vernon21

Personally I would just let it go. Knowing the reason why she cheated on you may put an end to your curiosity, but as guy40az says, it may reopen old wounds, which is what you don't need. I know you're finding it difficult to move on but I think it would be even more difficult if you found out why she cheated on you. Let the past stay in the past and move on.

Thankyou for all of your replies. I have made it clear to her that I don't want to have anything more to do with her, and that she won't be hearing from me again. I have also told her not to bother trying to contact me because she will just be ignored. I guess that now I have finally done that I can well and truly forget about her and move on with my life.

When I used to take it, it made me paranoid. It has definitely messed up my memory. But then again so does alcohol.

Most 'good looking girls' as you put it tend to go off first impressions. Inevitably, that means that the shy and reserved type are hardly noticed and are in some cases looked down upon. I'm not saying that every girl is like this, but there are a few who don't want to talk to these 'nice guys' because it might damage their reputation and social status. Personally speaking, I enjoy going out for a drink every now and again, but I don't make a habit out of it, because it would just get boring. In my opinion, variety is very much the spice of life so I take an interest in doing a wide range of things. Subsequently, I meet girls with differing personalities. Just be yourself and you will attract the right person, because they will want to hang out with you because of who you really are, rather than someone you appear to be. 8)

'Love' by John Lennon. Love is real, real is love Love is feeling, feeling love Love is wanting to be loved Love is touch, touch is love Love is reaching, reaching love Love is asking to be loved Love is you You and me Love is knowing We can be Love is free, free is love Love is living, living love Love is needing to be loved

'To a friend's house the road is never long.' Can't remember who said that quote, sadly.

I agree with PAdreamer. The bond between soulmates cannot be broken. The two of you are on a different planet, you speak a language that no one else can understand, and you share emotions that no one else can express or feel. In fact feelings between soulmates are magnified, and in times of trouble, the bond between soulmates gets stronger. Nobody, and I mean nobody can come between soulmates because the glow of love radiates throw them to the point where nobody else can get close. John Lennon and Yoko Ono were soulmates. Even when they were being publicly ridiculed, their love for each other shone through.

I have a problem with party animals accusing shy people of being boring. I can't understand why people who would rather stay at home are ridiculed for being dull. I should know because my ex-girlfriend has labelled me as such. She has returned to having drunken one night stands quite often, and subseqently making a fool of herself. I believe that people who carry on like this just show a distinct lack of maturity, as well as displaying a lack of moral integrity. However, if these people are happy doing what they do, then I say let them get on with it. I just choose to avoid them these days. To those people searching for nice girls and guys... believe me, they are out there. Just live your life exactly how you want to, and maybe you will meet one someday. And don't let others bring you down.

Hello everybody, I'm new. I also need your advice. About a month ago, my ex-girlfriend dumped me through a letter. In the letter she admitted that she was seeing somebody else and that she had been deceiving me. She then went on to accuse me of being boring, lazy and taking myself too seriously. I knew our relationship was in trouble after she told me she was moving away to start college, but it didn't make it any easier when it was finally ended. After a couple of weeks of no contact, I decided to send her an email saying that I wished her the all the best at college and that I hoped that whatever she does in life, she is happy. However, we then started having frequent conversations on the phone, where she started telling me about other guys that she had met. It hurt when she told me about them because part of me still loved her. I drew the line when she told me over MSN Messenger that she had met a guy who was 10 years older than me, had more money etc, and that she had fallen for him. After that, I decided to ignore her. However, that didn't stop her from sending me texts saying how many times she had slept with him. She has tried ringing me up in the middle of the night, and sending me texts asking me to call her. All were ignored. Then she called me yesterday and even though I knew I shouldn't, I decided to talk to her. It was the same old story. This time she told me that she had slept with a guy who had a very big manhood, and that she got 7 guy's phone numbers when she went out the other day. I think that it is blatantly obvious she is trying to provoke me into a nasty reaction by hurting me and making me jealous. It has got to the stage were everytime I talk to her, she tries to either hurt me or provoke me. She has also let it be known to everyone that she was the one that ended our relationship. As though she is proud of it. This girl has also admitted she has slept with 125 people. Should I cut her off for good without telling her, or should I send her an email telling her she is out of order and that I find her immature? Please help because this is driving me crazy.