I don't get it.
My ex and I broke up because he is currently seeking greener pastures with another woman he met while we were dating. This was six weeks ago. I let him have it and figured I'd not hear from him for at least a few months. He contacted me two weeks after that. I was elated and spoke to him and then went off on him again, I guess I wasn't healed. I felt like he was trying to force me to accept his apology and forget what had happened so we could be friendly again. Nope.
Two weeks later, he contacted me again. He pursued me for about a week until I finally answered him. The conversation was light and somewhat pleasant but I know he's still seeing that other woman and I asked him what did he want. He missed me, etc. the whole nine yards and then I took it a step further - because honestly I just wanted answers to all the questions I had involving how this mess all started and why he lied to me throughout the whole thing rather than reveal.
Surprisingly he opened up and answered my questions BUT says that this woman who he just met online was just a friend who turned into something more?!! the moment he and I broke up. I told him that he had been building a emotional bond with her ie a emotional affair since he met her. He claims that it was not his intention and to this day does not seem to get or understand even though I've told him how I felt about it all that it was a EA.
Whatever. My trust was broken and if it quacks like a duck it's probably a duck so he can continue with her. What I don't get is WHY has he come back three times since our official break up trying to be friends or have what he says "peace' between us? Is it guilt? Am I his backup plan? Is it just plain old stupidity?
And seriously everytime we've spoken, I usually end up delivering out some anger. Seems to be building up each contact. I don't hate him... I just really really really don't like him. We had a good friendship - maybe not the best relationship if he's with another woman, but we generally liked each other a lot. I guess maybe he thought he'd be able to keep the connection. Nope.
So finally I told him that that would be our last conversation, I did not want to know him any longer and besides I needed to purge him from my life so that I could start moving forward and finding someone I want to be with. I always told him I am not usually friends with my exes, mainly out of respect for the new partner but in this case - out of respect for myself. He cheated! His just a friend who he had no intention other than friendship turned into a relationship. We will never be friends. He messed that possibility up.
Here's the last thing. He seems to be having a horrible depressing time dealing with all of this - but I think well you made your bed you have to lie in it. He chose her. So why is he still trying to bother me?