Jlee001

o DEAR, Yup, Let her go man.. if she wants to TRULY, and not the bull * * * * omg i feel lonly i need a man type of deal, There will be a change and you will notice it. Shes caught in a rut, in a tirl a whirl, and shes dragging you down with her. Dude, i say continue NC as much as it HURTS !!! and i know what your going through !!! (to some degree of course), And don't get into the mentality that if you go NC that you will have 100% no chance of being her ever again. Remember its utterly her decision in the end if she wants to be with you.

Well sir, How is having tons of women throw themselves at you a bad thing!!?? hahah ok i joke. Ok, about the "is your heart dead" quote, i honestly dont think so, but being frank, you actually answered your own question and i quote "..and I do want a relationship, but I don't NEED one..." Point being i don't think your mind is ready for a relationship, your starting so many new things and are wrapped up into it, that you actually don't NEED one now. Enjoy being single, enjoy the women, and enjoy the attention you pimp you. Seriously, just enjoy it all right now while you can. Your life is.. how should i say... in a different "phase cycle". One where you can enjoy being who you are w/o needing someoene ! You might not realize it though. As far as the wedding goes, its up to you. I wouldn't go with the ex just incase it will throw you back into .. the old you. Go single or go with a "friend", if you go single who knows who'd you meet ya know? or if you go with someone else.. who knows right? enjoy the surprises of life Take care.

hehe im glad that i inspired you in a way ! Remember, relationships are more .. as a lesson in love. You learn from them, and from learning from them, you can only improve yourself (unless your a tad bit slow ya know hehe !). Seriously though, just "forgetabout it!". I'm sure your a wonderful person with an even brighter future. Remember, if someone isn't good to you, why give them what you treasure most? Your love. Not worth it sweetheart.

Thanks for the support guys. I guess something in me just told me. You gotta move on, and trust me, It's been hard because we have been with each other for so long.. but there were two huge reasons that helped me move on. 1. My friends who have been pushing me along, no matter how many times I've fallen and gone back to her to satisfy "HER" needs, not mine, and i did it just because it felt good.. and it also felt good to be with her. 2. The other night i spoke with her about a certain date that i wanted to visit her and i knew she would lie about some ugly dude etc etc its on another post hehe. In the end, she blatantly lied to my face.. so do i need someone like that ? nope! That really pushed me over the edge and made me realize i dont need someone whose gonna lie to me.. biggest pet peeve ever. Again thanks for the support ! keep it up and to all of you going through it still I will also be more than happy to support !

Yup, I finally decided to move on completely from my ex. If you have read my other posts you know what im talking about. I'm just tired of it all with all the drama I have had with her. Whether its a good or bad thing to let someone go who you have been with for 2 years, and known for over 6. I don't know. All in all, like my friend told me yesterday which completely opened my eyes, "How many times does someone have to shoot at you, for you to realize your getting shot" in other words, when will i realize that shes just plainly not a "good person" to me anymore. I have and i will today and tonight i will sleep good knowing that i have closure in my heart. She's coming down for the weekend and I WILL NOT answer her calls nor see her. Goodfight. Goodnight.

Hehe i dont think u guys understand. He already paid for the ticket and its confirmed hes going to visit her. Thats what im trying to say.

so yea i spoke with her yesterday.. and she straight up lied to me. "I have field exercises that weekend sorry" yea ok buddy.. i even made her feel real bad (i hope) by saying " i really trust you won't lie to me" and i kept saying " there really is no reason to lie to me for anything cuz i really believe in you" great.. so yea im not speaking to her anymore.. what an * * *. Two years being the best to her.. and she lies about it.. and not to mention this guy is so ugly haha .. o well.

Wow i will definetly look into that book. About confronting her, since this is something im most likely not supposed to find about .. I just texted her that "i would like to visit her on the 22nd of july" which is when HE is going to be there.. So if she lies to me by saying "oh im going to be busy by working or something" then i know she has something to hide. So indirectly i will find out. I will def. pick up the book though. Thanks.

I've had other posts about my ex... how she left to virginia for OBC traning. Its been almost a month since shes been gone and she has told me that she wants me to visit her and that she will pay for half the ticket. So at first i was like wow she really misses me wow? Yea so today i find out some ugly * * * punk that was a friend of hers is also going to visit her for the weekend... hmmmmm... and the funny thing is she only has 1 room.. hmmmm... yea.. so i just texted her "can i go on so and so weekend" which is the same weekend hes going on.. Im waiting on what she says.. to see if she lies to me or not. Either way my friend told me to "Fcuk IT" "shes not my girl anymore" -- any opinions it would help.

Thank you guys for taking the time to read and respond to my dilemma first and foremost. ! Why we broke up? We ultimetly broke up on good terms. In my honest opinion she was going through a "transition" period in her life.. we were together for 2 years and now is when she was beginning to "start her life in the big world" one might say. She was graduating.. hangin out w/ her girlfriends more since she we will most likely never see them again (remember the army life will take you everywhere and at any time they want to). She was also losing the "spark" one might say with me. I felt somewhat the same also, we were always bickering and argueing about the stupidest things, but not being cocky i was a real great man to her and many upon many people have said she will not find one like me in a long time. Im one of the few haha Lets just say i was always there to help her out (which was also another problem, i should have let her "hit her head" on her own you know?) Anyways we both love each other but even her best friend says that she is still confused and mixed about what she wants. I still love her very much, and i honestly have a weird 6th sense (of which is almost always right .. intuition is strong for me) that i will get back with her.. maybe not now but in the future.. and she will be the "one". All hopes aside we will see won't we. Oh and i agree on all you guys have said. She is coming down july 4th so i will visit her after she comes. Also, lol im not the one "pushing" actually she is the one always asking for me to visit her even as going as far as paying for half the ticket.

HEY ! i said relax.. breathe in and out.. take it easy your going crazy and thinking alot i know where you have been. Stop thinkin about it papo. Stop calling her.. actually wait for her to call you trust me. One of my good girl friends once told me that a girl who has a guy always there for her, will eventually take advantage of him because he is too "easy" to attain. Make her work for you ok?! Be difficult and just play it cool, it hurts i know but its the only way.

IF she wants space.. give it to her. Stop talking to her altogether trust me. Become "invisible" in a theoretical aspect. Please, just stop thinking and overanalyzing everything she is doing and with whom she is hangin around with. Remember SHE wants the space, so give it. Thats all there is to it no matter how much it hurts. Go do some other things to keep you busy, call old friends just to eat * * * * with you know? Get away from her right now not only because she wants it, but because its driving you crazy. If you guys are meant to be.. you know.. then you will be .. but not right now and who knows when.

Hello everyone! Great to write here again. Okay to get to the point, my ex has left for Virginia for OBC training. To all you non-army folks out there, OBC means officer basic course. She recently graduated college and is now "training" for her career in the military up in virginia (i live in Florida). Its been about 3-4 weeks now since i last saw her. I haven't spoken to her since she left but she has been calling me every day practically haha. In the 2 years when we were together she has NEVER ever left a message on my message recording machine until about a week ago. We have talked off and on now, and she says she really "misses me and loves me alot" but it boggles my mind if she says these things why not be together again?! I understand her completely though and im sure many of you are going to say she is just "lonly" of which i will partially agree with. Anothering interesting note is that she wants me to visit her now. The plane tickets are like 255 dollars roundtrip hell im not made of money lol. What is interesting though.. is that we spoke about a day ago and she has even said she will pay half my plane ticket to see her.. wow !? Seriously what do you guys think about all these things? She has also dedicated the song "cold" to me.. and some of my friends are saying that she is somewhat asking for forgiveness in an indirect way.. Like i said she says she still loves me alot and misses me like crazy or "why would i pay half the ticket for you to come" and i quote directly from what she said. What do you guys think?

Well folks.. we broke up a while ago if u want u can read my posts through my nickname search. Though we have kept in touch and she has come to me many times saying how much she loves me and misses me. Tells me how much she appreciates me and adores me, and that I am irresistible... she leaves May 21st. We have agreed there is no point in trying again to be together because of this and among other reasons. Right now we are more than friends with benefits, but not in a relationship, we still do things together though. Im okay with it ! but this is my goodbye letter for when she leaves, im not done yet but feedback would be nice.. thanks guys .. goodbye. Well as time passes us bye Miss Somnuk one cannot say nothing to someone who he loves the most and cannot be with, but goodbye miss somnuk. I have loved you in so many uncountable and infinite ways, i have loved you from the very tip of my tallest black strand of spanish hair.. to the inner most deepest and best kept secrets of my soul miss somnuk. I have adored you, with every single piece of fiber of my spectacular life when i was with you miss somnuk, and i still do. I have never and most likely though i know i speak in nothing but anguish right now as i write this to you, i will never find someone like you. I have walked and met many a people in my lifetime, i have loved and been broken hearted, i have cried i have laughed i have spent inconcievable minutes of my time simply thinking about you, yes .. you miss somnuk. I wish i could find something in this world, something in this universe or better yet, even hardest yet, most likely impossible yet, that "something" in your heart that will change for me. You my somnuk, you have changed and began growing up more than i can see and handle. "I can write the saddest lines" and these are mine. Its funny one thinks throughout life, we never appreciate anyone until the end, we never see how great and awesome something was until the so called "finis" of something very shared and unified. Thats what i always think about, i try so hard, i try my best, i struggle and win then i fail...your amazing but then your not, i love u then i just want you to disappear and never wanted to have met you in the first place. Why did ya go. You had to. Simple. Turn back the hands of time is all i wish sometimes, just to hear your voice saying i love you to me, and holding me tightly. Us two together forever hahaha.. a fable in so many minds nowadays. I walk and walk down this road in my mind.. so many days just trying to find some sort of answer maybe something i can realize and just *poof* all this is gone, but apperently this road is long..for now it is.

lol i think thats cute because at my age the signals are more about when is the right time to have sex or get serious LOL but thats cute. Best advice i can give is that don't think of a relationship as being mechanized.. i.e there is no step by step process to it. Let nature take its course and just go w/ the flow of it.