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I have to voice my agreement. I hate to go off topic but we are told constantly how rushed health workers are, yet all my experience waiting and within hospitals, and having many friends and spouses of friends who are consultants and nurses is - they still have time on wards to gossip, post on social media (very unprofessional, sometimes even with the wards visible in the background and patients feet at the foots of beds) and drink tea and coffee. I personally don’t buy the hype about it. Also bear in mind after very long shifts like anyone else who works elongated shifts (truck drivers/factory workers/pilots and air staff etc) there is often a large amount of time to re-coupe. Over here in England it’s often referred to as “one on, two off” aka a 12 hour shift and then 2 days off work after. It all sounds unfortunately very unprofessional and whether he had alternative motives or not, it doesn’t look good understandably for your partner OP! I would actually thank him but send him the money back, say you made a mistake with the cash app, and say if he would like to donate or give thanks maybe send the ward or department a gift card or something the staff can share. All the best, x

Finding a truly great therapist in my opinion seems like a needle in a hay stack. It’s a job like any other at the end of the day - the majority are going to be quite mediocre, with some being terrible and a small percentage being exceptional. I find, it seems, most people have to swap and change at least a few times before they find a therapist that works well with them. Finding one that truly can do good and forward, enlightening work with you the patient seems to actually be the hard part. I wish you and your girlfriend all the best OP! And hope your therapy sessions help you personally and your relationship! All the best, x

I wouldn’t touch this stranger with a barge pole personally Mike! Trust your gut. Way too much, too strange; and some very potentially creepy comments and veiled threats. No way! x

They are quite tasty… the taps 🌚🤣 And showers as well. Any kind of “bathroom furniture” they call it. I’ll send a picture on if you’re interested although it’s not going to blow you away; I will pre-warn ya 🥹 I’m simply a traditionalist doing my traditional thing with my mahogany loo seat 🚽 LOL! (This is instead of going on holidays!) You’re too kind Dias; you really are! And by the way, I forgot to say that, if you call that messy? Holy smokes. I’m hailed as a neat and hyper hygienic kinda gal but if I’ve dared lounge in bed with a coffee for half an hour you should see what the rooms look like after hyperactive 6am trio of chiddlers have done their best 🥲🤣 I think it’s amazing your parents built their own house! I’d like to hear more about it actually!!! The ins and outs! And yes! Our last house was very grand. I never really said anything much whilst I was in it, but it was pretty special. It was part of a Georgian crescent. Think the ones in the town of Bath. The terrace at the end of our row had a ball room in it. Looking back, it kind of took my breath away; but I was in it constantly for 7 years and it’s very spoilt what you get used to and pretty quickly at that. And yes, the ceilings there were 12 foot plus, I don’t know the exact height, and 11 foot here in this house, although in the previous house that had a basement, the ceilings got much lower (probably a standard height of around 9ish foot? Same with the top floor in the attic which had been originally servant quarters). These have both been huge renovations by the way Dias which is why we were able to buy them in the first place! And we haven’t fully finished this one yet (I have a spare room to do, and part of the attic, and I want to buy about 6 large lilac trees to make a little avenue in the back yard. Nagging the husband to pick me up some big antique pots at the next fair! And some garden furniture!) Because we’re by the sea, we need to replace the front door. At the mo I painted the old one in a dark, deep, “British racing green” and I’d love to get a big brass star fish as a door knocker! It has a historic meaning to our little family as our family tradition has it, we go rock pooling with the kids and pick up star fish! Some are BIG BOYS! 🤣 Whoppers they are! Anyway, shut up Lo - as you know, I could talk house all year. Not just mine! Generally! I might have a void once this one is done. There’s a Victorian attic flat that has come up for sale. The views are absolutely phenomenal. I briefly saw the estate agent photo’s and my mind started the manic chaos! I wanted to buy that thing so bad Dias, do it up quickly, but with quality and some unique attentions to detail and then rent it out. But at the moment, the hubby is ploughing all funds back into the business to try built it back up. Doing up this house has cost more than we thought (always does, I bet you and your parents know about this!) and well, we need to re-coupe. Anyway, maybe in the future. Who knows! Who knows. And I will say, you mentioning the ceiling height making an astronomical difference? It’s so true. My favourite, absolute favourite era of architecture has to be Georgian, and I say this because of their elegant proportions, but mostly, and especially, because of their use and love of LIGHT! And SPACE! And those elongated, delicate sash windows? And common place ceiling height which would now seem beyond luxurious! I could go on! I have me a thing for the Georgians! But, I also have a fetish, I have to say, for the Georgian cottage. And, the first house we ever shacked up in together, well, my husband had it when he met me - was a tiny ancient cottage. They will always hold a special place in my heart! This one was actually 15th century!!!! God I wish I’d took pictures! It was like something from a fairy tale! Stooping barn doors and forget me nots winding around the cobbled path. Aged oak beams bending higgled like into the ceiling! Very low ceilings and tiny windows. I used to arrange gypsophila in bottle green vases on the tiny window sills. It had the most peaceful quality of anywhere we’ve ever been. God! Honestly, it is boring I know. You had to experience it to believe it. One day, if I ever can, I’ll go back and buy it too. Wow, all these properties I’m supposedly buying up huh? 🤣🤣🤣 The fantasy portfolio!!! HA! I’d love the TOUR DAHLING but I understand - it’s personal! By the way… please don’t get the wrong impression. I like a bit of luxury, I won’t deny, but I’m a very down to earth kinda gal for the most part, and definitely no snob. Not head to toe in designer clothing or anything like that. I think I plough the majority into the interior and of course the kids. So, there is no need to impress. I’m curious about so many different aspects of very opposite interiors. I have a thing for gardens too. I could go on 🤣 Another time! Thanks Dias 🥲 x

I have to add I’m a tap obsessive… 🤣 I know how that sounds. But get me some Perrin and Rowe, Lefroy Brooks or some Barber Wilson and I’m in heaven… 🤣🚿 I’m lucky because I love these things to have them in my own home but understand they are huge luxuries. Sorry kids, Mam blew all the money on traditional faucets 🫢🥴🥴🥴 x

Dias! 🥳 I love dark furniture, mahogany and I also love walnut (burled walnut especially! Can be mid to light too) in the right place, balanced nicely! I love this! Is this your childhood home in Greece? I absolutely LOVE interiors!!! I always want in everyone’s house 🥲🤣 I understand it’s very personal though! But thank you, it looks like a very calm, peaceful part of the house! Ours is Georgian, I think often referred to as a display cabinet or silverware dresser. Could be other names I’m sure! It’s much bigger than it appears, our ceilings are very tall - I get the impression the ceilings are tall here in this picture too? Maybe 10 foot plus? When doing our kitchen, I wanted to re-create the last kitchen me and the hubs designed but add a few more antique twists so, instead of getting a cabinet maker to fit floor to ceiling cabinets for behind the island, I got a free standing antique cabinet instead! As you know I’m not bothered about the traditional layout of a normal kitchen where you have worktop space all around most of the walls and cabinets above the worktop space! I’m not knocking it it’s just not my chosen style. I can see that glorious sun trying to get through the curtains 🥲 Here, a different story! As you know England, we love a bit of drizzle drizzle here… 😭🤣🤣🤣 I don’t mind snapping indiscreet little sections of our house but wouldn’t do a full snap! Just because of the kids and we will probably be here for the rest of unless something majorly financial or job wise changed. It’s a scaled down version of the last house. We have some interesting rooms like a vaulted ceiling room with a pool table and quaint dormer windows and I’ve created a smaller L shaped walled, mini yard/court yard bit similar to the last house as well! With triple wall to ceiling glass bi-fold doors that all open out to open the whole kitchen to the garden! I love the feel of your Greek house!!!!!! Thanks for the snap Dias - Y’know I’m an interior loser 🤣😎 x

Evening wind down music when it’s time to get up 🌝 x

I feel Alias this is understandable. I can actually see both sides and don’t automatically think your girlfriend is “the bad guy!” I’m also tainting this with personal experience as well! I had an old friend I’d grown up with and come up through school with. She struggled with an eating disorder as did I at certain points. We both never discussed anything to do with diets which, is the strange part, but because she was only 15 her Dad had her put in therapy and she was instantly heavily medicated. She walked around like a zombie for 2 years. She gained weight but lost her essence. She used to fall asleep in class. I think it’s important if therapy is the route you’re going down to do your research and find a doctor you really click with. Try and maybe ask your girlfriend what would put her at ease? Would she maybe like to search for local therapists near you together? Maybe alongside your own therapy you could attend a group with her or regular date nights? So you can talk and set that time aside for each other along with your private development. x

I think we are speculating about why she feels threatened - it may be more deep rooted or more malicious, who could know? Personally, I don’t think this instantly makes her the bad guy. They need to talk this through as a couple. If she can’t get around the therapy concept or changing therapists because of the gender, then the OP will have to decide what to do moving forward. I’m British - we don’t do therapy really. Stiff upper lip and all that. It’s not a cultural norm here. I see therapy as vital for things like childhood trauma, abusive situations or crisis like mental health disorders. I can understand the concept of, if you are having problems in your relationship, going to seek outside help; be it professional or not, could quicken the end, or even cause the end of a relationship, whether anyone is mentioning breaking things off or not. I think he is justified in his feelings, but so is she. I hope they can resolve it between themselves, and come to some arrangement where the OP can receive therapy if that’s what he needs but in a way that accommodates his girlfriends feelings - if it’s a relationship worth saving! Therapy isn’t always the answer to mental health issues and it isn’t the only option. You have to bear in mind that seeing a psychologist can often entail being prescribed medications - this can lead people down other paths they may not have originally gone down. Medications often have side effects and can affect couples sex lives and other aspects of their life. I think she had a smidge of a legit concern, but she’s going about it the wrong way. x

I’m choked! Well said! 😭 x

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Robert Greene 😎 x

I think his girlfriend may fear and probably the worry is warranted, that eventually over the course of prolonged therapy, their relationship will come up. Which is normal and natural, especially if you are in a serious relationship and if you’re having problems within it. x

I would actually potentially suggest, although this is not my personal style, that if the OP would like to explore therapy, that they also go into couples therapy and of course with a separate therapist as I think, his girlfriend has tainted this one enough, even if they did eventually meet and then get along 🤣 And I actually does think it makes a difference the gender of the therapist. I personally would rather speak to a male therapist myself, if I were to go down that route. Everyone has different preferences. If his girlfriend is the jealous type, the fact she is female will play on her mind a bit. It’s not unheard of for people to develop feelings for their therapist, it is explained to be a common phenomenon that is usually gotten over but; if you feel your emotions are being heard, this can develop a form of attraction and bond whether that is a temporary illusion or not. x

Of course, but if something causes a big rift in your relationship, between a couple, you can’t just say “well tough it’s what I want to do so you can’t stop me” or it will probably spell the end of the relationship. Everyone has a right to do whatever they want. A part of me would personally love to go back to the gentleman’s club I used to work at and start stripping and pole dancing again from 9pm till 3am but, I think rightfully so, my husband doesn’t like that idea as I’m a married woman and mother of three young kids. Is it my right to go do what I want? Sure - but not at the detriment of my marriage. It’s not that important to me. I actually think, reading between the lines, the OP’s girlfriend fears talking about their problems with a third party will mean eventually the end of their relationship. I actually have a hunch it might not be much to do with female personality traits but they are maybe potentially a small factor. I think this says more about the fractured nature of their relationship than the debate over whether he sees a therapist or not. I would actually predict the relationship won’t last, whether he sees one or not, but I think his girlfriend is right to know if he sees a therapist, it may spell the beginning of the end sooner than if he hadn’t. I’m not saying she’s right by the way - I can just sense her reasoning behind it and I think there is a shred of truth in her worry. x