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My mom and I read that and cant believe someone your age can be so wise. Thank you SO MUCH!!! All her stuff is in a box. Want to send it but cant do that. I fully agree with on everything you said. I moved her because I was given two options 1) loose my job or 2) move. Im still shocked by what you have said.

It sometimes helps to talk. If you read my story, great and thank you.

Hi there Do you feel like talking about it?

Hi there Thanks for reply. I agree totally with you. When I first moved here, 2 1/2yrs ago I said to her Im moving here for my career. She didnt have a solid job. Stayed with her parents. She said to me give me one more year. A year passed, and I discussed it again. She started studying then changed coarse. She started her own dog pillow business middle of last year. Finally end of last year she said wouldnt move here as she didnt like it. I was contemplating packing up everything, resigning from my job (worked for them for last 6 years and worked very hard to get where I am now, and other day was told Im getting promotion soon for IT Regional Manager...made me cry because all this hard work was for us in the long run). Im glad I didnt. When we broke up she said she has the right to decide her own happiness (I agree) and wasnt moving. It felt like I was just led on. What do you think to the : she never got what she wanted and marriage still wasnt a problem. The relationship became one sided.

My advice from what I've just been through with my ex for past 8 months.....stop chasing. In the end it makes you look pathetic and desperate. Let her come to you. Sit down and try discuss things and relsove them. If not then move on. Not being rude, just giving my opinion. Easier said than done but correct way. Love is not about chasing or being chased. Its about finding even ground where you both are equal and respect one another.

Hi there How are you doing? Could you explain your story abit more?

Please read this. link removed Im not sure how long you guys where together but can relate abit. I dont have proof of my ex seeing someone else. I know all her friends and family where eventually saying to her that theres someone better or introduced her to "new" people. I understand exactly what you saying. I hate not talking to her or hearing her voice but its for the best as I knew something wasnt right and she tried to play me for an idiot. People are all saying to me, think of the bad time. There where bad times but the good ones out number the bad so very hard. Probably wasnt much help, if you could explain story more maybe could help. I know in time it will get easier but Im only at 8 weeks but like yourself, you are at 3 months and bang, the feelings strike again.

Hi everyone I've posted before link removed I've got a few question for guys and girls. 1. If you really love someone as much as you say you do, would you move for them (From one city to another?) 2. Is the grass always greener on the other side? 3. The NC, how often does the ex's contact you eventually? Thank you

Hi My opinion, as hard as it is. Do the NC thing. Read my story and you'll see something. When things are going all wrong and you guys cant sort it out with talking then its best to let each other go. Easier said than done, trust me, I know but it has to be done. Dont waste your time on someone who cant give you the time or day. link removed Good luck

We'll yesterdat was very emotional day. Just as you think you doing better...BAAM....something knocks you down. Tears for about an hour. Im tried of crying and I'm tired of hurting. Just want it all to go away but its not that easy. Today has been horrible. Thoughts of suicide creeping in. I know Im not strong enough to actually get to that point but its that feeling I hate. Feeling of being worthless. Havent had dreams about her for about 2 weeks now but the last 2 nights its been about her family? Strange things I dont understand.

Hi there man Thank you very much for reply. I know it going to take time. All I can think about is the wonderful times we had but as each day goes by I begin to see things as they are. Things started changing a year ago so was just a matter of time. She began putting everything in front of us. I do miss her and every now and then check my cell hoping she'll call but she wont. I cant imagine her with this new guy (no prrof but like said, signs where there). I'm a very sensitive and emotional person so this is hard. I hate thinking she isnt even going through half as much pain as I am because her new man will take her mind off it. Thank you again.

Hello all Briefly, I was friends with my ex for 11 years (Age 14 started). We hung out with each other but nothing serious. She had an affaction with me from day one. We eventually got together when we were both 21. We were together for 8 months before I was transferred to another city (Transfer with current company) and career move. We kept the long distance relationship going for 2 1/2 years but now we have split. I wanted to marry her but she wouldn't move to where I was. Being my first long term relationship this is destroying me inside. She started distancing herself from me and keeping herself ultra busy. I suspected someone else. All the signs where there. This entire year I've been running back to her like a love sick puppy. Eventually I said to her if she wants me in her life then great, if not I'm moving on. Not once did she ask me to stay. I eventually said okay, I'm moving on. I called her a few days later to try sort things out but she said I must move on as she has things to do with her life. I was devastated that someone who I thought truly loved me could just walk away so easily. I asked to please just tell me if she didn't love me anymore and how could she just throw away everything. She said she doesn't feel she needs to discuss that with me and blamed me for this because I moved. It's been 8 weeks now and I still haven't received any of my stuff back from her. Its my credit card and a few other items. I want to call her because I miss her but I'm not allowing myself to do all the running back anymore and I guess I got the message, as hard as it is to accept. I just see her as such a coward for not being able to say I dont love you anymore or I dont enjoy being with you anymore. She'd rather distance herself so it wouldnt hurt her as much! It wouldnt have made it any easier but at least known the truth. Being my first true love it was a special relationship to me but also I am so heartbroken. It's killing me. I can't let go of her. I'm hoping shell come back but it's been too long now. I just can't accept you give up on something we both worked so hard at. The saying of "if you really love her, you'll let her go" I do believe in but its just hard letting go of someone who was so special. Someone who made my life feel so complete. We where out a few months before we split. She saw her ex from 5 years ago. I wish I could explain the look in her eyes. Still emotion. I now see her "normal" process of hopping to the next guy after shes done. She has done it all along. Everyone is allowed there own opinion so heres mine. I think its wrong to just move onto the next guy to help with the pain. You never truly get over the pain. The new person might be all "butterflies" and everything else but it doesnt help. If you cared about someone, truly cared it would hurt like hell eventually. The grass isnt always greener on the other side. Alot of her friends and family where telling her not to move as she got a better life down there. Any help to moving on? Each day I feel a little bit better but its so hard moving on. PLEASE COULD ANYONE HELP WITH THIS: The day we split she said to me "She never got what she wanted and marriage still wasnt a problem" It's like giving me "false" hope. I asked her about 2 months before we split, why doesnt she tell me she loves me anymore like she use to, she said why should I have to, you should know it by now. Another thing that is so hard, is imagining her with someone else and sleeping with them. It's a killer.