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We're well aware of that - hence my saying: " Blatant staring? Not so good. Wandering eye will always be there, but not being obvious about it. "

^ Been married for a lifetime and I know my husband looks and sees ever female we pass, lol. But, we're also a rather weird couple whereby we actually point out good looking people to each other, lol. I say things like "wow, did you see that stunning woman!?" and his reply is always "yep", lol. Or if I see a rather gorgeous looking man and mention "wow, he's gorgeous", my husband always says "I'll buy him for you for Christmas" 😄 Men will always look. Women look (I know I do). It's normal human reaction (imo). Blatant staring? Not so good. Wandering eye will always be there, but not being obvious about it.

^ THIS entire post is worth repeating. Great post Cat. 👍

Sounds like he needs some serious anger management. To my mind, when things get to a point where you can't stand the sight or company of your partner anymore, then it's time to leave.

^ THIS nailed it. My thoughts exactly. OP, when one reads all your threads about this toxic guy, it boggles the mind WHY you are still with him? Everyone has been telling you that he's a bad match and yet you stay and let him walk all over you. WHY?? What are you getting out of his bad behaviour towards you? 😕

If you have changed universities and are still so hurt/sad after two years, all you are doing is setting yourself up for a repeat scenario (imo). People will sense the wall you have put up around yourself and not want to approach you. They'll keep their distance (in other words, "reject" you), again. Consider seeing the on-campus trained counselor to help you navigate your emotions and guide you over the hurdles. This is a you problem - you're the common denominator - and I think counseling is the only way to go for you to help you work through where it's all coming from and why.

Show your fiance your thread and ask what he thinks.

You are not over reacting, and no, this is not good. What you see is what you get. He's showing you his true character and it's not exactly impressive (imo). Shoving you around when he is drunk and swearing and disrespecting you whenever he is angry is unacceptable behaviour. Sounds like he needs anger management. Do you really want a partner like this for the rest of your life? It won't get any better - in fact, it will get a lot worse over time. Show him you have some self-respect and leave.

I agree with the above. Focus on enjoying your special day with them and let all the rest fall by the wayside. Congratulations 🙂

What I read above I find really disturbing. Clearly, this is full-on abuse. What is even more disturbing is that you seem really proud of this abusive behaviour and your unwillingness to stop is beyond comprehension (to me). You then ask for advice on how to continue with this abuse. It's mind-boggling to think that anyone would truly give advice and "guidance" on how to continue this shocking behaviour to someone you claim to love. Adding to that concern, is that there are children in the home who are witness to this. You are aware that they are learning from your example, right? Doesn't this bother you? The only advice I can give is to seek qualified professional therapy to stop this abuse. The sooner the better.

OP, a simple question for you: - How would you feel if another guy had his eye on your girlfriend at the gym with intentions of getting together with her, even know she has a boyfriend? Serious question. Comes down to simple respect for others and self-respect (imo).

I would give this one a miss.

Rain, rain, rain and more rain - for days on end. Flooding starting all over the place. I feel like a drowned rat. Oh, and cold! 🥶

AKA emotional vampires.

I'll try this again. My posts keep disappearing. And the guy who comes to rescue her - the knight in shining armour? I see both these individuals as people with very low self-esteem. Both looking for attention in their own way.