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Ok I talked to him yesterday!! he is so beautiful! I told him about my regular gig that I have every thursday night and suggested that he come with some mates and see what its like. I might even see him at this club TONIGHT - I hope he comes - he said he might.... but 'might' isnt exactly a deffinate yes... I hope he does. If he doesnt though, does that mean he is giving me a hint??

Wow i am really glad that sharing my story has helped people to think and look at their lives. Thanks very much. I wish everyone all the best of luck in finding peace in themselves.

Masturbation is a natural and harmless way of self pleasure. As we get older and mature through into teens and eventually adults, you tend to exlore your body and start noticing things that feel pleasurable - so you do them more. Different people masturbate more or less than others - depending on many things including sex drive, hormones and stress. I doubt that NO BODY masturbates at least once in their lifetime - becuase it is just so natural and feels darn good. lol. Usually people stop becuase of religion (feeling guilty or whatever) or they get a sexual partner, where you dont really need to masturbate as much anymore. Although watching each other masturbate helps each partner know more about what is pleasurable - not to mention its fun as foreplay... I dont think it is bad. I dont think it is a sin - but then again,I am not really that religious lol. I think it is natural, and its what nearly everyone tends to explore at least once in their lives...

Ok basically I have had friends in a similar situation to you - except it was the otehr way around- the guy was always older than the chick. Anyway, they always turned out badly for the girl and her family becuase the age gaps were big and the parents were like "I dontwant my little girl to be with an older man" - lol. But becuase SHE is older, and generally people think that the chick is the one who would get used and abused if she were dating an OLDER guy, your situation is a complete flip up of that one! I dont think you have to worry about it at all. I mean, your parents dont even have to know YET what her age is. If she looks younger, great. Havent you noticed that chicks our age try to look OLDER anyway?!?! lol. Sooooooo basically my advice to you is get her to rock up at your house to pick you up for your date and let your parents meet her, but dont even discuss her age. If they start askin' her questions about which school she goes to, or if she works, act all embarrassed and say "OK, enough with the 1001 questions!" or something along those lines. THen you can go out on your date. At least they have met her but it has been only a short meeting as you are on your way out anyways. When you are both ready, you can start sharing more info with your folks- but maybe keep the age gap quiet until your folks know her and think she is great for you - so make sure you act all grown up at home so that they think that she is changing you for the better - making you more mature and stuff Good LUCK!!

sticky situation indeedy!! Well, I had something similar with my first boyfriend - during the holidays we were supposed to meet up but he wouldnt reply ot any of my messages or calls - which was rather worrying as we had been really close and everyting was fine until the holidays. I thought there was somehting wrong becuase it was like he had vanished off the face of the earth! lol. Anyway, after he got back, I found out from a friend of a friend of a friend that he had actually been seeing his ex and they had been together during the holidays that i was supposed to meet him. So we broke up. Basically, I recon you should just send him his stoopid ring and not even associate yourself with such a sleezy two-timing prick. I mean how down right rotten is that of him to do that to a nice person like you. You dont want his ring girlie - you want to through it into the toilet. and never see it again. My advice to you is get that dirty ring off your finger, put it in the nearest envelope you can find and post it right away. F*** him. The sooner your send him that ring, the sooner he realises what he has just lost. Dont even send him a message with the ring. The more you drag it out and demand that he send YOUR ring first, the more he will try to "win". If you just give him what he wants, YOU are actually the winner - as it means you are ready to move on and discard his immature and sorry behind from your life. you go girl! - and stuff him. you will do so much better with out that d***head in your life.

I am not going to pretend that this post is entirely a nice and friendly one... I have been through similar things you are going through. And they will keep happening until you face up to yourself. I am 19 - and I still live at home as I am studying full time at university. I have had several life changing things happen to me and I hope that my story will help you. I am now on the tracks to recovery and I now live in hope and anticipation. You can do it too - here is my story: Last christmas I had a big fight with my folks becuase I found out they both had cancer and they weren't being straight with me about it - so I left home. My dad told me that I had ruined christmas for the family! I ran away and I stole the family car. I slept out of the car and didnt eat much for 4 whole days. My mum tried to ring me many times on the mobile but I would just switch it off.... When I was in a all girls high school, I didnt have many friends as most of the girls at the teenage years are cruel and "clicky" - you know, the popular little groups etc. So in year 9 (I was 15) I started smoking, going out with boys much older than me and I would pretend i was 17 or 18 to get them to share their alcohol with me and hook up with me. One time at a party I hooked up with a guy becuase I was so upset with myself and how horrible the girls at my school were - and later that night he raped me. I was so deep in a writhing hole of self pity and pathetic-ness that I tried to commit suicide by overdosing on pills and trying ot slit my wrists. Later that year, just after my 16th birthday, I had a fight with my mum over something really little and silly - but becuase she was one of the only people who still loved me, the little fights hurt me more and so I grabbed the biggest and sharpest knife from our kitchen and I ran to my room and tried to take my own life. Thank god my mother saved me. she ran into the room and cried with me and held me. When I reflect on all these things that have happened to me, I realise that the only thing that has been constant in my life is music - I have always played piano and used piano as a tool for me to escape the world. And you know what makes me wake up in the morning feeling fresh and alive and inspired...... its music. I am now beginning to live my dream - I am studying music at the conservatorium of music at our university, with other students who love, live and breathe music as much as I do. I get to learn from masters who have been living my dreams - teaching me the skills and sharing with me their stories - successes and failures. It has been a hard few years of teenage-hood that i have had to live through, and I have the scars and battle wounds (both mental and physical) that line the black and horrid path of my past. But the past is the past - all you can do is look to your future and live each day as if it were your last. You only need ONE friend in your life, and that friend needs to be you. If you cant love yourself and depend upon yourself, then you will have no body. Sit down in a quiet sunny area by yourself (in the park or under a tree) and just write down or think about what matters most to you - for me it was music. Then concentrate on that and dont ever let it dim from your sights. Music saved my life. try to find your passion, becuase it will help save yours.

I have been using those things for a while now so I hope my advice can help ya out a bit. I have found that when I put one in on the first day my period comes, it hurts a lot. Soooooooo I usually use pads on the first day. Then on the second day, have a nice warm and relaxing shower to help my muscles down stairs relax. I usually sit on the very edge of my bed and lean right back when inserting the tampon - otherwise I find it hurts me when I insert it. Its best if you twist it as you insert it in and try pushing towards your back. if it hurts, you are probably not pushing it in the right direction gently and carefully enough, and you are probably using too thick a tampon (always use the smallest and silkeiest ones!) OK, when you insert it, yes it does hurt a little bit, and when you arent used to them, you can tense up and it hurts EVEN MORE, so its best to stop and try again or sometimes leaning farther back against your bed helps. Make sure you push it RIGHT UP - otherwise it will hurt once you stand up becuase it isnt inserted properly. If you can feel it still after a few minutes of standing and walking around, it means that it isnt up enought and possibly at an uncomfortable position. Just lean back on your bed again and fix it. Hope that helps - hopefully it wasnt too graphic for you. Tampons are kinda gross, and no matter how convenient they are, you CAN always go back to pads until you are ready to try tampons again.

OK. Its really sweet that you like her. I recon, if you are too shy to talk to her, why not start even simpler - 1. Eye contact and then 2. Smile Its really that simple. If you hang around the door way before class, see if you can have eye contact and smile with her as she walks in. To make it less obvious, start smiling BEFORE you look at her... lol. When she sees your friendly smily face, she will start thinking about you and will notice you 8) I thought about my own situations with guys - whenever a guy looks me right in the eyes and smiles at me, I kinda get the idea that he likes me, and it drives me nuts not knowing if he does or not.... so often it makes ME want to do the first move - so why not take the pressure off yourself and get her going crazey... Instead of you wondering if SHE likes you, why not switch it and make her wonder if you like HER... lol - hope this helps a bit.

OK, there is this really beautiful and genuine boy at the music shop that I really like. He is a year older than me, and we study at the same university (but different subjects). I have been very attracted to him for about a year now, and I think he may like me - he certainly notices me when I walk into check out the latest music at the store. We usually stare at each other and smile at each other accross the room. Sometimes when I am being served by a different staff member he will look at me and watch me. He has the most beautiful smile Anyway, I was hoping somebody could help me out with some tips and advice - I want to see him outside of uni and hang out with him to see if we can connect, or even perhaps start seeing each other on dates. I think he is a genuinely interesting person, and regardless of whether we date or are just friends, I want to see him and get to know him. I know that all I need to do is ask him for either his number or invite him to something, but the trouble is that he is at work, and I dont want to embarrass him infront of his work colleagues or the other customers. I could pass him a note, but would this be too immature and shy? I am not very good at this whole crush thing! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks heaps everyone!