Getting Your Fearful Boyfriend Away from His Ex

Fears of a passionate reunion after years have gone by can cause a great amount of anxiety in your relationship with your boyfriend. What to do if you are afraid your boyfriend is going to fall back in love with his ex?

The angst of being re-united with an old flame, who has taken up residence in your current relationships' happiest and most vulnerable moments, can be quite intimidating. It's not uncommon for the nostalgia of the past to cause a person, especially one that was once connected to the fire of their former, to spark. This leaves many of us wondering what to do if we feel our partner may be vulnerable to feeling that love all over again.

The truth is it's entirely possible your boyfriend still has feelings for his ex, even if he won't admit it or isn't immediately aware of it himself. You should take the time to spend focusing on yourself, your mental and emotional health is just as important as his. Keeping your self together in the midst of such heartache and fear can be difficult; but it's necessary.

Firstly, talk to him. Express your feelings and worries. Don't expect to receive certain feedback from him; let him talk uninterruptedly and listen patiently and genuinely. Maybe take this opportunity to clarify any misunderstandings about where he stands before taking further action. He may have broken off on good terms with his ex and could be unaware of how you're feeling.

Next, fix areas in your relationship that lack attention. Focus on repairing what needs fixing, like becoming more understanding and communicating better. If you inspire passion in each other then it will be easier to pry attention away from the ex while spicing things up at the same time! After all, the partnership between the two of you should be having fun, electric and safe.

It's also helpful to be supportive and understanding if ‘accidents' such as contact or run-ins take place. You need to stay composed and make sure he knows you are still there for him as a strong emotional support system during these trying times, no matter what happens. It may also help to encourage him to reconnect with his family and develop new friendships that have nothing to do with his past relationship.

If communication fails try using humour and spending more quality time together. If he opens up about the ex, don't react immediately and don't compare yourself negatively against the ex. Shake off any negative thoughts by making silent promises that whatever happens you will stay by his side no matter what.

If you find yourself in this situation then you need to examine the relationship closely and determine if it's worth fighting for or if it's best to just move on. It can be quite tricky determining whether you have a fighting chance or not but with some patience and care you can make it work out in the end.