Guys, how do you "last longer" during sex?

[ghost69]

What effect alcohol has on women when it comes to coming faster or later?

 

alcohol affect everyone differently. no solid answer for this.

[fnck_head]

Hi,

I have a similar problem with my boyfriend. I'm in love with him and every moment we spend together is special. Intercourse is always really special

It's not a huge deal for me...I can come masturbating, but I have yet to have an orgasm with my boyfriend of 6 months. I don't know what to do, I don't want to talk to him about it because I'm sure either way I say it, it will make him feel inadequate if he knows I've never come with him before...

I guess I need help...he also NEVER EVER eats me out. And I don't want to ask because...well I don't know, I fell he should just do it if he wants to and I don't want to make him do anything he doesn't.

HELP ME! I WANT TO COME WITH THE MAN I LOVE!

[ghost69]

60%+ of women cannot orgasm from intercourse, so let's not just blame him.

 

he definitely should give you some foreplay though.

[Tw3aks]

I change positions and get sex outta my head. I think of things that are stressful or chores that I need to do to totally throw out the pleasure streaming into my mind. This works the best in my opinion, we don't have to stop sex, and I can last for a hella long time and if you work at it good enough, you can cum when YOUR ready, which I usually wait until the girl is completely worn out.

 

Things I think about: Work, life situations, family problems, etc. Then when your not so sensitive anymore, start thinking about tearing that girl apart and get your mind back in the game.

[Kaiser_Soze]

60%+ of women cannot orgasm from intercourse, so let's not just blame him.

 

he definitely should give you some foreplay though.

 

Completely agree on the foreplay. The first thing I will suggest for him is to practice Kegel exercises. Tell him to squeeze and hold the muscles that stop the flow of pee. Tell him to do these often. It will give him stiffer erections and more control when cumming. I will warn you though, when those muscles get stronger he will shoot his load half way accross the room!

 

The other thing I would suggest is rather than focus on him not cumming, help him get the first one out early. Initially he may feel like he can't stay hard, it may even feel uncomfortable for him to be inside of you, but if he keeps at it he will quickly become aroused again and will last alot longer the second time. When I learned how to do this it was initially very uncomfortable, almost grainy like I was boning a gopher hole or something! Do your best to keep him turned on during this time and you will both love the outcome!

[mrmellow]

I have this problem from time to time here are some of the ways I've dealt with it in the past

 

what I typically do

-a lot of foreplay concentrating on her with fingering and sometimes oral before any kind of penetration

 

-pick a slightly slower speed and change the motion if I'm getting close, no need to change positions completely, though that can help

 

-rather than day dreaming about non-sex stuff, I just concentrate on things other than being inside her, I think a lot of times since that's where most of the nerves are firing if I pay closer attention to the other areas where are bodies are touching, it not only makes it a more full-body experience but it also allows me to draw attention away from just that one area, without trying to think of something different completely. if she does stuff like make out, lick/suck my fingers, grab or scratch at my arms/chest that really helps too, it ads to the excitement but helps me concentrate less on that one area.

 

-masturbation "training" bringing myself to the edge and then holding off for a few seconds then again... helps to understand which speeds work for me and it also builds up the muscles in that area. There are also exercises that can be done but I've never really tried them.

 

-The biggest thing though I find that the more frequently I make love the easier it is for me to last long. If it's been a day since the last time then there are no problems at all, if it's been a couple of weeks I'm a total two-pump-chump

 

 

I've tried the long lasting condoms and similar stuff, they do work but I hate using them... it literally takes away the pleasure for me. I've only used them a few times and it was years ago but I could barely feel anything down there and was thinking to myself ... this must be what it feels like to use a strap-on.

[decourcy7]

Only one person brought up Kegel excersises? I had to use them and I still do. He could do it at any time. At work, watching T.V., while you guys are doing it....and no one would know. Tell him to flex the muscles that stop him from peeing and do sets of reps 10...5 sets. Just like lifting weights. Then he can flex that muscle and hold it for a count of 10 and relax. There are whole excersise routines dedicated to this, and they do work. Your bf has to put in the work and do it, but it is possible. That is the only thing that I have done and it works great.

One more small thing...have him vary his depths when he is thrusting and getting excited. He can turn this into a workout as well. Well, he would need to read this but I will include it anyway. As you guys are getting down and he is getting revved up, have him only slide in 2 inches or so, a few times and then a few deep thrusts, something like this takes practice and some counting so that is something else that should slow him down too. I would not mess with any of the pills or creams until he can try this out first. It is something that he has to keep on doing too. It wont be just do it for a week and he is cured. It will take work. But pleasing a woman is always worth the work

[last-longer]

hi. First of all I would like to thank you for posting a thread which has brought in a lot of informative answers.

 

I would like to add a few tips:

 

1. breathe slowly

2. relax your body

3. start and stop method (when you are about to come)

4. switch positions and

5. prolonged foreplay

[Organs]

I think of really un-sexy things, like family or a really depressing movie, or a problem in my life I have to resolve. Once I've tempered myself, I go back to thinking sexy thoughts.

[MD Geist]

-I would say if he cums to quickly have him finish during the foreplay session first and get that orgasm out of the way so while he's going through the refactory period he could be pleasing the woman and when he's ready to go again he will last longer the second time around.

 

-Relaxing the penis during stimulation helps.

 

-Practice on your free time of reaching the point of no return and gaining control.

 

Believe it or not I have given that advice to non-virgins and have had positive results.

 

I know quite a bit about sex.

[Superfreak]

Tell him to just stop thrusting when he feels the urge to cum too quickly. It does hamper the "flow" of sex a little bit when all of a sudden the thrusting completely stops for a few seconds or a minute, but it's probably one of the most effective ways to delay ejaculation.

[blacksmith]

Here's what a guy can do to last longer in bed (and cure premature ejaculation)...

 

TIPS & TRICKS

1. Masturbate before sex
2. Breathe deeply
3. Take 2-3 shots of whiskey
4. Think about something boring/distracting during sex
5. Use 2 condoms
6. Use positions good for lasting longer (avoid ones that are not)
   

 

PILLS & OTHER MEDICATIONS

1. Take antidepressants (like Prozac, Zolofr, Paxil, Anafranil)
2. Use desensitizing sprays and creams
3. Take herbal pills
   

 

OTHER THINGS

1. Practice Kegels
2. Practice Start-Stop Method
3. Practice Squeeze Technique
4. Use relaxation tapes
5. Use hypnosys tapes/mp3s
6. Get some professional help (GP, Urologist, Psychologist/Psychiatrist, Sex Therapist)
   

 

...and few other things. There are well over 40 ways to last longer during sex.

 

Word of advice!

Don't go with pills unless you're 100% sure you know what you're doing. I don't want to scare anyone, but yes, he could die if things go wrong. (Anyone remember Heath Ledger... he died by mixing 2 simple medications, that are not dangerous at all).

 

Anyway, there are also natural ways to permanently cure premature ejaculation and gain almost unlimited control over ejaculation. It's definitely possible to last longer in bed. Even if he now can't last more than 5 seconds... he can improve his sexual stamina dramatically and easily last up 30 minutes (or even more if you really need that much).

 

Finally...

I would strongly advise you to check out this book at: link removed

 

It will tell you everything you need about lasting longer in bed/curing premature ejaculation. It many describes DIY solutions for lasting longer, as well as what you need to know about pills and which are the best (if you chose to go with pills)

 

Hope this helps.

[Bigbradb19]

Honestly, in my opinion there's not much you can do. However for me it seems like I last longer with less authority in the bed. Example, I find that if I'm in any dominant position aka missionary, doggy, side ways spooning then I tend to over do it and finish too quickly. Solid positions for me to last longer would be cowgirl, reverse cowgirl often times in the shower as well. I would definitely have him masturbate frequently, I do and sometimes that helps but if he's going fast he's into you either way and that's not all to bad. Definitely mix it up try new positions and tell him not to over think it. Sometimes I get selfish or think perverse and it speeds up the process, every guy watches porn and every guy fantasizes that during sex with his partner even if on a subconscious level. Condoms and alcohol will definitely help and if none of that works have more sex, oral sex etc. I don't think that he or any other guy for that matter who finishes quickly has a problem they just need a solution, time isn't the issue the issue is your satisfaction. If he likes to go down on you I would for sure start it off with that get you close then let quickness come in and finish you off on the inside. I've found that a lot of girls can get there by the finishing of the guy, maybe he can fight through for a few minutes more after he blows and you will too.

[jennysilver]

"fast" men can be frustrating, but it is not a deal killer for sure. there are many ways to have an orgasm. so if you can get off orally first, then a "fast" ride is not a big deal. at least for me.

 

with the fast men i have been with, it never improved. so i'm not sure how to get anyone to last longer.

[Puck2DaHead]

If your guy is coming too quickly and you have never come with him before, I would suggest buying/using a "pocket rocket" vibrator, and use it on your clit to make yourself come with your man. Ideally, he should be going down on you/eating you out close to the point of climax for you (especially if he can't last too long), and then you can finish off by using your vibrator and him using his penis. You should be able to time it perfectly and climax together every time.

 

I generally last kind of long, so we use a mixture of techniques and positions so she can orgasm several times. If you use the vibrator while you both are having sex, I guarantee that you will be able to orgasm with your boyfriend.

 

Btw, STEP UP AND MAKE HIM GO DOWN ON YOU!!! Haha, jk, but not really! Seriously girl, you should not be giving your body to this guy if he's not going to love you in all ways. I guess I'm kind of being harsh, but * * * ?? Tell him to get down there...and have him start learning your body!

[april15]

You need to let him know this is a big deal to you. If he doesn't think of it as his problem, I don't think he is going to change. Tell him right after he is done and rolling over that you are not done and going to finish yourself. His reaction will tell you a lot about his mindset

[Robert Wilson]

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[annie24]

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