When Online Love Won't Meet in Person

Dating someone online who seems to be “the one” can foster an intense level of excitement and hope. Yet, when they won’t agree to meet in person, the thrill can quickly turn to apprehension. The urge to question the authenticity of the relationship can become overwhelming and the underlying fear of rejection hard to ignore.

Online romance can often leave us guessing, worrying, and struggling with our own choices. And with all things, it is important to remember that caution with both our hearts and finances is key. Before committing emotionally to a relationship that may not exist it’s best to practice healthy skepticism.

When seeking love online it’s frequently necessary to make certain compromises. The ability to meet in person should not be one of them. To truly get to know someone a face to face meeting is necessary. It is worth pausing long enough to acknowledge that a refusal to meet in person could be a red flag that needs careful consideration.

No one should ever accept an excuse which implies an inability or unreadiness to meet. Examples may include vague messages regarding family obligations, health issues, lack of resources, fear or anxiety. It’s essential to look carefully at the substructure of such excuses. Are they hiding something unexpected or unusual such as:

* They are married or living with someone else

* They don’t have a valid passport

* They live far away

* They are under age

When we’re met with reluctance from someone we don’t know well the hesitation is usually justified. Before making any attempt to push the situation, take a step back and research further. Begin by taking a look at their social media profiles for extra clarity. Look for details like job status, access to funds, other connections. Evaluating these connections could help confirm whether or not a physical meeting will happen.

It’s also beneficial to accept that sometimes things don’t move forward when we hope they will. Allowing forces of change to take place is sometimes necessary. This includes a wide array of things such as location, time, lifestyles and relationships.

If a refusal to meet persists considers getting the assistance of a third-party mediator. When the person declines, this can signal the need for a professional. Hiring a private investigator may be difficult to accept but can be necessary in certain cases.

Dating someone online can instill a deep yearning for intimacy and connection. It’s important to recognize that when there are signs that this connection will never evolve in to something more tangible, it’s time to not make excuses for the situation. Accept what is, and put forth the effort to begin exploring other possibilities.