xmrth Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 I've done a bit of research, but really have no idea how to fix this issue. My boyfriend certainly doesn't last a while during sex, and though it's not the biggest deal in the world, it would be nice. So then in that case it IS a deal to me. He comes too early. And it's always always been this way. Now that I'm on the pill, we go without condoms and it's TOO early. We've talked about it, and though he's not thought of ways (to my knowledge) of how to prolong intercourse, I'd like to already have gathered several options so we can talk about it more than just that we both know he doesn't last long. What I have read up on this are all things he does naturally. Eats well, exercise, not on medication, is calm... I've tried changing positions in the middle of it, and he was confused. I was like "I was trying to make you last longer!" and he just said "it doesn't help!" and it's funny and I've not been harsh to him about it, but I'd like it to last longer. Has anyone tried medications? I'm not seeing harmful side effects for the first product that comes up in a link removed search for stamina. I believe it's Stamtrex, or something like that. I don't want him to have any weird side effects or life threatening consequences... in which case, nevermind it, it's not worth it to me for him to suffer any of that. But I would like to know. What are some solutions? Medications? More than what I've read which he's doing already? Thanks so much, Martha Link to comment
Frost271 Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 Its different for every guy but with my experience I find that I HAVE to make a girl cum at least twice before i go. Its a rule that I live by Some helpful suggestions: 1. Try the "long lasting" condoms. There are condoms out there (forgot exact name/term) that have this special "lubricant" on the inside that kind of numbs the tip of the guys penis and hence makes him last a LONG time. 2. Based on my "rule," If im about to cum i switch positions and during the "switch" my penis gets a "break" and I'm ready to go at it a bit longer. 3. If step 2 doesnt work, I just do the oral thing while I calm down. Sex it up, oral it up, sex it up with a finish. Hope this helps Link to comment
SxcLady Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 there is a lubricant that can/should make him last longer but i dont know what it is called. Sorry. Link to comment
annie24 Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 he can use a penis ring - look at an adult toys website. Link to comment
Scotcha Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 Well, my boyfriend has the same "problem". What he usually does is this: He just stops for a few moments when he knows he's getting close until the feeling goes away and then we carry on. It doesn't really bother me. In fact, it doesn't in the least, I take it as a compliment. Most of the time I try to see if I can get him to go even when he's trying so hard not to. You could also try extended foreplay. Pleasure him less before hand and have him pleasure you more... That way when you start having sex your level of arousal is more closely matched to his. And if all else "fails".. Does he at least return the favor? Also.. In my experience I've found that changing positions makes *me* last longer so that could possibly be counter productive. Link to comment
RandomAdvisor Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 Try different positions. When my girlfriend and I are using one position, I'll come very quickly. With another position it might take me quite a while. Link to comment
xmrth Posted April 24, 2006 Author Share Posted April 24, 2006 I certainly wouldn't want him to take forever, and in that way I have tried to think of it as at least he is aroused so much to, but I am more interested in him lasting longer in the penetration in general. I think all positions are the same for him. But there are 1-2 that are even faster, but kind of all seeming the same. I don't know about the ring as I thought that was just for more blood flow to make it more stiff which isn't a problem. Unless it stops early ejaculation I'll still check into what it is. Link to comment
Dako Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 Half a bottle of champagne used to do wonders for a close friend of mine. Link to comment
xmrth Posted April 24, 2006 Author Share Posted April 24, 2006 haha that's actually true for him as well if he's been drinking. But... you know how it is. Can't be all the time for him. Link to comment
Dako Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 For some reason champagne was the most soothing, as far as I recall. Link to comment
Jhodas Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 I don't know how you would broach this to him, but try getting him to masturbate earlier in the day, several hours before you have sex (not too soon before, for obvious reasons). Link to comment
Beyondthesea Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 The quickest way to stop a man from arriving too early is to give him a nice love bite while you are going down on him. That should slow him down for sex. Just kidding. Sort of. The real solution: Keep using condoms. Also there are 'numbing' creams you can use that will make him calm down a bit. Good luck! Link to comment
SxcLady Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 i think a numbing cream would numb him a little too much, then he wont even be able to feel it will he? Thats why i suggested the long lasting lubricant. Its purposely made for men/woman, so they can orgasm later in intercourse! Link to comment
vesper Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 Sometimes stopping and starting, changing positions often, and also a little bit of alchohol may help....good luck!!.. Link to comment
SAMRA2 Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 my bf usually can control the timing of his orgasm..he says he just takes his mind off the sex while he wants to last and thinks of some other thing( what he's doin the next day, homework..) until i want him to finish it..when he wants to come he just focuses back on it and he comes..try it Link to comment
novaseeker Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 Start slowly and work things up slowly as well. And then when it gets close to the point of orgasm, slow down or stop for a minute or two, and then resume, slowly again, and gradually working up again. With some discipline and experience, you can learn to "manage" yourself this way pretty well. Link to comment
Spugly Fuglet Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 As every one says slow down take your time, love is an art form its takes lots and lots of practis on tecniek. remember the mind is the biggest sex organ. (LoL I know thats all spelled wrong) Link to comment
Cardinal Posted May 15, 2006 Share Posted May 15, 2006 I think the surest bet is to make sure he is diligent and masturbates beforehand. Not only that. I suggest he increase the frequency of his masturbation. If he normally does this somewhat infrequently (like only once a day), have him try doing it twice a day, morning and night anytime you don't have sex with him. Also, if you give him a few more blowjobs throughout the week that is a good way to make sure he is coming more frequently! I haven't met a man yet that didn't say he lasts a good while the third time around. Holding back is just very frustrating for me. I like it a lot more when I have plenty of control and I can enjoy the sexual experience more that way Link to comment
MacGyverRI Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 Just keep him going after he lets go. Slow down if he's really sensitive but he has to keep going then it subsides and it's like starting over. It takes some practice but it's really good for both. Link to comment
MacGyverRI Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 I haven't met a man yet that didn't say he lasts a good while the third time around. Very true! 20 mins, 40-60 then 2 hrs plus..... Link to comment
MacGyverRI Posted May 17, 2006 Share Posted May 17, 2006 I haven't met a man yet that didn't say he lasts a good while the third time around. Very true! avg. is 20 mins, 40-60 then 2 hrs plus..... Link to comment
confused1607307390 Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 what are these "last longer lubricants"?????where can you get them? Link to comment
MacGyverRI Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 what are these "last longer lubricants"?????where can you get them? A local sex shop or mail order. Google, "cream ointment to prolong sex", I don't know names since I'm lucky and can last a long time..... Link to comment
tuatara Posted May 18, 2006 Share Posted May 18, 2006 Different positions is the trick! Makes things interesting annnd he might find positions that pleasure you more then him, you can get hours of amazing sex! Link to comment
heavenearth Posted April 22, 2008 Share Posted April 22, 2008 Sometimes stopping and starting, changing positions often, and also a little bit of alchohol may help....good luck!!.. What effect alcohol has on women when it comes to coming faster or later? Link to comment
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