taurus21 Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Okay, this is embarrassing, but I'm in desperate need of help. I'm 19, and got my first boyfriend a month ago. I didn't date before then because of some issues throughout my teenage years (mostly anorexia, which killed my sex drive and social life at the time.) I have no problem with kissing and stuff. But I am COMPLETELY clueless what to do below the waist. Scenario: we're making out, things are getty hot. Shirts come off. The guy starts rubbing me between my legs. Or fingering me. He has an erection. What do I do next? How do I touch a penis? Do I rub it? Do I jerk him off? Give a blow job? I am so, so afraid of doing something stupid and possibly hurting him. OR just looking like an idiot. I really have NO idea what I'm doing down there!! Anyone who can help me with this, will earn a special place in my heart. Seriously. This is causing me so much anxiety right now. Thanks in advance for any advice. Link to comment
ariyadhana Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Just do an internet search for how to give a good blow job or how to give a good hand job (depending on what it is you want to start doing). I find though it just takes practice to build up your confidence. I think it is important to talk to your boyfriend though and maybe communicate to him that you are feeling insecure about your inexperience - besides he will know better than anyone what he likes and could give the best tips and maybe help you feel more comfortable and at ease. Link to comment
yeawutever Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Basically you just get a hold of his penis with one hand (well me I did it when he had his shorts on, can't grab that thing without the shorts) and start pulling it up and down. It's like a jello. Link to comment
heatheRmal Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Pretty much what Ailec said. If he's a verbal kinda guy he'll tell you to go faster or slower, or he might guide your hand at first, or maybe he'll get you to figure it out yourself. If you just explore you'll get used to it and.. well.. practice makes perfect. And in this case the practice is fun Haha And oohh do I ever know what you mean by losing your sex drive because of an eating disorder Link to comment
doyathink Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 IT'S LIKE JELLO AILEC? LOL Maybe ask your man what he prefers.....tell him you dont know what he likes Link to comment
Dako Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Be gentle!!!! Don't be in a hurry, just get to know him. No honking or yanking, because he has feelings, you know. Treat him like a pet mouse for a while. Talk to him and stroke him like a puppy. Watch his owner for clues, and if his eyes are shut or dreamy, you're doing fine. Your bf can guide you. Just don't get too rough with your nails. Lucky him! Link to comment
taurus21 Posted November 10, 2006 Author Share Posted November 10, 2006 Wow, thank you for the fast replies! So I should start the up and down motion right away? Just reach my hand down there and start going? For how long? Link to comment
doyathink Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 ROFLMAO!.... ^ Dakos the man.... Link to comment
sheep Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 For how long? till he throws up Link to comment
doyathink Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 or passes out...thats what I do anyway... Link to comment
heatheRmal Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Haha oh my Dako youre hillarious XD "For how long?"; till hes done.. till you want to stop.. till he says to stop.. depends on the situation i suppose Link to comment
forza2 Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 It's like a jello. LOL lol, never heard that one before. I've got one, and trust me its not like a Jello. lol Link to comment
quietgrl Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 LOL lol, never heard that one before. I've got one, and trust me its not like a Jello. lol Forza, hey stop talking dirty. Link to comment
forza2 Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Forza, hey stop talking dirty. LOL, sorry its just funny, I'm still laughing LOL Jello, lol Link to comment
heatheRmal Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 LOL OMG I DIDNT SEE THE JELLO PART TILL NOW! That was priceless If I ever thought of it as jello.. it'd end up in a blood bath... Don't ever think of it as jello if you absolutely love squishing jello in your teeth! EVER! Hahaha owwww Link to comment
quietgrl Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 LOL, sorry its just funny, I'm still laughing LOL Jello, lol Hey i wouldn't know if a man's penis felt like jello so whatever. Link to comment
forza2 Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Hey i wouldn't know if a man's penis felt like jello so whatever. That's the last thing on earth a Penis will feel like. Actually no, it never feels like Jello lol A friend suggested "Sponge" Link to comment
doyathink Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 yes, when its soft...it feels like a sponge.... Link to comment
forza2 Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 yes, when its soft...it feels like a sponge.... I didn't say it doesn't. Link to comment
quietgrl Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 That's the last thing on earth a Penis will feel like. Actually no, it never feels like Jello lol A friend suggested "Sponge" forza, I'm a virgin that hasn't touch a man's body or seen a naked man body with her own eyes (video only) so jello,sponge,silcone,rubber.Whatever Link to comment
sparkle1 Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Ok Ok can we stop the jello thing now!?!? A mans penis should be treated with the same respect we expect for our vaginas! They are not toys or playthings and are crammed with nerves. You give a bad hand job and i've been told there is nothing worse!! i think they do take a while to get used to and each penis is different. But for gods sake (and his penis's) don't just 'pull it up and down!!" when you 1st touch it, it will feel weird as its a new experience...but it is soooo smooth! gentle move your hand, i would start at getting your hand used to the feel of it first and just play with it. I was given a good tip once (women never know how soft or hard to hold on) "hold it like you are holding a glass" not to hard and not to soft. Enjoy the experience! i love willies!! Sparkle aka - willy lover...!! Link to comment
Dako Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Sparkle, I applaud you on behalf of my gender. Link to comment
quietgrl Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Well my experinece a man's penis feel like silcone not jello. Link to comment
doyathink Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 If you 'pull' up and down,....your going to see him get up and RUN! There is no 'pulling' anything. Instead, your 'sliding' your hand up and down, using a small amount of squeezing/ pressure.... Link to comment
holyohio Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Two things: -Lubricate your hand somehow. It's not too terribly comfortable if there is too much friction. Licking the palm of your hand works well...and + bonus sexy points if you do it making eye contact with him with a seductive look in your eye. Otherwise, it chafes. -Be gentle, but don't pretend like its made of glass. The worst hand jobs in the world are from girls who are afraid they are going to break my * * * *. Be firm with the penis shaft all you want, its hard to hurt here unless its due to friction burns --- be more gentle with the testicles. That's where you can really cause some pain. Make all your movements in this area slow and deliberate and look at him to gauge his reaction. Link to comment
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