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well it was last night and he put it on then he said he felt it was a bit small for him.. but anyway it fit there. as i have already said,we werent gonna have sex and we didnt. all we did was rub against each other. the thing is that when he came, i felt everything on me and we realized it had broken ](*,) ! he was very upset because he was against the idea in the first place (he thinks its unsafe to do that without protection even if he wasnt gonna come on me) and it took me ages to convince him to do it. i know its neither our fault that it broke but am afraid he wont do it again now. why do condoms break?could it be because of the size or maybe the semen was a lot? i have no clue on this so any help would be great!

well my friend kissed me on the cheeks not on the lips ! is that also offensive to guys?

Thanks guys for the info.. well actually i dont need lubrication i get wet pretty enough. the thing is that we're using the condom not for sex (we still arent doin it) but coz i want him to rub "ït" against me and he refused to do it without protection. so i don think i'll need lube after all ha? btw guys the condoms are made to be used with oil based lubes, they are NOT latex, kind if thinner substance that is made for more sensation. durex brand called "avanti". purple box..anyone knows it or tried it/?

yes he has used them before but i dont want to ASK him what i should do. i dont want to seem ignorant. btw, if i give him a handjob with condom on, will it slip off due to force or pressure? should i hold it from the base or not? thanks for the tip RayKay.

but if it's over the condom then he wont feel a thing right? i mean whats the point if there will remain friction btwn the penis and the condom? ps: RAYKAY: yeah they aren't latex.

my bf and i will soon be using a condom for the first time (for me at least). i got those condoms that are ultra thin and can be used with oil-based lube. now the question for me is (and DONT LAUGH am new to this): do i use the lube under or over the condom??

ok the whole thing started when my bf met thif friend at my birthday party..my friend, as usual, was kind of touchy with me, u know normal hugs and sometimes kisses and he was celeberating my bday u know..anywaymy bf got very annoyed and we had a fight over that afterwards. so basically he didnt get the best 1st impression about my friend nor did he befriend him. and now he feels uneasy about us being alone. is it justified? i mean whatmy friend did was very usual to me..guys what do you think?

DREAMSONG29 i have a very similar situation to urs! well we dont have the same belief differences like u do but for example we argue about whether god exists everywhere or if he doesnt exist anywhere (meaning anywhere that we can imagine as humans), and he kind of has a non flexible opinion about religion him, what he believes IS the right thing and whenever i argue about something related to that he would first start to go along and then just go blank and accuse me of being ignorant about this stuff and so i cant argue about them!!!..anyway these things dont really affect our relationship as in day to day activities but they are basic belief and logic differences. i know this guy isnt theguy am stayin with forever coz am travelling soon and so i guess we'll be breakin up in 3 months or so..so is it worth breaking up now for these stuff (which woud only affect us if we decide to get married and have a family) knwoing i am leaving in 3 months ? do you guys believe that these kind of differences affect short term relationships (regardless if there is love involved)?

ok so the problem is that my bf doesnt like me to go out with any guy-friend alone. although he says he knows nothing is happening with them, he says he just feels uncomfortable. i have this best friend who is a guy and ever since my bf told me that,i have been making excuses to why i cant see him whenever he asks me to go out.i've argued with my bf for 7 hours straight about the issue becoz am not convinced but then i agreed just becoz i felt he will not change his mind and frankly i really care for him. so the thing is that am embarrassed to tell my guy friend about this decision becoz it will make him think he is not important to me or that i am only his friend when am not dating . should i defy my bf's wish and see this friend regardless of the consequences, or how should i make my friend understand that i still care about him the same but i cant seee him alone (without him thinkiing i have a weak personality coz i am doin what my bf wants?) PLZ its urgent

maybe i should, but am on my period now and i cant wait to know how it will be like!

ok it would be my first time to be with a guy in a condom-on situation..so would it feel different? i bought those durex natural feel condoms so i'd try them, but would it be the same as without them? and how would HIS sensations be affected?

yes we're clean.

to all girls, what do you think if your bf wouldn't allow direct physical contact btwn both your genital areas even though he knows you're both clean? me and my guy haven't had sex yet , and lately i've been asking him to rub his penis over my vagina (and i dont mean penetration) but he is refusing the idea saying its unsafe, even tho we are both clean. and if its about pregnancy, cant he like rub it then just cum somewhere else? i mean i dont get the point! he has finally agreed to do it with a condom on, but still, i want to know your opinion on this..and the guys also for sure!

belladonna thanks, but i was looking for more specific suggestions on different and unusual stuff like foot jobs for example. my bf saiud the one of his ex's gave him a "breast job"..now i'd never have thought of that.. i wanna hear from ppl who have weird ideas ?

My bf and I want to renew the sexual stuff we do. I was wondering about new things we might do in the bedroom (ps: we dont have sex yet so i dont need sex positions, we got to the oral part but we do it in the usual way). Anything different? kinky? weird? unusual? or maybe just unpredictable? i have never done anything like that but i know that he as done a lot and he often mentions it, and i think he wants to do it with me..i dont want to seem ignorant to him, so anything you guys can offer in that area would be great . THANKS!

i believe its about lubrication. foreplay untl ur lubricated well and u can feel ur wetness then let him finger you..it happened with me a coupla times when i hurt but it was only coz he was goin ther too fast before i even had the chance to be wet.. don forget that when ur really aroused your vagina kind of opens up a bit to receive ..so it can be a good factor for you,, let us know what goes on wid u after that

dragonezeyes --> so you donr precum but u usually use lube? or it goes without lube and it still feels good? my bf says he doesnt mind a handjob without lube altho he doesnt pre cum but i feel the friction and i am afraid it is hurting him.

she just lost the physical attraction it seems. she might not be telling you because she doesnt want to hurt your feelingsand might be waiting for you to leave the realtioship so that she wont feel bad.

ok i been in 1 sexual relationship before my current bf and what i know is that guys usually have this "pre-cum" thing right? i mean like a girl getting wet..well thats how it always was with my ex and it was very helpful coz i could use it as a lubricant in the handjob..thing is that my current bf doesnt seem to have this "pre-cum"at all..he is always dry just until he comes. it makes it hard for the handjob becoz it slows me down..and the friction is much more. is that normal? are there guys who just dont lubricate? or is that an indicator he isnt turned on? ps": he comes every time tho. any ideas guys? thanks.

whenever i give my bf an oral he always likes me to finish him off with my hand because its faster. the problem is i never seem to be able to give it the right speed he wants, he always has to do it himslef! another thing is that i need advice on how to make him cum in my mouth whilst actually using my hand to make him come. can i move my hand so fast and at the same time be able to keep the head in my mouth?! its beginning to affect our intimacy. help!

LostInMyThought, am a woman !

Londyn thnx! well actually i dont think this relationship is goin anywhere towards marriage or the like, still however we are willing to make the sacrifices. my question actually would be phrased as in: i feel the effort in arguing sometimes just drains me and i feel that after 6 hours of arguing that we still cant convince each other of our points of view. in the end we just accept to make the compromise not based on conviction rather than a way to stop arguing. is that ok? i feel we have very different starting points and convictions that wont change in both of us. yet we are both kind of laying them low to make things easier. is that normal? or does it mean we shouldnt be together?

i am in a committed relationship, have been for 2 months now. the thing is that i feel i am making, we both are, making A LOT of effort to make it work. we have very different approaches to things , and still we are tryin to overcome it in spite of constant arguments that we have. is it normal to make a lot of effort in a relationship or should things be smooth by nature? i need some advice since this is my first real committed relationship. how much effort is just TOO MUCH and does it mean we should end it?? advice appreciated!

am a 22 yr-old female and i usually go for the really clean look down there, but this means i have to shave everyday and i have bumps and cuts almost always. i was wondering how to keep some hair without havin to shave it all ? if you trim how long should the hair be? and doesn't it bother a guy 's penis if it brushed against trimmed hair (which is usually sharp ended?) thanks!

well i had this same converstaion with my bf two nights ago and he says he doesnt initiate coz he wants ME to be ready and not feel he's comin over only for the sex. anyway thats not the point, yes i told him i like him to be more inititiating and i do like it when he is aggressive a bit. be the 1st to pull her close and kiss her deeply, hold her arms firmly and dont let her move them while u kiss her neck and ears...show her u can do things on ur own to her..