Have any of you had an incorrect first impression of someone?

Have you ever met someone and formed an impression of them, only to find out months or years later that you were completely wrong?

I've dated guys I thought were great and then they turned out to be.. horrible.

The guy I'm dating now, I didn't really see much of a future with initially, but as we've gotten closer and become less afraid of each other, I am liking him more and more. Initially we had some problems because we were both afraid to show our feelings and because we were both trying hard not to appear needy, we both acted like we weren't interested. But we had a long talk about it, and things have completely changed. And we are becoming good friends. I feel comfortable talking to him about things that I haven't told many people at all, and he is eager to get to know more about me. We communicate easily, and the awkwardness is going away and we're very comfortable around each other. Lately we have been having phone conversations that lasted hours, and we don't run out of things to say. And he is making a supreme effort to make me happy and let me know that he cares a good deal about me.

Anyways, I didn't expect it. I really think that even if things don't work out between us, we will be able to remain friends. On our first date, I didn't even know if I'd ever talk to the kid again or not!

Any similar experiences ?

Most people i know, have ever backstabed me or did something i never thought they would do and really did believe they were better people than that but i was wrong

Lost -

Do you mean friends, or people you were in a relationship with .. or both?

Shortly after coming to the US, I got a factory job. At this factory job there was a guy who made fun of everyone all the time, and from a distance seemed like a real jerk.

Long story short, I became friends with this guy. Now, ten years later, he is like a brother to me.

Lost -

Do you mean friends, or people you were in a relationship with .. or both?

I mean both, alomost everyone i have ever gotten close too

It happens all the time

i HATED this girl I worked with, for ages, I HATED HER!!! but now I love her to pieces and Im trying to get her to move to my city

Yeah! definitely. I started talking to someone last year and he thought I was really annoying and girlie- a year on and we're really good friends and I can't imagine not talking to him now! It's weird how some friendships/ relationships turn out.

Hk87

Where I used to work, there was this girl that was so annoying. Always smiling and trying to talk to me and play cards with us at lunch.

I acted so standoffish to her. The more I let down my guard, the more I realized she was really cool. Oh, and she could really kiss.

Yes.... /cry

This girl looked like the sweetest thing from heaven.

After we broke up I found out she was a dirty dirty .

RW -

You describe her as your current gf..??? Why?!

(and sees nothing wrong with that), slept with many guys between 8-17

The way you write this it sounds like the guys she slept with were between 8 and 17. Am I just reading this wrong or did she sleep with an 8 year old? That is disturbing if she did.

Yup, Its definatley happened to me!

yeah, my current girlfriend....she came accross so classy and self-respecting when we met and for many months afterward..so much so, that i fell in love...many months down the road i find out that she's molested by an unnamed family member, raped twice, slept with her 37 year old boss when she was 16, played the groupie and slept with a well known pop star, had many one-night stands (and sees nothing wrong with that), slept with many guys between 8-17(one when she was 40 and the guy was 23!) years younger than herself, slept with brothers at different time periods, got herpes from her cheating first husband, had a drunken threesome with one of her boyfriends and his boss, engaged in group sex, wife swapping/swinging, and many f/f/m threesomes all with her second husband...how's that for thinking you know someone and being completely wrong?

Man she takes the cake for all the people with women with issues I have ever heard about. Jesus.

She needs some sympathy. Most of her problems were not self-inflicted