law4life Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Hello, I am a full-time junior in college, a single mother, and a paralegal. I have recently been placed in a horrible situation by the guy I have known for two years, that has me in a total state of shock. It took him 1yr and 6mo. before I would sleep with him. After going through all of the bonding, and courting. We made love, for the first time in April. My grandfather whom was also my father figure passed away in April as well. The emotional tie I had with the man I am pregnant by grew even stronger after I lost the most important person in my life. This man went as far as telling me he was going to adopt my two oldest sons. He was supposed to be going back in the military and I was going to be a military wife. I was willing to give up my goals for a while to follow his. Well, we had a heart-to-heart one evening, he told me he is married!!! Not only that, two weeks later he told me he has another woman pregnant (whom is not his wife). I was like, speechless to say the least. To this day, I go from okay, to being in a complete emotional rage with him. I contemplated not having this child just to get rid of him, it is so hard, I never want to see him again, and I am carrying his child. To think the man I loved and trusted could lie and betray so many people, not just me. He is currently still dating other women to top it off, now he feels as though he has "cleaned out his closet" he is being honest about everything else. For God's sake, this man is a real work of art. I am 15wks pregnant, he wont cut my grass, or help me with anything else. After my being so picky about men, I fell pregnant by the biggest looser. Go figure. I am keeping the baby, as soon as I give birth my boss is walking the child support motion over the the court. He will pay one way or another, and yes, I became quite the researcher, and called his house, and informed his wife I was pregnant. She didnt care, seems he has brought 3 other children into the world with other women since he has been married to her. Go figure Link to comment
BornToResist Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Oh my god!!! I am sooo sorry you are going through that, it is terrible!! I can't believe that he would put so much effort into your relationship and then hurt you so badly. That is apalling. I am 4 months pregnant and have a lot of trouble with the father of my baby too, so you aren't alone. But honestly honey, this sucks. Are you willing to raise this child without him? It sounds like you are already a strong single mother so I'm sure you have plenty of experience and will be okay, but it has to be so scary. There are horrible people everywhere and it sucks that he hid under his "good guy" mask for so long. At least you do know and are not in the dark, so you can rid yourself of him sooner than later. I wish you luck and keep your head up! Link to comment
law4life Posted September 13, 2006 Author Share Posted September 13, 2006 I am sorry you are going through things too, I know we are not alone, there are many people hurt, betrayed, etc. whom trusted the wrong person at some point in their lives. I wish you and you baby the best. When are you due? Link to comment
Ipso Fracto Man Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 It's hard to know what to say in the face of such shocking callousness. I'm truly sorry to read of your betrayal by someone you thought you knew and could trust. Please remember that he and his type do not represent all men. Persevere and be well. Link to comment
friscodj Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Well, first things first here, regardless of the circumstances, you are going to be bringing a child into this world and that is a gift. Just because his dad was a piece of without any semblance of sense who you without , doesn't mean your son or daughter won't be an absolute gift to you... Yeah, this guy and his wife, Webster doesn't have words for that... Link to comment
justpaisley Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Oh, unbelievable. I am so sorry that you're going through this. What a tool that guy is, it's amazing that he could keep that mask on for such a long time. We're here for you, every step of the way! Including when you take that idiot for every penny he's worth - your baby WILL be taken care of! Link to comment
muffin cakes Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 I am so sorry to hear u are in this situation. I wish you the best with your pregnancy. Link to comment
southerngirl Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Oh wow, that guy sounds like he has no respect for anyone not even himself. I am so sorry that your going through this. Everythings gonna be alright, make sure you take him to court and get child support too! Link to comment
Dilly Posted September 13, 2006 Share Posted September 13, 2006 Good luck on getting child support. Sure hope he makes enough money to go around to all. What a mess. I wish you a very easy pregnancy. Link to comment
law4life Posted September 14, 2006 Author Share Posted September 14, 2006 I know most men are not this way, he is the first one I have had like this, what a shame, but all I can do is make the most of it, thank you for your response.. Link to comment
law4life Posted September 14, 2006 Author Share Posted September 14, 2006 Oh, unbelievable. I am so sorry that you're going through this. What a tool that guy is, it's amazing that he could keep that mask on for such a long time. We're here for you, every step of the way! Including when you take that idiot for every penny he's worth - your baby WILL be taken care of! Thank you sooo much, my family is very upset with me right now, it helps to have some support... Link to comment
law4life Posted September 14, 2006 Author Share Posted September 14, 2006 Oh wow, that guy sounds like he has no respect for anyone not even himself. I am so sorry that your going through this. Everythings gonna be alright, make sure you take him to court and get child support too! You bet he has no respect, but I do have one advantage, I am at court all the time with my job, so I will prepare my own documents for child support. Thank you so much for responding... Link to comment
law4life Posted September 14, 2006 Author Share Posted September 14, 2006 Good luck on getting child support. Sure hope he makes enough money to go around to all. What a mess. I wish you a very easy pregnancy. Thank you so much, the pregnancy is going very well so far, I hope it continues to be this way Link to comment
law4life Posted September 14, 2006 Author Share Posted September 14, 2006 Good luck on getting child support. Sure hope he makes enough money to go around to all. What a mess. I wish you a very easy pregnancy. Thank you, I wish you the best too!! Link to comment
law4life Posted September 14, 2006 Author Share Posted September 14, 2006 Good luck on getting child support. Sure hope he makes enough money to go around to all. What a mess. I wish you a very easy pregnancy. Yea, I know. I think he may have to get another job. Link to comment
law4life Posted September 14, 2006 Author Share Posted September 14, 2006 Oh wow, that guy sounds like he has no respect for anyone not even himself. I am so sorry that your going through this. Everythings gonna be alright, make sure you take him to court and get child support too! thank you soo much Link to comment
law4life Posted September 14, 2006 Author Share Posted September 14, 2006 Thank you all, so much, I never expected such support and understanding. I feel a lot better now. Link to comment
Relationship Coach Posted September 14, 2006 Share Posted September 14, 2006 This guy needs a long deployment in a real hot zone! I can't believe that he lied, cheated on his wife and then can't be a man and take responsibility for what he has done. You have my deepest sympathy. RC Link to comment
maasikus Posted September 15, 2006 Share Posted September 15, 2006 And I am going to say something mean...make sure you extract all his $$$ in child support that he would never ever sleep with anyone ever again.... Good luck wiith the baby. I am sure you will be blessed with joy Link to comment
Hope75 Posted September 16, 2006 Share Posted September 16, 2006 I am so very sorry that you were betrayed this way. I can't imagine how shocked and angry you must have felt when you found this out. Hang in there- do you have any support from your family and friends? Link to comment
law4life Posted September 17, 2006 Author Share Posted September 17, 2006 A little, not too much, it is hard for them to understand how I could get into a situation like this. I have to admit, it is hard for me to accept to. I am unaturally angry with him. To the point where I can't sleep sometimes just out of anger with him. Link to comment
law4life Posted September 17, 2006 Author Share Posted September 17, 2006 Yea, but once his lies started coming out, he decided not to go back for some reason. I am starting to think that was one of his many lies to keep me off track from the truth, you know? Link to comment
AdriSnow Posted September 24, 2006 Share Posted September 24, 2006 thats * * * *ed uppp Link to comment
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