for me to get a normal amount. I've tried those Viactiv chews but they really aren't the tastiest thing, haha. I'm going to try taking my multivitamin again and see if it helps. I think it may be a mood thing too. I'm away from home for school in a place I'm not crazy about. I wonder if my energy will come back when I'm home for the summer. The only problem with that theory is that I hated it here much more at the end of last semester than I do now. Any suggestions on healthy foods I can eat for protein? I don't cook so I rely on fruits, veggies, and frozen foods, haha.

I don't drink anything with caffeine. I only drink water really. Caffeine makes my heart pound too much and makes me shake. My protein intake could probably be higher...but today for example I had a 12" sub from subway (a healthy one) that had lots of protein then an hour later I was ready to go to sleep.

I started working out at the beginning of the summer and I noticed that I had a lot more energy. I could wake up earlier with ease and have energy to last me through the day. Even though I'm still working out, this past semester I seem to have lost it. I have so much trouble waking up. I can easily hit the snooze button for an hour. I always want to workout before I start my day but I'm finding it so hard to get myself out of bed. Once I'm up and moving I'm generally fine until about late afternoon/early evening. Then I feel like I could go to bed for the night. Of course by the time I actually go to bed around 10 or 11, I have a little more energy. Anybody have any tips as to how to get my energy level up? Thanks!

I don't think that there is a way to deal with students perfectly. You can't prepare for every situation and there will be complicated situations. As long as you do what you think is right, you will be fine. Not every student will love you or agree with what you do but that's the nature of the job. You said that you like to make everyone happy, so I think you need to be careful that you don't let students walk all over you. You have to be firm in your classroom rules. In my opinion, as long as you treat the students with respect, they will respect you back for the most part even when you enforce rules they don't like to go along with. Don't worry about students getting mad at you. They will get over it. As for the greatest teacher...I can't choose one. I think a trend among the ones I have loved are the ones that acknowledged my hard work and made me feel like a good student. They seemed invested my education and my successes as a student. I remember one of my favorite teachers was my Economics teacher. When I won a senior award for volunteering he was so proud of me and said something about it everytime he saw me. He was one of the hardest teachers I had but that kind of interest sticks with you when you leave the school. Good luck!

Actually, ducky, you'd be surprised. One of my best friends is in law school and it's full of cliques. A couple of them actually have names and one gives out a letter of acceptance into their self-made group. The amount of gossip in that program is ridiculous. I'm not in the program but I know so much about all those people. This may also be because the majority of the program consists of people in their early 20's. My graduate program is a mix of all ages so while we have some amount of gossip, it's nowhere near the level of that law program. I guess it varies from place to place.

Thank you guys for your advice. I actually haven't talked to her since that phone call, so I'm assuming we're just out of each others' lives. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't being cold hearted about the suicide thing, because I have had a friend that killed himself and it's a sore spot for me. I honestly don't miss her friendship because it was completely one sided and I think it's unfair of her to be mad at me for this. How was I supposed to know that the one time in 9 months it was about more than a guy? Actually I don't even know if that's the case because I never got the whole story. Here's another question though. Should I make one last contact to explain to her that she can't make a friendship entirely about herself and a guy and that this is why a distance was created for us? I feel like she should know because I know she does this with other people. Many other people actually. I should probably just leave it alone because at this point she's not going to listen to me anyway and hearing that will just make her think I'm attacking her or something. What do you guys think?

I think I have a different take on this than everyone else. I was in a similar situation at the beginning of college. I had very strong feelings for a close friend for about a year and a half and never said anything for many reasons. I would try to interpret his actions to see if he was interested or not, and he did give many signs that could be interpreted as interest. I basically knew he wasn't really interested though. But after having feelings for that long, I just got sick of the ambiguity of it and told him. Some of you had said don't tell her because you'll get rejected and ruin the friendship. I basically knew I was going to get rejected and went for it anyway, and it was fine. I felt better because I wasn't keeping it from him anymore and we handled it just fine. Our friendship was not compromised at all. If I were to analyze this I'd say it's because I was friends with him for more reasons than my feelings for him, so once I knew that wasn't a possibility we were still able to be friends. So overall, I think it would vary from situation to situation but I don't think you can say you should never express your feelings. Sometimes you just have to take that risk even if you think it won't work out how you want it. If both people are invested in the friendship and making it last, it won't be destroyed.

I had a friend from undergrad that I was pretty close to. Last year she started a "thing" with a guy and it began to dominate our conversations. This went on for 9 months. Over the summer I'd spend about an hour and a half of my mornings talking to her about him and I actually owed my parents over $200 for going over on my minutes at one point (which I never told her about because I didn't want to hurt her feelings). In my mind, I was a great friend for her. I would help her try to figure out his behavior, reinforce for her that she was a good person and it was all about him. Eventually though, I got sick of it and lately began telling her I didn't have a lot of time to talk everytime she called. I know this can be rude but honestly, she could get get off the phone. It was always, "wait one more thing." One night she called and I was in the middle of a lot of stuff and was about to be picked up to go to the library and when I told her I couldn't talk she got pissed. I could tell and tried to talk to her about it but she started to cry and got a beep from the guy and insisted she had to get off the phone. I texted her twice from the library and called her when I got home and I heard nothing. Actually, we ended up not talking for 3-4 weeks. I was annoyed with her because I thought that I had been a good friend to her and didn't deserve that. So a couple weeks ago I get this random phone call from her asking if I was mad at her. I explained how the conversations were never short and I just couldn't always talk for that long. She told me that she was going to kill herself that night and I was the one she chose to call and it's a good thing her guy called. I told her I was sorry that I wasn't there for her and if I had known I would have called her every ten minutes to make sure she was ok, but I just had no idea. She didn't want to hear it and wouldn't try to talk it over with me at all; she totally shut down and then got off the phone saying she'd call me back. Of course, she never did. My question is, is this friendship worth saving? Am I totally in the wrong and should be apologizing to her? I feel like she just called me to make me feel bad and had no intentions of actually trying to be friends again, but on the other hand she said she was going to kill herself, so shouldn't I be freaking out? Any input would be appreciated...thanks!

So here is my dilemma. I starting casually dating this older guy a couple weeks ago. I was gone for a week of it for my spring break and I've kind of lost my interest since I've been back. I was hesistant about things before I left anyway. I come up with a million reasons why but they are probably just excuses and it comes down to I'm just not interested anymore. I was going to tell him tonight that even though I'm having fun hanging with him, that it wasn't the right time for me to be dating someone. I've been really busy with school and I don't see an end, and when I met him I was just beginning to be comfortable with being single again (I got out of a bad 2 year relationship in the fall). When we were getting out of the car to go to the restaurant, however, he gave me a present because I had a hard week. So I chickened out on my little speech cause I just couldn't do it after he did something like this. It's not the first time he's bought me something either. He got me a rose and a couple other little things when I got back from break. I know I need to tell him ASAP because it's not fair to lead him on, but my question is should I call him tomorrow and tell him or wait until I can do it in person which might not be until Tuesday or Wednesday next week?