Choose2bHappy Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 I'll make this comment short. I had a frightful thought about my ex fiance today. He's very good looking and women have the tendency of handing him their phone numbers. Even though he was convinced to stay away from relationships for a very long time, I imagined him having casual flirting/sex with someone else. OUCH! But then I realized that it's safer for me to think about these things now that we're no longer together than to have these crazy thoughts everyday while we were a couple. Sure it hurts to think about it but it's not my concern anymore. Anyway he's the ultimate jealous type so I know he has already imagined me being with someone else - his mind has driven him off the edge! That's all. Link to comment
Dako Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 It's hard to think of that situation, but it's only natural. I know my ex has a friend. I'm happy for her. Link to comment
TheRedQueen Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 Right now I'm imagining my ex having sex, and I'm feeling...nothing. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 Yeah, I've thought of that too. It has probably happened already. I know that man too well. All it makes me feel is sad. Sex ain't the answer. I'd rather hurt more deeply by knowing he has a new flame, not a new lay. sheesh, i am jaded. Link to comment
Shadows Light Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 Thoughts of my "X" with someone else??? Couldn't be that lucky! lol.. my "X" has a "FRIEND"... and nothing. I feel nothing. Good for him I say. Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 Thinking of an ex being with someone else can be a depressing thought, esp if you have no one in your life or have a budding relationship that hasnt developed into anything yet. Life is strange. Link to comment
JoeWho Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 I just try not to think about it mostly unless I am missing her and then I think about it and get very negitive feeling torwards her. I already know way more than I want to. It is getting better a little bit at a time though and I am sure eventually I wont care or get angry about it at all. Cant wait for that day. Link to comment
Deserted1 Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 How odd this thread came up tonight, for some reason today I have been thinking about the ex being intimate with her new b/f. It's still really bothers me, and it's been over 4 months since the break, with 2 months of NC. I was her first partner, so that prob has something to do with it. When will these thoughts stop? I've been trying to let things go, but Ughhh!!! ](*,) Link to comment
Dako Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 We can all think of a slightly different scenario, one that involves us with a new partner. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 Dako, I try not to go there as the ....uhh...sexual frustration then takes over with new problems to deal with. That's a whole other topic, isn't it? Or is it....maybe if we were sezully satisfied we would not be thinking of them doing the deed? I'll just focus on baby kittens now. Link to comment
Dako Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 I'm about to roll from my desk chair to my air mattreass on the floor. Quite alone. I'll have to imagine her. Night Link to comment
GreatGuy Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 Ahaha, I wish her all the best! I trully do!! Link to comment
hulk7280 Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 I just try not to think about it mostly unless I am missing her and then I think about it and get very negitive feeling torwards her. I already know way more than I want to. It is getting better a little bit at a time though and I am sure eventually I wont care or get angry about it at all. Cant wait for that day. yes i cant wait for that day.. when i just dont care anymore!! Link to comment
coyote1980 Posted September 29, 2008 Share Posted September 29, 2008 hey that's totally natural! hell, I heard that my ex from like 6-7years ago is getting married this year. It was still shocking for me! Link to comment
cat_lady Posted September 29, 2008 Share Posted September 29, 2008 This would have killed me before, but now I actually feel sorry for her or whoever she will be... poor girl. She'll probably be younger than him too so she'll be completely charmed by his chivalry for a couple of months and the BAM get hit in the face by a truck carrying all his emotional baggage :splat: Link to comment
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