darkness0204

Yea well I JUST HATE THE FACT that he carrys on wit his life like i dont exist then when he wanna talks he does n things dont work that way. "Life isnt a toy you cant just stop playing wit it when your tired of it" and thas what i feel he does. when he wants me to chase after him its all good then when he doesnt want it he wants me to drop off the face of this earth. he confuses me so much, that i dont kno wha to believe anymore. Im tired of feeling like im chasing after sumone when in his heart he truly doesnt care about me. even though he says that he does.. then tells me he loves me everytime before we hang up the phone... Please I need sum advice...

Yes I understand I feel the same way. My ex acts oblivious to everything around him thats going on.. I mean having to do wit me lol When it comes to him hes so highstrung off himself right now it makes me sick. Sumtimes I wanna get so revengefull but i stop myself bc "the world works in mysterious ways" everything you do comes back your way. All the time and they will get theres I jus wanna see him hurting and sufferin liek tha way he makes me suffer so he can feel wha im feeling. But dont call him and feed into it when u have the urge call a friend or do sumthing else to occupy ur time. "like the saying goes/you reap what you sow/and wha goes around, comes back around to you five times harder/"

Sumtimes the hardest things are the right way to go. I understand how you feeling. Its tha point in ur life when you feel you have to let go wether tha is NC OR C... Its hard bc when your mate finally sees there faults they are so sorry and you just want to comfort them and let them kno that you are thhere for them and tha you do still love them. But at tha same time you have to let go. When you feel like responding call a friend or sumthing you have to fight thja temptation of givng in, and you must stand ur ground no matter how hard and hurtful it may seem.

Yes and I also agree with everyone else myself lol.. If shes throwing moves at you jus go wit the flow dont down play the situation by asking about her bf. Bc if she was so concerned she wouldnt be askin to make out with you lol we can all agree that shes throwing you hints that shes feeling you. But think of it as if she was a guy bc dealing wit gurls is almost the same. So what you can do is jus flirt wit her.. but dont make big moves or make it obvious. Bc gurls are very open you will kno what she wants when you take time to find out you jus have to go about it the right way. But dont "pressure the issue just let it be, and if you to need to be wit me... well lets see" Maybe she just wants to have sum fun!

I kinda argee myself.. I kno crushes happen but still.sumthings when you and ur mate alil astray to other people. hope to get from that person what your mate isnt giving you. Thats how it was wit my ex.. He was never there for me emotionally and mentally but there for me physically. So I was always talkin to this other guy but it was jus a talking thing. Its like you get the comfort from sumwhere else to fill in that gap. I cant possibly understand how he forgets to show you that he cares. yOU CANT its either you do or you dont. When u care about sumone u tend to act on it involuntarily. I think you should tell him how you feel.. and be very blunt about it "people only know what you tell them" so at the same time dont expect him to kno exactly how your feelin..

Its crazy bc Roz I feel the same way.. I hate to feel like im being dragged along when he is not sure or not stable wit his feelings. And thats what makes the breakup hard bc like you said they all have tha talk that puts in ur mind that there will MAYBE one DAY be sum kind of hope and all this misery will come to an end. Thats what I feel like Im being dragged wit him and its not fair. Like yesterday hes like well iam talking to sum females but im not tied ddown to anyone and im like what are u tellin me for if you are so content and happy wit ur decesions. keep it moving.. meanwhile hes steadily in my buiz wondering who im talkin to and sayin tha im online to much.. Thats why I dont kno what to do anymore

Yeah I feel you.. But what happens when the guy is too stubborn to even realize his faults and hes totally oblivious to your feelings. When all he does is stay in his own world. and when he wants to talk he does. Wht to do with guys like that?

Me and my ex were together for 3 plus yrs, nothing could tear us apart But things turn for the worse we both did sumthings during the relationship that we shouldnt have. N we were like the weather off and on, one day things were great the next day it was a bad storm. It got to a point where I was wrong.. But I was also going through things in my life that he couldnt understand. After overcoming and excepting my faults I knew I had to change. At that time he decides that he doesnt wanna be wit me. He claims that i needed to grow change my ways n bad habits. I agreed and at the same time him saying that if he sees change then we may get back together. So Ive been bending over backwards to show him that Im capable of being the one he needs and anything he wanted changed Ive done. However But bc of our past he still assumes and accuses me when I dont do anything wrong. We not even together n I havent even put a guy in front of him. I try so hard and I feel like now hes taking my kindness for a sign of weakness. But through it all comes to find out that he doesnt want to be wit me. That he still hasnt a change of heart. Then hes like well look i still think about us. so we may get back together lets jus relax then see where it goes from here. THENNNN!!! Now hes yelling,screaming and cursing at me to leave him alone. to let him be so that he can move on. tells me tha hes gonna start seeing other people and that its gonna hurt me. Then at the same time he wants to come over hes telling me how much he loves me and cares for me. he even said that he was trying to get rid of me by pushing me away.. I mean how harsh was that. I mean he doesnt even act like my friend and we was so close. I dont kno what to do should I keep in contact wi him or dont. He also said that he wants me to act like he dont exist so that I can leave him alone. WHAT should I do? What he tells me gets worse but im keeping it short its rediculous and it hurts alot at times... Im so confused I dont kno wha he expects from me anymore.. Should I jus act like he doesnt exist or what.. One of my favorite quotes(everyone can relate to it at sum point) "I cant live with you, but I cant live without cha. Not breathing wit you.. its hard to breathe without cha."