Naya2279

Thank you for the advice. It was good to hear the other point of view. I know he cares about me, but I just know that he thinks I will be around forever and I wanna show him that if he keeps this up I'm not.

Hi all. I've been seeing this guy for 2.5 years now. We've had our ups and downs, but lately it's been mostly down. I just feel like we're slipping apart and whenever I try to talk to him he gets mad because he says we keep having the same conversation over and over. He says that he just wants to be single, yet he still wants to see me a couple times a week. I just can't be single and still see him. Whenever I try to tell him this he just gets mad at me. I know there's this girl that's calling him constantly and I know that's why he wants to be single all of the sudden. Our relationship was like this about 6 months ago right before he went to visit his ex-girlfriend. I just feel like I'm good enough to have around until someone better comes along and then he throws me away. I broke up with him on Sunday because I just couldn't take it anymore. I can't go on with my life while I'm still playing these games with him. I went over to his place on Monday to get the rest of my things and his friends were there and he was acting all arrogant so I really laid in to him. I made him cry in front of them. I kinda feel bad, but not really because he was acting so arrogant and not himself. Later that night he called me and apologized and told me that he was stupid and he doesn't wanna lose me, but he's just not ready to settle down. He said that he wants me to go out with him on Saturday night still, but I just don't know if I can do it or not. I've just been a nervous wreck these past few weeks wondering what to do. That's why I ended it, but he's just not letting me. I was weak the last time we broke up and let him back in. I just really wanna show him this time that it's over and that I'm not going to be his doormat anymore. I want him to see that he really is gonna lose me and I want to see how he's going to respond. Any suggestions? I know I should just forget him and find a guy that knows how to treat me because I know I'm a good girl and I'm gonna make someone so happy someday. But, for some reason, I just can't seem to let him go.

Hey guys, it's been a while since I've been here. I got back together with the ex after a couple months of being apart. Things were going good there for a while, but now he's starting to act all weird again. He left me for his ex and then came crying back to me and after a while I took him back. Now he's doing the same things that he was doing before I found out he was cheating before. I know what I have to do, but I just don't know if I have the courage. I confronted him about it, but I think he keeps lying his way out of it. I don't have any solid proof, but i have some strong suspicions. I should have trusted my gut last time, but I didn't and I gotta go with it this time. I guess I just need some advice. I'm not looking forward to the weeks of hurt and crying that I went through before. Any advice would be great. Thanks

Ok, I'll try not to make this too complicated. I've had this best friend for 20 years now. We've been friends since kindergarten and we're 25 now. We went to grade school, high school, and even college together. She actually started at another college, but ended up transferring to mine, but that's another story..lol. Anyways, what I'm dealing with now is this. I almost feel like I'm dating her instead of anyone else. She's just always there. She calls me like 3 or 4 times a day and if she can't get ahold of me she'll call my parents or stop by where I'm supposed to be at or whatever. All of my other friends call her my girlfriend because she's always there. She gets soo mad when I have a date or hang out with some of my other friends. She really doesn't have any other friends except for me now that she's moved back home. I work 4 evenings and she stops into work every week at least 3 out of the 4 nights just to talk. Then on my 3 days off she calls and wants to do something every one of those nights. I usually go out with her on Friday night and my guy on Saturday night, but now she's starting to show up at his place, too. He's not liking this situation at all. She's always telling me that he's no good for me and what nots, but all my other friends love him and are happy for me. What I guess I wanna know is how can I tell her to back off a bit? I mean she's been my best friend for 20 years now, but since she's moved back home she's just there 24/7. I really don't want to have to be rude about it, but I almost feel like we're connected at the hip and it's really starting to get to me. She's never really had a relationship before and I guess she doesn't understand that we need some time just to be alone and not be with her. Any suggestions?

Hiyas, Well, I'm not a very religious person, but I don't think praying to God will ever hurt. I've been through a lot in my lifetime even though I'm only 25 and I still believe that He wouldn't give us any more than what He thinks that we can handle. I guess that's what gets me through. Anyways, I pray everyday even for the stupidest things. Most of the time they are just general requests. "Help me get through this today" or "Help me figure out what to do". I don't usually ask for specific things because things will work out how they're supposed to in the end I guess. He is "the man with the plan," right? I don't know if that helped you out or not. I went to Catholic school for 12 years of my life and had it drilled into my head every day.

My ex was always worried that his nipples were too big. I didn't think so, but he'd bring it up constantly. I dunno, I never really paid attention to others to compare them I guess. No big deal, I wouldn't worry about them.

Hmm....I work at a gas station and I just had a guy ask me for my phone number yesterday...was it you? hehe. I'm just kidding, really. Come to my gas station and you'd meet a cute girl

Ok, so I've made many many posts here about my situation, but i'll recap quickly. He started talking to his ex behind my back and went to see her over Thanksgiving. So now we've been playing this game of "I don't know what I want, but I don't wanna lose you crap". I go for a week or weeks with NC and then he comes to see me at work and he tells me that he is going to give her the boot that he knows what he wants, and me being stupid believes him and so on... Anyways, I know that they still talk everyday even though he says he's gonna end it. She lives in RI and we live in WV. She doesn't know I exist. She doesn't know that we had been dating for 2 years before he went to see her. Well, I snatched her phone number off the caller ID the last time that I was there. I just wanted to have it for my safe keeping. I dunno. I think I only want to use it if I know that there is no chance at all that we will ever get back together. Obviously, he thinks that I came to see him, but really I wanted to get the number. I know you all probably think I'm psycho and stuff, but I thought I was doing sooo well until he came into work last week to see me because I wouldn't answer his calls. I don't wanna believe his lines. I told him that I know he's trying to play us both. He swears it's not true that he's really just confused and that he's an idiot for putting me through this and what nots. I just can't believe a word out of his mouth anymore. I don't wanna call her because then I know that we will be over for sure. But, I can't sit here and wait in the wings for him to make up his mind either. I dunno, he told me today that he wants to come up and visit with my parents because he misses them a lot. I just don't know what's going on anymore. I thought I was doing so well. I stopped thinking about him 24 hours a day and was going on with my life and now he's drawn me back in. Am I crazy? Should I just call her and end it? or should I wait and just see what happens?

Yeah, I know he will come back. I talked to his sister's boyfriend tonight and he said he would bet his last $50 that he will come begging back for me. He also said that I'm way too good of a person to put up with all of his crap so that made me feel better. I know I am a much stronger person now because of all this.

Yeah, I think he's a little goofy. He's just not even the same person that I used to date. He's changed so much for her. He quit smoking and drinking, gave up most of his friends. It's like he's on a downward spiral all for this girl. She must really be something special. I personally think he's trying to live in the past when life was easy and what nots, but that's just my opinion. I wasn't around when they were together so I really don't know. I always thought that he was a dreamer and now I really think he's in one big dream. Oh well, best of luck to him.

We were together for 2 years. This girl had called this summer and I was there and I knew they had talked, but I didn't know that they were still in contact since then.

Ok, so I got dumped a little over a month ago by my ex. He went to see his ex-girlfriend miles away and lied to me about the whole thing. Well, it seemed like we were getting back together and then he told me she was coming to visit so I backed off and went back to the NC. Anyways, he called me when he was on his way back from the airport after dropping her off and he told me that I don't have to worry anymore, that she's gone. He also went on to say that they're in love and that he will be moving up there in March. (This is also exactly what he said when he first got back from seeing her before.) Anyways, I talked to him later that same day and I told him that I couldn't talk to him anymore and that he said that he doesn't wanna give me up either, but he can't talk to me either because it wouldn't be fair to her. So, here's my problem. He stopped into work tonight. Granted, I just work at a local store, but it was still out of his way. He paid for what he wanted and I told him Thank you. He was like you're not gonna talk to me? I was like I'm just respecting your wishes, plus I have nothing to say. So he said that if that's how I wanna be, then ok. He left just shaking his head and got back into his truck. Why did he come down in the first place? Did he want to see how I was taking it? Did he try to come and talk to me since I won't answer his calls? I'm dying to know, but there's no way that I'm gonna call him. I think I'm finally getting over the whole breakup thing and moving on. It's only been a month, but I feel soo much better about everything that's happened and I just want to move on. I mean yeah, a small part of me wishes he would come back, but he's gonna have to get on his hands and knees and beg and bring me expensive gifts or something. I was just looking for your opinions. You guys really got me through this terrible breakup and got my head back on straight so that's why I came back to you guys. Thanks in advance.

Well, the ex called me on his way home from dropping her off at the airport. I really didn't have much to say to him. I only answered cause he woke me up and I didn't check the caller ID. He asked how my week was and I said great, of course. I dunno, it was just weird. I really wish I hadn't answered, but oh well. I'm gonna keep the NC contact going. As for the other guy, I've been kind of blowing him off. I dunno, I feel bad, but I'm just not ready for anything. I tried telling him how I was feeling, but he won't let go of the taking a chance thing. I'm not really willing right now..

I said that because I'm just feeling really down and stuff right now. The one person that I thought would never leave me, left me. The one person that I thought loved me. Well, now it's like I feel like no one could love me again. I know what we had wasn't real love though if he did what he did. I just got so comfortable in my relationship and now I'm scared to death of that change. He comes in and no matter how many times I tell him no it's like he won't go away. He's a great guy, he's not like a psycho or anything, and that's why I'm afraid I'm gonna miss my chance or something. I know my main problem is myself..lol. I have no self confidence at all. And that's what I'm hoping this next year will be all about. I gotta find that and feel "lovable" before I'm ever gonna be able to be loved. Sorry for the rant. It's an emotional day for me.

Ok, well, I've made many posts in the past month about my huge breakup. Was with him 2 years, he cheated on me. I'm totally heartbroken. Well, this new guy comes into my life outta the blue. I'm scared to death. I don't wanna get close, but he listens to everything. He comes to see me at work (the ex never would). He calls me every night and so on. I cry on his shoulder like every night about my ex. I don't know. I mean I keep dreaming that my ex will wake up and come back, but I know that I can do sooo much better than him. I'm scared to death to get close to this new guy. I mean it's sooo soon and I almost feel unlovable and he's there. Yet, I'm still hung up on my ex. I'm just afraid that I'm gonna end up hurting this new guy, and he keeps telling me that I'm a great person and I deserve so much better than what I had. I know I do, but I'm just not ready. I've explained that to him and he said that in life we have to take chances. Is this a chance really worth taking? I don't want a rebound. My heart is in a million pieces right now and he listens to every word... I'm just so confused by everything right now...