supershane

I am a gay male, but in gay relationships we still experience the same kind of issues. Im so sorry to hear that I had the same problem happen with an ex boyfriend of mine. Think of the deeper meaning, if you leave her alone for a while, she may realize what she is missing, but if you chase her down, stop by, it will probably a. annoy her and b. hurt you even worse. I tried the chasing down, stopping by calling, and he would never answer my calls and was never home. It hurts even worse, trust me. I never heard from him again because I was being too "forward" in his own words. I would hate to see you make the same mistake. think of this quote "If you love it, let it go, if it returns, its yours to keep, if not, it wasnt yours to begin with" its very true to both of our situations. I wish you the best of luck. If you would like to chat, hit me up...supershane@link removed

I would honestly just be very up front and honest with her, because that is the only way it truly will unfold. Trust me, if she is your friend, she will be able to handle you being honest with her, if not, then you know her true colors and you can look back and say wow im really glad i didnt get mixed up in that mess, good luck!

Hello, I am a 19 yr old gay male, and I do feel your pain, I am experiencing almost the exact same things with my best friend except we bought a house together so things are a bit different. BUT, nonetheless, the situation is ultimately pretty much the same. I felt better by just confronting her about it. I just said I cant live like this I cant stand things being the way they are. I am giving it about a month to see what happens. As painful is it is to wait, you have to or you'll never know, you know what I mean? I feel replaced by her new girlfriend. She never wants to include me in anything and you feel like you are almost like a back up plan. I understand how painful it is. I feel it everytime I wake up. Like I said I would just be brutally honest and blunt about your feelings. If you cant be that way with your best friend, who can you be honest with? Just keep in the back of your mind as much as you may love her, there are times where you have to think about yourself. There is a time where you love someone, but you have to love them enough to realize that you cant associate with each other anymore to prevent anymore emotional (or in my case financial) damage. I hope this helps you, just know you truly are not alone, I understand you completely. I wish you the best of luck. No one deserves to go thru the pain of losing a best friend, I honestly hope you can work things out

Hello, Does anyone have any advice? Me and my best friend of 2 years just purchased a home together (mortgage deal) not the prettiest thing there was, but hey its a starter home. It all started when we met january of 04 she is a 26 yr old single mom of 5 kids whose father refuses to take part in any of their lives and refuses to pay child support. Well she was with a control freak of a guy, she moved out of there, and she stayed with friends it got to the point where she was living in a motel and her and i worked at a bar so she could make the rent there. Her kids look at me as a father figure of sort and her and I were (are?) very close. As time passed she was given a trailer from a relative which we spent a lot of time fixing up (this was after a house we were given burnt down), I went thru my first heartbreak with her, and all sorts of life experiences. There wasnt a thing we didnt tell each other, then we decided to get a house together there was a 5 bedroom house in a remote town not far from us for 59,900. We decided to jump on it since our mortgage would only be $445.00/mo for a 5 bedroom home that we own. We got our mortgage and we now live here. Since then, she entered into a lesbian relationship (I am gay myself) and since then she has been pushing me and her kids and everyone around her aside for this 1 person. Its to the point where if her gf isnt here they are on the phone all day. So she might as well be here. The house is always messy, she recently lost her job so im paying all the bills and its just gotten really bad. She never talks to me anymore or spends anytime with me. I told her of my concerns, she says things will change. But im not convinced, I am half tempted to move back to my parents home where I dont have to pay rent and it is always clean and not a 45 min drive from work! But I want the kids to have a stable home for once, I want her to feel secure (she has always been forced to live place to place due to different circumstances) But I just feel like things may not be able to be the same. Should I move and sell my house or should I give it time? I just dont want this to blow up in my face. I feel so upset and betrayed, but at the same time I want to give her the chance to do what she says she will cuz im not ready to throw away 2 years. Any thoughts, comments or suggestions would be greatly appreciated as I am very confused and very upset. And it really rocks my parents world cuz they just got used to me not being there (we have been here 2 months) and im back and forth as to whether or not I will be moving back with them. Its just very taxing on everyone's part. Im 19 and still will admit am having separation issues from my parents too, that hasnt played a part, but I wonder if it underlyingly is. Please help me sort this out, I feel so alone with my emotions Thank you so much.