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Just wondering, has anyone returned to a cheating partner? If yes, what happened afterwards?
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I understand how you are feeling. My ex had a few strange phone habits. For example, it would always be on silent and there are days where it would ring and he wouldn't even pick it up. Another one is he turns it off everytime we go to bed and leaves it by the bedside with the excuse of "the radiation is bad" (so turn it on and leave it in your pocket all day?!) Anyway, I did my snooping and found out a lot of things. He was turning his phone off and not picking up calls because he was giving away his phone number to girls on sms chatlines and internet adult websites. Here is more things I found out Its really disappointing when you care so much for someone and that isn't enough for them to be truthful to you. I myselt have lost trust in all guys and I know that I shouldn't because at the end of the day, it will be me who's missing out. I hope things go well for you. If you think you are strong enough to trust him and not look back at these events then good for you. If you don't think you can then maybe it is time to let go.
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I know exactly how you feel. Its really hard to accept that you tried your best but you coudln't get the same in return. Even if he said he didn't cheat on you, he should have known that what he did would upset you.
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well at least i tried... he's still messaging and occasionally calls and yes i did pick up the phone once this time and he chatted as if everything was the way it was before..he keeps laughing at everything ..he's treating this as a joke..but in the end the only joke is him himself. i'm reaching the point where i just can't be bothered anymore. i do admit i do miss him but i guess that's normal.
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reasons i called his mum was that i was furious about what his friend posted on the forum...and i asked her to tell him and his friends to leave me alone...also i mentioned that i wanted my money back for the months he was living off me - rent and living expenses i am so angry that he was doing so much behind my back while i was providing for both him and i. i have been getting messages and calls that i dont pick up from him. i'm thinking of maybe changing my number.
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thanks guys. great to see his friend's out of this post, i'm sure there will be more..its gonna get interesting. well last night he was online and we chatted a bit then minutes later i lost it when i read what his fellow idiot wrote on this forum...so i called his mum and told her more dirt (more like truth) about her son..she should be so proud... he's tried to call me but i didn't pick up...there's been strange voice and text messages from him. this really is confusing. why contact me?
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matty said it was you. stay out of it chris.
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well well well let me introduce everyone to chris, one of his friends. this the the so called "maturity" i was talking about.
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here's the update.. he finds this forum pathetic and said that its probably run by fat chicks or 15 year olds...my reply was "just like your car club"... he insists on staying friends when i get back to perth but i really dont think i can handle it..he thinks everything he did was harmless....why do i always end up with the bad ones?
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hello everyone, the first 24 hours without him is over. i am slowly feeling sad now but in the back of my head i keep reminding myself what he's done to me. his phone statement arrived and there was one phone number he kept calling and messaging - he kept telling me before that he hasn't messaged her since the last time i caught him receiving dirty messages but his phone statement was for december. feeling angry and stupid today. any nice men out there?
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thanks so much everyone i woke up really refreshed today - i feel liberated. big weight off my shoulders. somehow tonight i just went downhill. i'm sad again. when will this end? i dont feel as sick as i did from my previous break up so i'm just really confused.
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Concerned about boyfriend looking at internet porn sites and dating sites
CC replied to tommyJ's topic in Infidelity
i fully understand what you are going through. my newly acclaimed ex was into porn, internet singles website and phone sex. he left the state yesterday and the more i think about it, the more i am concerened having to get myself checked at the doctors -
Thanks a million guys..reading what you guys think makes me feel much better - like a warm blanket. We didn't really say much what happens now. I wont be back in Perth til next month but here's what I emailed him. If I could turn back time, I would have tried to make you turn to me in times of need and frustration, but in reality, you turned to others, You neglected me as if I did not exist. I do not understand why you do this. I looked at your adult and aussie match maker messages and I am absolutely disgusted. You kept up your flirting, gave out your number, offered to meet up and even worse, offered to have casual sex. I am so angry at myself for having feelings for someone as low as you. This hurts so much and I do wish things were different. In the past year I have known you, you became my other half and most of all, you became my best friend - obviously you didn't feel the same. Let's stop this now once and for all. This so called relationship has caused enough pain and tears. I want nothing to do with you now
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Thanks for that MissJones. I do admit that I shouldn't snoop but everytime I find something, I keep looking for more and when I do its never good. I'm feeling numb, not as sick as my previous break up but just numb. Am I just blabbering on here? Help!?!
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Hi everyone. I've been out of these forums for over a year now. I used to be active on the "getting back together" thread but now I got new problems. Here is what's going on. Any comments would be great. I met this guy a year ago and things were great at the beginning. As months went by I knew things were a little suss. I stupidly ignored it but a couple of weeks ago, I learnt the art of snooping (which I am not really proud of) he went to another state with a female friend he's known his whole life, while she left the place they were staying at, he took photos of her underwear in her luggage (isn't that a little peverted?) i went though his emails and found hundreds of email addresses of girls with raunchy email addys (obvious what he gets up to) also in his emails, was updates on these singles websites where he offered his number and suggested to meet up with these girls and even worse casual sex - i checked the dates and these were while we were together he likes to whinge about me to his friends on this car club forum so all his friends hate me he's a photographer and loves taking pics of women he's got a girl friend he constantly takes pics of - some a little raunchy on his car he's got a spare phone full of numbers from girls he constantly puts his phone on silent in front of me he's got print outs of dirty txt messages his phone has random numbers with no name in his address bookhhmm..typing this sorta makes me feel so stupid. He moved to Sydney with me 6 months ago and most of that time, he was living off me. He left Sydney today and i feel so stupid for missing him. Any feedback would be great guys.
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exes do either one of these two things. 1 - take their new interest to places they have been to or feel comfy in or 2 - go to somewhere totally new so they can make new memories and not get flashbacks. don't think too much into it. its not worth hurting and feeling the pain. people do things sometimes without thinking about it (like maybe your ex) and there are the others who think a lot into it (like maybe you) i must admit i do wonder a lot about my ex until now but i try my best to distract myself. take care of yourself!
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my story is quite similar to yours. its been about 9 months since my break up but here's what i have learnt. i was told that once you have broken up, he no longer has the responsibility of being nice to you. he is not trying to hurt you he's now single and he is just doing what any single person would do. a harsh but straight forward way of explaining this is, if the love is no longer there, its just not there and there is nothing you can do about it. that is probably why he has moved on quickly. it hurts but i'm sure it will make you a stronger person. take care
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been with my ex for 7 years. its been 8 months now and it doesn't hurt as much anymore. i still get lonely and upset but i'm can feel myself growing and becoming a better person. i am no longer depending on someone else for my happiness.
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i could write a long long story here but here's just some of what my ex did..we were together for 7 years.. 3 days after taking time apart to think through the relationship, i went to his house to find someone's car i the driveway...i knocked on the door and there he was half naked and wouldnt let me in.... i'm much better now and dont hear from him much...the last time i heard from him, i was overseas and he sent me a text message asking me to buy him all these things and at the end of the message, he mentioned that he wanted to have sex with me when i get back...loser...
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Survey: How long were you with ex/reason for breakup?
CC replied to the_tiger_striped_cat's topic in Breaking Up Advice
1) 7 years 2) 7 months 3) he didnt feel like he loves me anymore. wanted to sort himself out. 4) both 23 -
well knowing he is a jerk is a good start i guess....it is hard to think of the negative things but sometimes that is the easier than thinking how wonderful he was because it still hurts.. i agree with all the mixed emotions. i thought i was doing well until last night i just got really down and low about myself being alone - i do confess though it was because i asked for a lift from work from my ex. at times i feel the need to be with him or at least see him then when we say goodbye it hurts all over again. we gotta stay strong. keep in touch and update me.
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i understand how you feel. my ex started seeing a new girl within a couple of days (we were together for 7 years). sometimes people do things on the rebound - they are scared of being alone. my ex and his rebound chick didn't last very long - he told me things didn't work out (plus i was still sleeping with him - yes, stupid me) i'm not saying that he won't be with her for long, i'm saying that he's moved on to someone else for attention and affection - and that i know is very painfu...you gotta think, do i want him back after what he's done? and if yes, what's to stop him from doing it all over again? what he did was very hurtful. its hard to deal with but i'm sure you will get better.... one thing that helped me is to look at the whole break up as if it happened to your best friend. what would your advise be? will you tell her to go back or still have feelings for a guy that treated her badly? would you tell her to just hang on? the answer is probably no. .you'd tell her to try and heal and take the break up as a big lesson in life....so it that's what you'd tell her...then that's what you should do....hard to explain but that's the best i can say it... hope this helps....please get better..
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yes..do not do anything to move backwards! i know i have....quite a few times by calling, trying to ask him out and yes.....even sleeping with him... really really have to move on but its not easy...but it is getting easier... hope things go well for you!
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it is sorta good to know that they are "slighty" strugling though hey? kinda lets you know that your ex still depends on you even though they dont think they are. just compare how you were 6 weeks ago to now..i am sure you will see a lot of improvement!
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hahhaha....i spoke to him when i got back and i told him to stop asking me to buy him stuff (since i was overseas and stuff there was cheap), asking me how to cook this and that...PLUS...his stupid pimple....hahaa.. its good that i can laugh about it now....but the last time i saw him i really got upset and told him "don't you have a mum to ask all those questions? remember you didn't want this relationship so don't expect me to do what i used to do for you...stop giving me the wrong idea..." well...i haven't heard from him since...i do miss him but i'm better off not hearing from him coz i still get a little emotional...