They say that love fades away, like a light that has been extinguished. But what if it doesn't turn out to be the case? What if after the abrupt ending, despite the fading fire, there's still a lingering spark? That's what ghosting and fizzling are all about. To those who have gone through either of these two, the experience can be confusing and traumatic. They can be seen as metaphors for that little spark that refuses to disappear entirely after a sudden ending in a relationship. Whether you went through ghosting or fizzling, it would leave you feeling disoriented, adrift, trying to find your way back to shore.
When it comes to relationships, ghosting is the act of suddenly ending a connection with someone without any explanation or closure. You may hear nothing from that person anymore, or they may even pretend they don't remember who you are. It's a harsh and sudden conclusion that often leaves people off-guard and heartbroken.
On the other hand, fizzling is a much subtler and less obvious approach. Just like the wisp of a flame flickering out, rather than abruptly shutting off the communication, it gradually loses its intensity over time. There's no clarity as to when it became dull enough to be considered faded away. You might be still in contact, but the communication lost its warmth as if all emotions had been gradually drained from it. Soon enough, both parties will be numb to each other and be waiting for some kind of sign that it's time to move on.
It's difficult to pinpoint which of the two is worse; not all endings can be bittersweet. At least with ghosting, you get a sudden jolt that shakes you out of the dream, whereas with fizzling, it feels like you're suspended in midair waiting for something to bring you down. It's like you're walking in a fog, hazy and uncertain, surrounded by questions and unanswered cries.
If you have gone through either of these two, know that you're not alone. There may be no bigger truth that many people will struggle to let go of something they once felt so deeply. You could be stumbling around in the dark, vagueness clouding your vision. But be patient, because no matter how lost and aimless you feel afterwards, it will pass eventually. Remember that times will heal all wounds - and perhaps, when the pain fades away, the spark that was once there will still remain.
The takeaway here is that a breakup can take more forms than just ghosting or fizzle. If you find yourself in this situation, take it as an opportunity to learn more about yourself and your relationship. The more open and honest conversation you have with your partner, the lighter it will be for both of you. That's what will make all the difference as you navigate your way through the pain of the inevitable end.