MichaelM

What does it mean when a girl tells you are not that guy! not the guy she wants to spend her life with. Even though when you are with her she tells you there is no place else she would rather be.

I am thinking of , but seem to lack the courage just yet! lol

Should I call or email her? It's tough because we have spoken every single day at wrk for the past year and half. That friendship being gone is what really hurts me the most.

Well I would be into dating her again. But would be more than happy to be friends again. But until I speak to her I don't know.

I know it was way too soon and you are probably right but was everything she felt and said just BS? I know she is in no way ready for a relationship. She told me she had an interest in me since she first met me but was getting married.

Dude I was just tha guy. My girl left her huband and came to me within a couple days. Told me I was the love of her life and she had never been happier. To make a long story short she is gone now lol The new dude won't be around long.

Kinda long I work with a girl. About 1 1/2 years ago we started talking and over the course of time we bacame very good ancd close friends. We only ever spoke via email and never outside of work. The thing is she got married about a year ago. I basically watched the marriage disintegrate within about 8 months! about one month before she left her husband I gave her my phone number so she could set me up with one of her friends. about two weeks later she called me after work and invited me out with her and some other co-workers. I said sure why not. We had a great time. Then at the end of the night my friend and I where driving her home. We got there and her husband was not home. She started to cry and said she did not want to go home, she would go anywhere else. Me trying to be her friend let her come to my place. We ended up making out all night. The next day I felt terribly guilty and confused. Monday morning at work I apologized to her. I told her I hope this did not ruin our friendship and she said no it made it better and that she threw her husband out and chaned the locks. From there we got into the most intense relationship I have ever experinced we where inseperable for the first month. Then she tells me she is worried that she wil have to end it one day because she is worried she will need time and space to sort out her divorce and get over her marriage being over. So for about tow months after that, it would be incredible for a week. She would tell me how amazing I am and how lucky she is to have me in her life. How happy she is, how good I make her feel etc... The all of a sudden she would back off and say it is geting too serious and moving too fast. She would say it's over. The within a few days she would call and we would start again. up and down like that for a couple months. The thing is that she was very adament that we keep it a secret, because of her divorce and the fact that we work together. Well it turns out she told a few of her friends and her parents. About two weeks ago, I told a co worker because I neede someone to talk to about it. I decided yesterday to tell her. And she freaked. She emailed me telling me screw YOU. She told me I lost the privlege of having her in my life, I am the worst guy she has ever met, I have lost her trust, she can forgive me as a friend but will never trust me the way she has. She no onger wants to speak to me or email me etc... Basically she hates me now. What the hell is going on here? Why is she sooooo mad as to not ever forgive me. I told her I made a mystake and was sorry for it. She said Mike don't try to make this better, it's over - forget it.

Just walk up and talk to her. Don't be shy. I've done it many times. As scary as it is, you'll never know unless you try. Whatever the outcome, at least you will know and not have to worry about it.

I would have to agree with the other reply. You have to really look at what he is giving you. Are you happy? Do you feal secure? I don't think you do. I would deffinetly back off until he decides what he wants. He needs to leave the other woman first of all. I think if he senses that you are pulling away it may encourage him to make a decesion. Right now he does not really have to, he knows you will be there. Taake a way some of his security and let him feal that you may not be there all the time.

Hi I am new to this site. I have read some of the posts and think this GREAT! Anyway, I am thinking about calling my ex girlfriend after 10 years. I have seen her out a couple times lately and hear she is single. We broke up on bad terms. But, it was 10 years ago. She should be over the anger by now. Can anyone advise if I should and what approach I should take?