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Hey all Thanks so much for all the helpful advice. My friends have been telling me the exact same thing but you know how it is you must always hear it from another source. Its just so hard to forget though especially when you love someone as much as i love my ex. Getting back into the whole dating thing is going to feel really strange considering the fact that for the last 5 and a half years i have known nothing else. Will post soon and let yuou know progress but this time hopefully it will be in the dating section. Cheers for now

Hi All Its been a while since my last post and the reason being is that i thought that NC would really work, but i find that i am still thinking about my ex girlfriend alot. The story in short. We went out for five years and then she ended it saying that she has "out grown" me and that she just wants us to be best friends. I eventually couldn't handle us not being together and broke all contact. I spend everyday thinking about her and i know in my heart of hearts that i truly love this women. My problem being is that now after 8 Months we have started to make contact again and i feel that with this time apart my love for her has grown so much. How can i tell is she is feeling the same? I think she is playing hard to get! She drops suttle hints that make me think she wants to try work things out but i am not really sure. Is it going to be worth trying to sort things out? Please help!!!! Desperately INLOVE

Hey "cawls" In my case NC has worked for me so far as to try and heal myself and become that person that i was when my ex and first met. But the thing is is that everytime she made contact with me asking me to come around i crumbled and went to see her and it just puts you right back at the begging again. I know how you feeling empty, "what do i do now" and all the other thoughts that go through your mind. I also had to take time off work - i work nights and they are so lonely there is nothing else on my mind but her. It really eats at you. Just be strong and i hope for you things will work out, for me things are as over as though we never ever had a realationship but life takes a certain course for a reason and there is light at the end of each tunnel. When one door closes a better one will open - i try to believe this.

Hey Bud I can sort of relate to your story as i am going through much of the same thing at the mo. I don't have a child with my ex but some really good times in the 5yrs we were together. The only advice that i can give you is NC, i know in your case it might have to be a little different as your child is involved but where you can NC is the best. I did it for only 4 days and then my ex phoned me just to say hi. You have no idea how good it felt when she phoned just to know that she is also thinking of me. It is the hardest thing to do but it does work, it leaves them wondering what is he up to now etc. I just don't know how to go about it when there is a child involved. Head up and don't keep naggin her for a relationship that definitely doesn't work it only pushes the ex further away - trust me being there done that. Good luck hope it all goes well. Kepp me posted

Hey readyornot I don't know exactly what you are going through but all i can tell you is that if you do decide to go through with thing you will be letting your mother and your ex win over you. Think about it. You are much stronger than you think you are. The fact that you are still here shows that you can once again rise above this and be even stronger than before. I have a younger sister that also didn't want to be here anymore and luckily she never went through with it although she tried three times. But i sit back and look at her today and how far she has come since then and i just start appreciating life so much more. There are people out there who really care about you i am sure and right now you need to be around them. Let you friend know where you are at in your life right now and maybe she can help you through this. Hope i have given you a little more hope for life!!!!

Bury the past and marry the future - i like it alot. Blondy i am going through exactly the same thing at the moment mine has been a month now and i still get the empty feelings and a feeling of where to now. It is true what you say about your friends not knowing how you feel. There i am a bit lucky cause one of my real good friends went through the same thing not so long ago. All i can say to you is if you have any photos or anything like that put it in a box and try to get out and live your own life. My maximum is 4 days since we broke up and it actually felt good - how weird does that sound!!!!! The thing is is that they have had a change of mind and by us running after them all the time just makes us more upset. Just wanted you to know that i know how you feel its tough but read the last sentence of robowarrior and try and live like that. Cheers for now

Hey mystik Thanks alot for the sound advice, you probably know how hard that is going to be, because you are in the same situation. I really don't want to live life without her but it seems i am going to have to cut all ties with her. I really can't go on like this feeling empty all the time. I hope for you that things will get better. For me it is going to be a long road but i am sure i will get there. oNe thing this has made me realise is that the heart is stronger than the mind!!! Chat soon

I hear all of what you are saying but i also don't want to distance myself to much because what if she wants to try and make things work between us again?? We have broken up before but never for this long. Must i forget about ever getting back together must i just move on or should that still be in the back of my mind?? I really appreciate the help!!!!

Hi all After my last post on 14/03/06 "5yrs and now nothing" things have got alot more complicated. I went NC 4 the whole week after many people here suggested that would be the best thing. Then on Thursday my ex phoned and then again on Friday saying she needs to see me cause she has had a bad week and i am the only one that would understand. Now i sit right back at the begging again. Feeling all that emptiness and don't know what to do. She said that we could be best friends but i can't do that cause everytime i see her or speak to her i get all upset all over again. Just want to know if it is possible to go from a intamate relationship to just be friends and how to forget about what we shared?? Will time make me forget about our relationship?? How does it feel to just be friends with your ex - girlfriends?? Thanks for your support, it helps me alot ](*,)

Hey byates5637 and hoping Thanks so much for the sound advice and i am going to try and do the whole NC thing. Lets see if that approach will work for me. One more thing is do you guys still get message from your ex's? I was sitting at work last night and at about 1:30am i got a message just letting me know that she is home safely and in bed now. What do i make of this?? I didn't reply and havent' heard from her all day. But anyways thanks again. "Hoping" that is a real deep statement at the bottom of your post i need to live like that right??

Hi all I am so glad that i found this site. I thought i was mad with all these feelings of emotions that i am going through right now. You i am in the situation now that my now ex - girlfriend and i where going out for almost 5yrs(2 days short). We have had a relationship that was so fantastic. I met her when i had just left school and she was in Gr10. All through our relationship we have had these space where we would go our own way for a couple of days just to see if it what we really wanted in life and every time we would come back together even more inlove than we where before. Exactly three weeks ago today she turned to me and said that she needed time to think about where she was going in life - her being new out of collage and getting her first job and all. The thing is is that she totally wants to cut all contact with me and i am really battling to deal with it. I do phone sometimes and she sounds so irritated but the twice that we have seen eachother since the break up she has been so sweet. She tells me that she deeply loves me but she is not inlove with me. Is that possible? What i want to know is must finally realise that something that we had is now totally over or is she just confused or, or ,or........... What do i do i just feel so empty without her and i have tried everything to get over her i have thought about some of the bad times together and gone out but nothing seems to help. I just want her back in my life so badly. What do i do?????? Your response will be so much appreciated