rachel1256 Posted June 22, 2006 Share Posted June 22, 2006 I had originally posted a long post, but deleted it. I just wanted to say I have not contacted my ex, doing much better, and I have a date tomorrow with someone new who seems so very nice. I thank you all for your responses Link to comment
yeawutever Posted June 22, 2006 Share Posted June 22, 2006 Good for ya!!!!!!!!!!!!! Luck good on it!!!!!! Link to comment
Sad_now Posted June 23, 2006 Share Posted June 23, 2006 Hi Rachel, Just wanted to say well done. And stay strong. XX Link to comment
yeawutever Posted June 26, 2006 Share Posted June 26, 2006 Let us know how it went, update us!!!!!!!!! Link to comment
rachel1256 Posted June 27, 2006 Author Share Posted June 27, 2006 Sorry it took a while to reply, but the date went very well! He kept me laughing the whole time. I could tell there was something special about him, and not just because we were both on our best behavior. He had a genuine sense of humor, yet not overkill. He opened all my doors for me, let me go first, real gentleman... He's definatley different from my ex, not that I want to compare, but he makes me laugh, he's considerate, and he he is family oriented which I think is super! I haven't laughed genuinley in SO long. He's taking me out to this nice sushi place near the coast tomorrow! Im super excited. He was telling me that he can't wait, "great food, great girl, is it wednesday yet?" I was flattered when he said that, because I never got complimented like that with my ex. I'll let you all know how it goes. Link to comment
annie24 Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 that sounds wonderful! I am glad things are going so much better with this guy. It sounds like the way things should be! keep us posted! Link to comment
Sad_now Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 Hi Rachel, It's what you deserve...I hope this is for keeps. All the best - I'm going away on a MUCH-NEEDED holiday for 2 weeks. Will look you up when I get back. XX May you always be this happy! Link to comment
Scout Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 Rachel, I'm really proud of you. Seriously, you are doing so wonderfully here, and it's a relief to see that you're putting yourself and your feelings first after so long. Stay strong, because it's really worth it in the end to do so. Link to comment
kellbell Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 That's awesome news Rachel. I am so happy for you. Keep us updated! Link to comment
rachel1256 Posted June 27, 2006 Author Share Posted June 27, 2006 Will do! Thanks for ALL the support. Link to comment
Relationship Coach Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 Rachel, You are a shinning example of how taking the right steps to get out of an abusive relationship can really work! I'm so happy for you and thanks for keeping us posted. It's really amazing how clear the picture can get once you have an open mind to listening to others stories. Now you can help others by sharing your stories while reinforcing your own new found strength! RC Link to comment
Scout Posted June 27, 2006 Share Posted June 27, 2006 Rachel, You are a shinning example of how taking the right steps to get out of an abusive relationship can really work! Absolutely. I am going to start directing victims of abuse to your thread. I know you're not completely out of the woods yet, but darn close. You'll have "waves" of regret/missing him/anger/insecurity, but those waves do go away fairly soon, and eventually, they'll come fewer and further between until one day, they're permanently GONE. Link to comment
rachel1256 Posted June 27, 2006 Author Share Posted June 27, 2006 This is very true. It just takes the strength of maintaining NC, and not letting what they do get to you. My ex, and especially in the cases of abusive ex's, will do MANY things to hurt you, whether on purpose, or simply because they never cared in the first place, but those are the things you just have to let go. I found that not looking at his profile on the dating sight, as well as blocking him from my email helped so much. Link to comment
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